You said.............Matter of fact, its very disturbing if belief in fiery torment is the ONLY thing motivating you to do good!
i absolutely agree. I've met many Muslims who just do things 'by the book' because they are told to. They have no hearts, they are not kind and caring, but they are so scared of hell fire they'll do as they're told. Well if I was the all seeing all hearing all loving God, I would rather see someone like mother Therasa in heaven (who won't go there as she didn't convert to Islam and pray 5 times a day etc) than a Muslim who did everything he was ordered but had no compassion or care.