You are right, of course. I agree with Britexpat that Charmed should admire the courage and committment that her parents showed.. it couldn't have been an easy decision and they have lived up to that in raising their children and standing by each other. That sort of dedication- despite the odds- is very rare these days.
This brought to mind Mr Paul's post about clash of religion and cultures in marriage.. I think we don't appreciate (even with the best will in the world) how much our actions when we are young will effect our children as they grow.
Charmed- Your father has been man enough to keep visiting his parents despite their feelings towards his wife.. and he has stood by his children. Again, that sort of man is hard to come by and shows patience and tolerance that will no doubt have been a valuable part of your upbringing. It is sad that you are in this situation but you have 2 very strong and loving parents who appear to have done their best by you. We all make mistakes and maybe they should have told you.. who knows?
I can't speak from a Muslim point of view as Asforall has so well, but I would be questioning the attitudes of your grandparents who have refused to budge.
Best of luck with everything. I'm sure you'll work out what's best for You. You sound like you have a solid head on those young shoulders.. excellent parenting I would imagine;))
You are right, of course. I agree with Britexpat that Charmed should admire the courage and committment that her parents showed.. it couldn't have been an easy decision and they have lived up to that in raising their children and standing by each other. That sort of dedication- despite the odds- is very rare these days.
This brought to mind Mr Paul's post about clash of religion and cultures in marriage.. I think we don't appreciate (even with the best will in the world) how much our actions when we are young will effect our children as they grow.
Charmed- Your father has been man enough to keep visiting his parents despite their feelings towards his wife.. and he has stood by his children. Again, that sort of man is hard to come by and shows patience and tolerance that will no doubt have been a valuable part of your upbringing. It is sad that you are in this situation but you have 2 very strong and loving parents who appear to have done their best by you. We all make mistakes and maybe they should have told you.. who knows?
I can't speak from a Muslim point of view as Asforall has so well, but I would be questioning the attitudes of your grandparents who have refused to budge.
Best of luck with everything. I'm sure you'll work out what's best for You. You sound like you have a solid head on those young shoulders.. excellent parenting I would imagine;))