I do think it is contradictory. I was raised in the US but then went to school in England at age 13. The school was a boarding school and although it was for both sexes most of the boys had never socialized with girls before and they didn't know how to behave. Boys bonded well with boys (sometimes in a homosexual way)but were clueless around girls. They either fell irretreviably in love with them or saw them as sex objects (see the parallel?). I think segregation of the sexes has this effect on male behavior. Ahmad made a similar observation in one of his posts.