You seem to have misunderstood me COMPLETLY.
I hate the idea of a second marriage let alone a third and fourth....i'm just trying to find justification if any to the greed and selfishness of men...
Read my last point carefully...i said it is NOT an islamic requirement to marry alot....infact it SHOULD be used in dire straits when their is no other option....in my opinion it is should not be a matter of whime and of personal fancy, but rather a nessecity to avoid adultry.....

then again i must beleive that our creator knows those whom he created inside out....I have faith

I do not on the other hand have "expert comments" on either subjects you asked about....sorry....i'm not as well informed as you hoped i would be.
.lili.