You are suppose to fall in lov and then marry while its the other way round i.e u marry and then try to fall in love.

Usually its the mother and sisters of the man who look for their future daughter/sister in law. Since they know the habbits and likes /dislikes of their son/bro they have a better chance of finding someone suitable for him. They ask for the consent of the son before finally saying yes.Similarly the same goes for the girls side.Therefore it is not unusual that mums eye propective daughter and son in laws from amongst their relatives and friends. Hope it helps.