Arab Culture?

Rip Cord
By Rip Cord

I saw something strange today but it seemed wrong in every culture. Maybe this woman over reacted and it is not typical of Arab culture.

Today picking up my kids I saw a girl hug another boy in her class, now bear in mind they are 5 years old. The boys mother who was there to pick him up starting shouting, la la la. (No, no, no)

When the mother of the girl asked what the problem was the Arab lady said it is not allowed her culture for boys and girls to touch. The western woman replied they are only children it dies no harm.

Now can my Arab friends confirm this is Arab culture or was this woman being extreme?

By MarcoNandoz-01• 25 Sep 2013 12:54
MarcoNandoz-01

Dont start a discussion with a "idiot",. The will drag you down to their level and beat you on experience,.

But if you allow it I will toss out this part (troll" them ;) and write put this (just ignore them)

Now this fits your size just perfectly.

By Rip Cord• 25 Sep 2013 12:53
Rip Cord

Enough replies everyone, I have my answer. This lady was just a bit of a weirdo and best to ignore her. (I pity her poor kids though)

By cracydutch• 25 Sep 2013 12:44
Rating: 2/5
cracydutch

little 5 year old boys and girls can not give a goodbye hug,.. but grownup men can sleep together legal in Qatar ;)

but when a opposite side sex friend stays over at my place (in the other bedroom) then it is illegal by law

the are against gays but the DO PROMOTE it more then in the west

40 labour workers in one trailer,no woman allowed,.what do you think what happens there if you didn't touch a female for upto 2 years.

HOW HYPOCRITE this place is ;)

you made my day.

By shihabashraf29• 25 Sep 2013 12:40
shihabashraf29

It's only that Arab lady will do....as I know, Arab ladies are not so selfish.....they can understand that nothing will be there in those kids's mind of just having a hug.....

By Molten Metal• 25 Sep 2013 10:52
Molten Metal

start having crush in the grade 1 , some QLers confessed it .....

By Sulieman• 23 Sep 2013 10:08
Sulieman

Rip Cord,,, I like your Positive way of thinking.

By Rip Cord• 23 Sep 2013 07:09
Rip Cord

I don't know why everyone is worrying about gays at the world cup in 2022 as Qatar is a gay paradise. YOu can walk the streets holding hands, kiss other men and hug them, sleep in the same room and just hang around with boys all the time and everyone will think it is perfectly normal.

By T_T• 23 Sep 2013 00:54
T_T

I'm arabian, lebanese and it's ok or more than ok also,there's difference between khaliji people and middle east people :D LOOL

By Sulieman• 22 Sep 2013 22:55
Sulieman

Marco ,, No, I used to finish my dish every time :p

BTW MODS ban Marco Bcs he posted weird nude pictures for a pervert Frog :/

By MarcoNandoz-01• 22 Sep 2013 22:40
MarcoNandoz-01

Suli:did he? DID HE?? *_*

By Sulieman• 22 Sep 2013 22:07
Sulieman

Marco ,,

My parents used to tell me

"Finish you dish or (Homo monster) will come to your dreams" :O(

By MarcoNandoz-01• 22 Sep 2013 21:49
MarcoNandoz-01

Stone Cold: Well, then I guess you're a a homophobe?

By Sulieman• 22 Sep 2013 21:28
Sulieman

Stone Cold,, Well, I do it and I don't feel gay

Maybe bcs I am not

Remember, it is not about what you Do, it is who you ARE

By nomerci• 22 Sep 2013 21:27
nomerci

Stone cold..then don't go to France :P

By Stone Cold• 22 Sep 2013 21:22
Stone Cold

and that kiss..kiss..kiss greetings makes me feels like a gay

By m3dad507• 22 Sep 2013 17:19
m3dad507

its definetly extreme i did not have this problem growing nor do i know anyone who has

By Mr M.• 21 Sep 2013 18:38
Mr M.

Some arab communities think it's ok,others do not.It's very diverse.

By MarcoNandoz-01• 20 Sep 2013 22:00
MarcoNandoz-01

RIP: Another uneducated post from a seemingly well-educated person

.

the fact that the Arab world stretches from Morocco across northern Africa and the African Sahara out all the way to the Persian Gulf it should be emphasized that there is no “one” Arab culture or society.

The Arab world is full of rich diverse and sometimes

( sometimes very fragmented ) communities.

So therefore what is acceptable in one Arab community might not be acceptable in another.

