I asked before - how could he develop "love" for the second lady so quickly. Must have been a while then. That's cheating on the wife "for a while" already.

If he has only met her recently, is he sure this second lady is right for him ? Isn't it a bit hasty to talk about MARRIAGE ? Unless maybe a baby pending is part of the problem.

In the case of prostitution and one-night stands, it is cheating but in most cases, the man doesn't want long-term follow-up such as calling him on the phone or asking for allowance and gifts and definitely not marriage.

In your case, i would see it that you are still cheating your wife but assuming with a decent lady and then you are head over heels over this lady and talking about marriage. Big mistake. How real is this relationship ?

Hunk3 - you may escape the asking of permission and go marry the 2nd wife (because the religion does not require seeking permission), BUT you cannot escape facing her everyday - knowing that she is curious when you started dating secretly behind her back and asking herself whether she can find peace to live and share you with the 2nd wife (in the house, weekends, bed, etc).

Getting married is the easy part, living together after that is the tough part.