But how can u tolerate someone u don't love? If u don't love a person than it'll be way easier for u to walk away at the slighest problem u face. Love is very important for a successful marriage, but it's not the only ingredient needed. And why do u make reality seem so grim? There is love in this world...it might be rare...but it's there...I would rather not get married at all then marry someone I'm not in love with.