I really enjoyed your insightful comments and think they are excellent reminders... but just a little bit I didn't agree with:
'Call me old-fashioned but I have noticed marriages are healthier when the wife lets the husband lead, be the head of the house and when the husband cares for his wife more than he cares for himself.'
I don't call you old fashioned at all, if it works for you then great, but I think that statement is very culturally subjective. I have definately seen things work both ways. In fact a couple i know after 23 years of marriage still have that sparkle of love in their eyes. The husband is man enough to know when to defer issues to his wife. It is done tacitly of deep knowing of their strengths and weaknesses. They are a cool couple and they clearly adore each other.
I think it is a matter of knowing what each member of the realtionshsip does better and sharing or asking for help or graceful relinquishing control - not one being submissive to 'the head of the house'. For me no-one person can be 'head of the house' because they no-one is 100% perfect. But I am talking about Western relationships where our ideal is to share and not take given roles.
As I say - if it works for you and you are happy thats fine.
I really enjoyed your insightful comments and think they are excellent reminders... but just a little bit I didn't agree with:
'Call me old-fashioned but I have noticed marriages are healthier when the wife lets the husband lead, be the head of the house and when the husband cares for his wife more than he cares for himself.'
I don't call you old fashioned at all, if it works for you then great, but I think that statement is very culturally subjective. I have definately seen things work both ways. In fact a couple i know after 23 years of marriage still have that sparkle of love in their eyes. The husband is man enough to know when to defer issues to his wife. It is done tacitly of deep knowing of their strengths and weaknesses. They are a cool couple and they clearly adore each other.
I think it is a matter of knowing what each member of the realtionshsip does better and sharing or asking for help or graceful relinquishing control - not one being submissive to 'the head of the house'. For me no-one person can be 'head of the house' because they no-one is 100% perfect. But I am talking about Western relationships where our ideal is to share and not take given roles.
As I say - if it works for you and you are happy thats fine.