for me the basic problem is the tolerant people are used by others, to push forward unfair, intolerant ideas and behavour. Because we tolerant things, we dont push back immediately, we try to understand, to compremise to give the others room to move and breath.
The problem is, the radical thinkers in which ever sphere, use this against us, our very strength is also our very weakness. We as tolerant people shun violence, for us it is the last option, when at all an option. They know this and by the time we realise we are in a situation that is unacceptable we have little or no recourse other than a show of strength, in which ever form.