By soniya• 20 Sep 2013 20:57
soniya

Sulie has answered it...:))

By nomad_08• 20 Sep 2013 20:28
nomad_08

Illegal hugging? really? LOL!

By Rip Cord• 20 Sep 2013 19:45
Rip Cord

It's not the hugging that is illegal it is what else they do. Why does Qatar allow such open prostitution? It is beyond me.

However we are talking about five year olds giving a farewell hug not people selling sex

By mast kalandar• 20 Sep 2013 19:22
mast kalandar

Rip do you also approve and get involved in the illegal hugging's at the Radisson parking between adults

By Rip Cord• 20 Sep 2013 19:08
Rip Cord

If they were 12 I could more understand the mothers reservations, even though I still think she is wrong but these are innocent kids and she is giving them bad ideas

By zafirah• 20 Sep 2013 18:58
zafirah

such hypocrisy of some.

By AngelinaBallerina• 20 Sep 2013 17:09
AngelinaBallerina

Yep I agree...because hugging other boys is absolutely acceptable..!!As is kissing and holding hands......

By Rip Cord• 20 Sep 2013 16:38
Rip Cord

AB it was kinda normal where I grew up.

Yes each are individuals but I guess she should reappraise where she sends her son. Maybe a all boys school would be better. (When he can hug and kiss other boys and no one will think it is strange)

By AngelinaBallerina• 20 Sep 2013 16:35
AngelinaBallerina

Plus...if you don't want your children to mix....do not send them to schools that have mixed sex and mixed nationalities...It's quite simple really.....

By nomad_08• 20 Sep 2013 16:32
nomad_08

I think race has something to do with it since the little girl is an Arab and the little boy from the West.

By AngelinaBallerina• 20 Sep 2013 16:30
AngelinaBallerina

Unusual for 5 year olds to be hugging the other sex anyway!!!

I agree with the mother whatever culture....It's just weird!!!

By Sulieman• 20 Sep 2013 16:29
Sulieman

Rip Cord,, Actually I can't explain her attitude she is an individual As nomerci said.

For me in my childhood we were playing (boys and girls) in the yard till we became teenagers.

But people are different,, aren't they?

By nomerci• 20 Sep 2013 16:23
nomerci

Well rip, I guess you'd have to say that there are some rather weird individuals in this world....it's unfortunate though that kids have to learn this so very early.

By Rip Cord• 20 Sep 2013 16:16
Rip Cord

Sulieman thanks for an Arab answer. I didn't think it was Arab culture to stop two 5 year olds hugging, it must just be this woman's perverse idea of gender roles.

I feel sorry for the mother who has to try and explain why some crazy lady started shouting out them. How do you explain something so absurd?

By Sulieman• 20 Sep 2013 16:06
Sulieman

With respect to all, None of you is Arab

So

Q: Now can my Arab friends confirm this is Arab culture or was this woman being extreme?

A: Assuming the story is for real, she is being extreme, it is not the Arab culture

Come on they are only 5 years old, and didn't do something needs that reaction.

But finally, your children, and you are free to raise them in your way.

By nomerci• 20 Sep 2013 15:56
nomerci

How about we look at each other as human beings.

We are all the same, want the same things, breathe the same air.

Why can't we be nice to each other? What is wrong with hugging and looking at each other? Why is it made out to be something dirty when it is only human?

By Palancole• 20 Sep 2013 14:32
Palancole

so you pick and choose whichever suits you, right? we are talking about hugging of two 5 yrs old kids for god's sake...not two adults who are unmarried.

By n1v9n• 20 Sep 2013 14:31
n1v9n

https://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=z2rL6NDoyKg

By BOXBE16DOBARA• 20 Sep 2013 14:13
BOXBE16DOBARA

We r not talking abt work or war here..abt mixing n hugging

By BOXBE16DOBARA• 20 Sep 2013 14:11
BOXBE16DOBARA

It seems ur not understanding..i leave it here itself...have a nice day

By Palancole• 20 Sep 2013 14:06
Palancole

BOXBE...really? Were you there living with him? So what happened in the battle fields when women were joining the fighters to give support. Was he always speaking behind a curtain in a desert? So when he went to buy stuff from the market or when he was dealing for Khadija as her employee, was he talking to women behind a curtain...man...go educate yourself. So what happened when he did his Hajj, was he always behind a curtain/barrier? Man, come out of the box. How do YOU talk to women in Qatar, to Filipina women at the shop in KFC, do you talk behind a barrier?

