Then again, I've known quite a few muslim women who've been introduced to prospective suitors by their families, and the women have been able to meet and speak with them, basically, to 'interview' them for the 'job' of husband.

And they've been able to say no to ones they didn't feel a connection with or who seemed unsuitable in some way.

And they've said yes and married the one they liked, who were 'successful at interview', and the marriages have worked out.