She wanted the baby before she was born and I wanted her after she was born. Her mother went straight back to work and didn't even want the baby in the same room as us. I slept in the spare room with the baby. How strange is that?

I was not that bothered about having children and now I think it is the only thing of real value that I have ever done. In retrospect I would have happily spent the first couple of years at home with the baby. I wish I had done that. Early childhood goes by so fast and it is such a wonderful privelege to be a part of.

I wish I could think of a solution to your dilemma but I don't think there is one unless one of you changes your mind.

Victory attained by violence is tantamount to a defeat, for it is momentary. Mahatma Gandhi