why can not people love independently ? once you find you can not leave any body,then you will be a burden to the man/woman,as wherever he go,what ever he do,he must consider your feeling then ....but if people can love independently,I mean have your own friends,have you own income,and do the most romantic things with your lover..actually it is not so seriously if somebody leave you,,.,I believe we will not die for such reason ,,,