Well I didn't want to comment before because I thought it is a very personal issue.
I agree with all of what the posters have said above. I have lived in a multi cultural society and atmosphere since the day I was born. I am mixed myself with at least 3 different nationalities. All of which are very strong in my life.
I found within my own parents that difference of culture was a big problem. but also because at times they were not good people to each other and did not respect the other as they should.
My husband and I are multi cultural and even at a time I almost left Islam (which the sin for it is death as you may know) he was very supportive, understanding and sincere with me. I never felt threatened by him in any way. Although I don't think the marriage would have lasted had I completely left my faith at that time nor if I had never almost finished my doubts about Islam. (but I understand that because this is something he believes in very strongly.. just as being sincere to myself is something I am strong about)
My husbands mother has a very gujrati Indian mentality. She is in her 70's and although educated I would classify her as very very villagy. My husband is british, extremely reserved and holds on to the Indian ideals of no cursing. Which was very hard for me because I came from a cursing background.
Still with his patience and understanding.. and my patience and understanding we have developed a great relationship. Which I believe is because we share the same goals and ideals in life. And we both realize we are from different backgrounds and relish finding out something new about each other everyday. It keeps the spice in the marriage.
Personally I think having multicultural marriages is very difficult in general for people who may not be as open minded and understanding as yourself. If a muslim asks me to find a white girl for them I usually respond with saying you should marry someone who comes from a similar background and mentality.
Having said that, for those who are understanding of each other and share the same ideals in general then I think life can be extremely rewarding and a wonderful experience. As long as both parties are willing to keep the rights of the other person and not push their own personal beliefs down each others throat.
The trickiest part of such marriages really is raising the children. And I think this is where the couple needs alot of similarities or the willingness to accept each others opinons and way of raising the children.
Marriage is something that needs to be worked on together. 1 person cannot do it all alone!
Well I didn't want to comment before because I thought it is a very personal issue.
I agree with all of what the posters have said above. I have lived in a multi cultural society and atmosphere since the day I was born. I am mixed myself with at least 3 different nationalities. All of which are very strong in my life.
I found within my own parents that difference of culture was a big problem. but also because at times they were not good people to each other and did not respect the other as they should.
My husband and I are multi cultural and even at a time I almost left Islam (which the sin for it is death as you may know) he was very supportive, understanding and sincere with me. I never felt threatened by him in any way. Although I don't think the marriage would have lasted had I completely left my faith at that time nor if I had never almost finished my doubts about Islam. (but I understand that because this is something he believes in very strongly.. just as being sincere to myself is something I am strong about)
My husbands mother has a very gujrati Indian mentality. She is in her 70's and although educated I would classify her as very very villagy. My husband is british, extremely reserved and holds on to the Indian ideals of no cursing. Which was very hard for me because I came from a cursing background.
Still with his patience and understanding.. and my patience and understanding we have developed a great relationship. Which I believe is because we share the same goals and ideals in life. And we both realize we are from different backgrounds and relish finding out something new about each other everyday. It keeps the spice in the marriage.
Personally I think having multicultural marriages is very difficult in general for people who may not be as open minded and understanding as yourself. If a muslim asks me to find a white girl for them I usually respond with saying you should marry someone who comes from a similar background and mentality.
Having said that, for those who are understanding of each other and share the same ideals in general then I think life can be extremely rewarding and a wonderful experience. As long as both parties are willing to keep the rights of the other person and not push their own personal beliefs down each others throat.
The trickiest part of such marriages really is raising the children. And I think this is where the couple needs alot of similarities or the willingness to accept each others opinons and way of raising the children.
Marriage is something that needs to be worked on together. 1 person cannot do it all alone!