but have also to disagree with you ... WE make love do that to us, but love it by itself? It is the purest and most beuatiful thing that a human can ever had ... that is why ... it is so painful but in the same time ... no one would do nothing or take the risk of falling in love ... Your love can be great, can be bad , can be anything else ... but WE are who make it this way ...

Do not dwell in the past, do not dream of the future, concentrate the mind on the present moment. (Gautama Buddha)