Stevieo, I told you, I'm not angry. I'm just a pedant.
And Stevieo, I'm correcting you again.
Don't tell me what I was or wasn't doing. I know exactly what I was doing. I was correcting you.
You told me that I made an assumption about you. I corrected that, because that was not true.
I told you that I hadn't made an assumption about you, I had simply taken what *you* had said about you liking your wife not to work at face value, i.e. that it was your wishes.
And again, your assumption that it paints an unflattering picture of me, well, that's your assumption. Again. For someone who originally criticised what he mistakenly misunderstood to be an assumption on my part, you're doing a heck of a lot of assuming yourself.
I totally accept that it's your wife's choice, if indeed it is. But that is not the picture you originally painted. In your original post you omitted to say it was your wife's choice, what she liked. You said it was what *you* liked. And again, for the sake of clarity and the avoidance of doubt, I'll quote you directly, verbatim: "Here's what i'd like to do: Have only me working (ie not my wife)".
Seriously, I was reassessing my opinion of you when you mentioned in your subsequent post that it was actually your wife's choice and you were supporting her in that. Perhaps he is a 'new man', I thought.
But since then you've patronised and made incorrect assumptions about my motivations. And now you're saying that I launched into an aggressive diatribe. Seriously, if I was launching into an aggressive diatribe, you would really have known about it. I have, actually, tried to engage with you in a calm, factual, reasonable and logical manner. You ought to try it some time.
How is pointing out that if you don't have children and if your wife doesn't work that she's going to be very bored, and wondering what she's going to do all day while you're at work an aggressive diatribe?
Since you mention the contents of other threads, you will have noticed that there's actually not that much to do in Doha except potter around the shopping malls. There aren't lots of museums or art galleries or theatres or other activities to keep a person entertained. The selection of books and music is more limited than back home. Most people make their entertainment through socialising, but if you're at work, your wife can't socialise with you during the day. And if you're at work and lots of other women who aren't working socialise around their children's activities, then I think it was entirely reasonable of me to point out that your wife might be bored if you don't have children and she wasn't working.
That's all factual, logical, reasonable.
It wasn't an aggressive diatribe at all.
And I really don't want or need your pity or your platitudes. Honestly. And I take them to be passive aggressive comments on your part. I've already told you that I don't want your hugs. So by continuing in this vein, you're actually painting a rather unflattering picture of yourself of an aggressive boor. Likewise the reference to anger again, when I've already told you I'm not angry. I just recognise that you're trying to needle me in a passive aggressive manner and I'm not rising to the bait. I'm actually finding your attempts to patronise and needle me rather amusing.
Stevieo, I told you, I'm not angry. I'm just a pedant.
And Stevieo, I'm correcting you again.
Don't tell me what I was or wasn't doing. I know exactly what I was doing. I was correcting you.
You told me that I made an assumption about you. I corrected that, because that was not true.
I told you that I hadn't made an assumption about you, I had simply taken what *you* had said about you liking your wife not to work at face value, i.e. that it was your wishes.
And again, your assumption that it paints an unflattering picture of me, well, that's your assumption. Again. For someone who originally criticised what he mistakenly misunderstood to be an assumption on my part, you're doing a heck of a lot of assuming yourself.
I totally accept that it's your wife's choice, if indeed it is. But that is not the picture you originally painted. In your original post you omitted to say it was your wife's choice, what she liked. You said it was what *you* liked. And again, for the sake of clarity and the avoidance of doubt, I'll quote you directly, verbatim: "Here's what i'd like to do: Have only me working (ie not my wife)".
Seriously, I was reassessing my opinion of you when you mentioned in your subsequent post that it was actually your wife's choice and you were supporting her in that. Perhaps he is a 'new man', I thought.
But since then you've patronised and made incorrect assumptions about my motivations. And now you're saying that I launched into an aggressive diatribe. Seriously, if I was launching into an aggressive diatribe, you would really have known about it. I have, actually, tried to engage with you in a calm, factual, reasonable and logical manner. You ought to try it some time.
How is pointing out that if you don't have children and if your wife doesn't work that she's going to be very bored, and wondering what she's going to do all day while you're at work an aggressive diatribe?
Since you mention the contents of other threads, you will have noticed that there's actually not that much to do in Doha except potter around the shopping malls. There aren't lots of museums or art galleries or theatres or other activities to keep a person entertained. The selection of books and music is more limited than back home. Most people make their entertainment through socialising, but if you're at work, your wife can't socialise with you during the day. And if you're at work and lots of other women who aren't working socialise around their children's activities, then I think it was entirely reasonable of me to point out that your wife might be bored if you don't have children and she wasn't working.
That's all factual, logical, reasonable.
It wasn't an aggressive diatribe at all.
And I really don't want or need your pity or your platitudes. Honestly. And I take them to be passive aggressive comments on your part. I've already told you that I don't want your hugs. So by continuing in this vein, you're actually painting a rather unflattering picture of yourself of an aggressive boor. Likewise the reference to anger again, when I've already told you I'm not angry. I just recognise that you're trying to needle me in a passive aggressive manner and I'm not rising to the bait. I'm actually finding your attempts to patronise and needle me rather amusing.
I pity your wife.