You are asking one of the most difficult questions to the extent that a person won't know his exact feelings until some changes/tragedies happen.

Now do not consider me old fashioned but there has been a theory which I wonder if it were discussed here or no. You might opt to start a new thread for that. So am doing a small hijack here.

The theory says: Marriage without love succeeds more than marriage with love. Am talking about conservative communities like us. BUT this does not apply to "arranged marriages". Guess am making myself confusing LOL.

Well. The thing is in case of marriage without love, love grows due to the partnership, daily life, sex, .... whatever.

Love before marriage mainly end up in disappointment coz the couple would have experienced and went thru many things. In the back of their minds, they are expecting something WOW after marriage. Had they been not creative and all the bla bla bla, love would fade and they might end up in seperation or whatever.

Now back to your topic.

I have found an interesting checklist/comparison table. My God looks like assessment of tender bids and making a short-list of suppliers/contrators LOL

http://www.womenspeak.com/rel_hapheal.php

regards