nadt you are very right! thank you for the reminder. All though I do feel I only clarified my position on this particular thread..

Although my intention was only to defend my character and clarify my position, I did argue and bicker on the other thread and that is not befitting a muslimah. 

And it is a big problem in the muslim community and one I was aware of from the beginning. May Allah forgive me for my sisn.. InshAllah alahumma ameen.