Then as your wife is a Harvard educated novelist she will no doubt understand the subtleties of language and should be able to explain to you, in simple, clear language that you might be able understand that you actually failed to understand the difference between my taking at face value your comments, and your incorrect accusation that I 'assumed' something about you, which I did not.

Again, I simply took at face value something that *you* said. And tried to be helpful by pointing out that if you didn't have children and you didn't like your wife to work then it's likely she would be bored.

And in response for me taking the time to point that out and also to ask what your wife wants to do, which after all is relevant to the issue, you made that incorrect assumption and you've done nothing since then but patronise and attack in a passive aggressive fashion.

You come to a forum, ask for advice, and then when people actually take the time to respond to you, you reply to them in an aggressive and rude fashion. I hope I don't have the misfortune to meet you in person. You're really not my cup of tea. Old bean.