First of all, these are great news and I'm really happy for you sister. Well I don't know about what would we argue about, but most of the problems would be just a misunderstanding. They say that problems or sometimes conflicts are a must and those are the seasoning or the flavor to life. That might be true, but less salt or more slat will make the meal impossible for everyone to eat or in the worst cases not happy with it. After the problems you should get more closer because everyone of you knows who much he/she loves the other and must've realized something after that issue. Conflicts sometimes would also let you know where are you standing and it would help you in giving new dimensions to your relation based on knowing things that you did not know before.
The kids can be a problem sometimes, when a couple got a kid the wife would go [without noticing or intends to do that because it is natural] to take care of the kid and somehow the husband would think that she is ignoring him. Well she can take care of both in the same time, but the husband should also understand that we have a kid now and should take care of him/her.
The work nature of both of them, if the wife working hours exceeds the husband’s one. That means he would be coming home first and finds no one and it might be a problem if this guy is not having his lunch with his office mates. Where is the lunch? Where is my wife? And these sort of things which are not a problem, but some will see it like that. My cousin is a nurse and he is married to a nurse too and he told me that sometimes they can’t see each other because of the working shifts in the hospital; I guess that it is kind of a problem but the fact of being in the same field helped them understand the situation and living with that while looking for alternatives.
The wife sometimes does not work and that can be a problem, the sleeping habits would differ sometimes and will create some problems. The husband wants to go to bed in a time where the wife believes that she wants to watch something on the TV or go out to have dinner sometimes.
Sharing the expense which is common these days according to life difficulties, the woman should not be part of that if the man earns good [in my opinion]. I believe if both of you love each other and she saw you in need or having difficulties, she won’t keep watching and will help you for sure. Just don’t push her or be obsessed with … what the hell is she doing with all of that money?
To avoid family problems, I guess that there should be kind of agreement between the husband and his wife. What is happening between me and you should be of our concern only, not your parents or even mine. I mean for the small problems and the daily life issues, you two are the best that can solve your issues so don’t include everyone in your personal problems. Unless the issue is serious and big, then including the family somehow and letting them know is a must.
Some men would be devoured by work and life problems and forget that he got a family and start thinking that his only mission is to provide for the family and forget about everything else. The kids want to go outside while the father is tired and wants to sleep. The wife wants to buy some stuff for the house and wants her husband to share her the experience, but he is asking her to go with her friends instead because he got some work to finish.
Women with driving license can also have some problems, the husband starts relying on his wife to drop the kids to school and picking them up again. Buying the home grocery and other things while he is out with his friends having fun. Whenever she wants to go somewhere or buy anything the answer would be: Where is your car? It is not about the transportation man, the woman sometimes wants your company and your presence there. Go to the malls and you will know what I’m talking about here.
Cleaning habits as some women can't let what she got in her hand until she is done, sometimes there are things much important than cleaning the house. There are priorities and I know that the house is the ladies kingdom and she wants her home to be always clean and shiny, there is no problem with that ... just we can delay that for a while sometimes, right?
Just keep in mind to appreciate everything that you two do to each other even the small things. Don't ignore what you can see as a simple problem, it may not be like that and say something like: She will probably get it, He is doing just fine ... guess that it is ok with him. This uncertainty while saying such words [probably-guess] means that you are not sure if it is ok or not and means ... you feel somehow that it might be a problem sooner or later. These kind of small problems are just like throwing small stones, imagine after few months or years what would those small stones do? It would become a mountain that can separate you both from each other and would be really difficult later to climb, even if you were able to make it in the end ... it will take time, effort and both of you would be really tired and in real pain.
I'm trying to talk in general here, if i will continue ... I don't know there are still a lot.
Wish you nothing, but happiness in your life Azzy ... may god bless you and grant you all your wishes and make it true, let the problems stay away from your life and let your life be full with joy and happiness.
First of all, these are great news and I'm really happy for you sister. Well I don't know about what would we argue about, but most of the problems would be just a misunderstanding. They say that problems or sometimes conflicts are a must and those are the seasoning or the flavor to life. That might be true, but less salt or more slat will make the meal impossible for everyone to eat or in the worst cases not happy with it. After the problems you should get more closer because everyone of you knows who much he/she loves the other and must've realized something after that issue. Conflicts sometimes would also let you know where are you standing and it would help you in giving new dimensions to your relation based on knowing things that you did not know before.
The kids can be a problem sometimes, when a couple got a kid the wife would go [without noticing or intends to do that because it is natural] to take care of the kid and somehow the husband would think that she is ignoring him. Well she can take care of both in the same time, but the husband should also understand that we have a kid now and should take care of him/her.
The work nature of both of them, if the wife working hours exceeds the husband’s one. That means he would be coming home first and finds no one and it might be a problem if this guy is not having his lunch with his office mates. Where is the lunch? Where is my wife? And these sort of things which are not a problem, but some will see it like that. My cousin is a nurse and he is married to a nurse too and he told me that sometimes they can’t see each other because of the working shifts in the hospital; I guess that it is kind of a problem but the fact of being in the same field helped them understand the situation and living with that while looking for alternatives.
The wife sometimes does not work and that can be a problem, the sleeping habits would differ sometimes and will create some problems. The husband wants to go to bed in a time where the wife believes that she wants to watch something on the TV or go out to have dinner sometimes.
Sharing the expense which is common these days according to life difficulties, the woman should not be part of that if the man earns good [in my opinion]. I believe if both of you love each other and she saw you in need or having difficulties, she won’t keep watching and will help you for sure. Just don’t push her or be obsessed with … what the hell is she doing with all of that money?
To avoid family problems, I guess that there should be kind of agreement between the husband and his wife. What is happening between me and you should be of our concern only, not your parents or even mine. I mean for the small problems and the daily life issues, you two are the best that can solve your issues so don’t include everyone in your personal problems. Unless the issue is serious and big, then including the family somehow and letting them know is a must.
Some men would be devoured by work and life problems and forget that he got a family and start thinking that his only mission is to provide for the family and forget about everything else. The kids want to go outside while the father is tired and wants to sleep. The wife wants to buy some stuff for the house and wants her husband to share her the experience, but he is asking her to go with her friends instead because he got some work to finish.
Women with driving license can also have some problems, the husband starts relying on his wife to drop the kids to school and picking them up again. Buying the home grocery and other things while he is out with his friends having fun. Whenever she wants to go somewhere or buy anything the answer would be: Where is your car? It is not about the transportation man, the woman sometimes wants your company and your presence there. Go to the malls and you will know what I’m talking about here.
Cleaning habits as some women can't let what she got in her hand until she is done, sometimes there are things much important than cleaning the house. There are priorities and I know that the house is the ladies kingdom and she wants her home to be always clean and shiny, there is no problem with that ... just we can delay that for a while sometimes, right?
Just keep in mind to appreciate everything that you two do to each other even the small things. Don't ignore what you can see as a simple problem, it may not be like that and say something like: She will probably get it, He is doing just fine ... guess that it is ok with him. This uncertainty while saying such words [probably-guess] means that you are not sure if it is ok or not and means ... you feel somehow that it might be a problem sooner or later. These kind of small problems are just like throwing small stones, imagine after few months or years what would those small stones do? It would become a mountain that can separate you both from each other and would be really difficult later to climb, even if you were able to make it in the end ... it will take time, effort and both of you would be really tired and in real pain.
I'm trying to talk in general here, if i will continue ... I don't know there are still a lot.
Wish you nothing, but happiness in your life Azzy ... may god bless you and grant you all your wishes and make it true, let the problems stay away from your life and let your life be full with joy and happiness.
Best Regards