Just to thank you all for your replies. I really appreciate these, however, am about to throw the towel in. I've never had such an awful experience in my life and everyone 'senior' that i speak to here seems to just want me to take this lying down.
I gave up so much to work her and had such high hopes - but in truth all i am told/hear/see is that there is one rule for some people and another for the locals. Don't get me wrong, i've met a lot of nice Qatari's. I've no problem with them - but i guess i cannot fight this as unfortunately all the senior staff are Qatari males and they view me an english woman in a very odd way. So thank you once again - but I shall be returning to the UK hopefully very soon - where at least there are routes of recourse rather than living like this.