i know as what owen said that it should begin with me... but advices from others gave me enlightenment... sometimes when we are not in ourselves we see all the things around us negatively... there are times that we are tough and there are times that we loses hope and confidence... I read a book and it says that if the strategy that you are using in your life is not working anymore you need to find a new ways in running your life... and we can get the answers through advices. We have different battles in life different responses on how we are dealing to these situations. We have different points of view how we see life... and having a good conversation with others give us the feeling of realization that what we are doing is wrong and we need to take action to have changes... Thank you for all your advices...