yeah, my existence is unpredictible. i am like a biscuits- "now you see me, now you dont". heheh..:)
yeah maxi, i agree with you. if we take that concept of "lie to not hurting"...there will be often a side effect for that.
but i am not encouraging people to lie, nor do i like to lie to people, because once we lie, we need to carry lieing throught the time. in parallel, we are carrying the sin too.
however, there are times when we have to lie but for the good intention. but i think, the concept of "lie to not hurting" cannot be implied to all circumstancial. we need to consider first the pros and cons in the outcomes for doing so.
for eg:
if telling a man that his son is having an accident, can cause this men to have heart attack and die...then i prefer not to tell it to him. (yeah, its better to lie than to "kill' someone...hehehe...even if one day he discover the truth, then got shock and die,....at least i am innocent, for thats how thing goes, it wasnt plan by me at all...... mmmwwahahah....*evil laugh*)
but:
as you said above, if the men is perhaps having a cancer and waiting to leave the world, (if i were the doctor) i would rather prefer to reveal the truth to his wife and chidren. because no point for me to lie. i lie or i dont lie, the situation is still the same-"he is dying"!
so above all, the concept of "lieing to not hurting" is very fluid to me. it depend more on the circumstancial, and measuring the pros and cons of doing it. because when we are in between of truth and lies, its sometimes hard for us to decide which one to choose.
if i cant control the situation as what happen in the second example, then i have to reveal the truth for it is beyond my hand. but if i think, through lieing could control for the good of the situation, then i prefer to lie. actually my intention was not laying, but to reach for the good one (Thumbs up)-had i given another option, then i wouldnt choose to lie. (see maxi, how houri is trying to defend herself here......hehehe.... but really maxi, i am serious...hehehe)
as our beloved prophet muhammad used to say:
"when you are in a middle of something that its very hard for you to decide, then choose the one which gives "less difficulties" in the outcomes..."
---------------where there is friendship, there is NO 'hurt feelings':)--------------------
hello maxi,
yeah, my existence is unpredictible. i am like a biscuits- "now you see me, now you dont". heheh..:)
yeah maxi, i agree with you. if we take that concept of "lie to not hurting"...there will be often a side effect for that.
but i am not encouraging people to lie, nor do i like to lie to people, because once we lie, we need to carry lieing throught the time. in parallel, we are carrying the sin too.
however, there are times when we have to lie but for the good intention. but i think, the concept of "lie to not hurting" cannot be implied to all circumstancial. we need to consider first the pros and cons in the outcomes for doing so.
for eg:
if telling a man that his son is having an accident, can cause this men to have heart attack and die...then i prefer not to tell it to him. (yeah, its better to lie than to "kill' someone...hehehe...even if one day he discover the truth, then got shock and die,....at least i am innocent, for thats how thing goes, it wasnt plan by me at all...... mmmwwahahah....*evil laugh*)
but:
as you said above, if the men is perhaps having a cancer and waiting to leave the world, (if i were the doctor) i would rather prefer to reveal the truth to his wife and chidren. because no point for me to lie. i lie or i dont lie, the situation is still the same-"he is dying"!
so above all, the concept of "lieing to not hurting" is very fluid to me. it depend more on the circumstancial, and measuring the pros and cons of doing it. because when we are in between of truth and lies, its sometimes hard for us to decide which one to choose.
if i cant control the situation as what happen in the second example, then i have to reveal the truth for it is beyond my hand. but if i think, through lieing could control for the good of the situation, then i prefer to lie. actually my intention was not laying, but to reach for the good one (Thumbs up)-had i given another option, then i wouldnt choose to lie. (see maxi, how houri is trying to defend herself here......hehehe.... but really maxi, i am serious...hehehe)
as our beloved prophet muhammad used to say:
"when you are in a middle of something that its very hard for you to decide, then choose the one which gives "less difficulties" in the outcomes..."
---------------where there is friendship, there is NO 'hurt feelings':)--------------------