............that could have written the exact same story.
I cant really give you any advice because we are still currently going through it. Some weeks are good, others are bad. The big picture stays the same though.
My wife has all the same concerns as you. If you want to talk I'll PM my wifes number. You need some company to at least be reassured that its not just you.

Humanity is simply a parade of fools....and im right at the front twirling the biggest baton anyones ever seen.