'Go out dance and have fun dude'

Literally - positive energy attracts positive energy...
go out to hunt chicks and the desperado look takes over and we flee like gazelles in the savannah!

The times here when I have had to use a male friend as a human shield or just remove myself. I feel like I have a big target on my head.

Just have fun and fun will come to you.

This is exactly the right attitude.