think of even saying that to my wife, talking to another man? Don't know but being a husband is more than providing for the family or paying the expenses. If that is the case, women would marry bank accounts instead ...

Your woman is looking for your support, your love, understanding her emotionally, knowing how do she feels ... but asking her to talk to someone else?

Is he looking for a reason to do something in the near future? maybe soon? Got no idea as i'm not in his head but ... won't be ever happy with my wife seeking those things from another man while i'm supposed to be the one providing that ... If I can't, then there is really a problem and love may not be there anymore ...

just being honest here nothing more ... 

Do not dwell in the past, do not dream of the future, concentrate the mind on the present moment. (Gautama Buddha)