I have always been clear on that with my husband. I told him that if he ever feels the need to stray - tell me. I would rather he be honest with me then lie to me. Yes, it would hurt (especially after being together for 31 years - married for 24) and it would take time to heal. However, I know myself, in the end I would have respect for him for his honesty. I would do the same for him, if you don't have honesty in a relationship you pretty much have nothing. Just my humble opinion.

Lisa