You say "I can tell you what is right and wrong but that doesnt mean I am doing it or commanding you to it."

surely, if you are putting yourself in a position of telling someone , then you should be practicing it...

If i may broaden this.. If your mentor, or your scholar friend "Abu Khadeeja" i think it is, gave you some advice on how to act in life, wouldn't you expect him to adhere to that as well?