By BOXBE16DOBARA• 20 Sep 2013 14:04
BOXBE16DOBARA

Important s not whether im asian or arab...imp s i follow quran n sunnah which s the same for both asian n arab...btw im an asian born n qatar

By BOXBE16DOBARA• 20 Sep 2013 14:02
BOXBE16DOBARA

We r not talking abt equality here...it s abt mixing....equality is for both ofcourse..but mixing is not allowed...our rasool always had a barrier while talking to women...we should educate our kids wht quran and sunnah says so thy r aware about it...again i was not talking abt equality...get the diff between equality n mixing...:)

By Palancole• 20 Sep 2013 13:37
Palancole

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/fahad-faruqui/islam-gender-segregation_b_650180.html

Good read for those who want to think outside the box.

By Palancole• 20 Sep 2013 13:34
Palancole

When God Talks to Women, He Does so and when He Talks to the wives of the prophet He Does so in a clear language. If He Had Wanted, He Could Have Said it to all women.

What a hypocrisy that Arabs let non-marhram drives their wives, daughters. During the times of the prophet, most people were traders and there were markets..Don't come and tell me those women and men were not interacting with each other. Don't tell me all those women were always accompanied by a Mahram at that time. These are new stuff Saudis imposed on people. What God Said to women is to lower their gaze and cover them properly to protect them against the desires they may create unintentionally in men, which is human.

By Palancole• 20 Sep 2013 13:28
Palancole

I bet BOXBE wears his lungi and chappal and go to work...I bet he does not wear an underwear or wear socks or shoes....he does not say good morning, shake hands,he does not have a TV or uses any of the inventions coming from the west and I am sure he does not even speak the language of the western people...he is such a pure Asian.

Nomad_08...what you said is a point to reflect on.

BOXBE you are an extremist my dear. People like you throw mud on this beautiful religion of Islam. Show me one verse from the Holy Book imposing segregation of the sexes, show me just one single verse, not the interpretation of some perverted scholars. Don't come with some verses to generalise things.

By mast kalandar• 20 Sep 2013 13:02
mast kalandar

your right boxbe and most of the Asians will forget there own values but try to copy other western culture in there daily life just to show off people that they are very modernised

By BOXBE16DOBARA• 20 Sep 2013 12:29
BOXBE16DOBARA

Also what the mother did was good..No need to mix arab culture with western culture or western culture with arab culture...there are lot of differences in both the cultures

By nomad_08• 20 Sep 2013 12:23
nomad_08

Asians speaking for Arabs on Arab culture? LOL!!!

By BOXBE16DOBARA• 20 Sep 2013 12:20
Rating: 2/5
BOXBE16DOBARA

arab culture does not allow kissing of male and female...western culture does allow

Since the mother was an arab and according to her culture what she did was right...She did not break the norms of her culture

hats off to the mother...appreciate the mother who stopped her kid at such small age from going out of culture

By Rip Cord• 20 Sep 2013 12:14
Rip Cord

That mother is educated her boy to disrespect women from an early age.

By BOXBE16DOBARA• 20 Sep 2013 11:57
BOXBE16DOBARA

so school is no more an educational place...it is more of a hugging place

By nomerci• 20 Sep 2013 11:48
nomerci

This is how it all starts...:(

By Rip Cord• 20 Sep 2013 10:28
Rip Cord

Well the conservative mother shouldn't send her kid to a British school if she is not comfortable with the culture. Plenty of Arab ones to choose from. Shouting at five year olds is not on

By Prize• 20 Sep 2013 09:13
Prize

You are right when saying both the mothers are correct.

By Knight Returns• 20 Sep 2013 09:05
Knight Returns

Generally speaking, a problem with this civilization is people do things blindly in the name of culture and traditions and don't realise their implications in today's world. This is no more a closed society.

Also, advising children on their actions requires parents to explain things as to why actions are deemed right or wrong. Just shouting at them they were wrong without explanation will not satisfy the inquisitive mind of the child.

At 5 he is just too tender and innocent to understand whats wrong or right in this regard.

By nomad_08• 20 Sep 2013 08:18
nomad_08

People only becomes malicious when they become adults, children should be allowed to enjoy their innocence especially when interacting with fellow children.

By Molten Metal• 20 Sep 2013 05:59
Molten Metal

is a good stage to inculcate values ....

By Molten Metal• 20 Sep 2013 05:57
Molten Metal

difference is one looks up and other one down ....

By Molten Metal• 20 Sep 2013 05:56
Molten Metal

natural reaction from both the mothers .. !

By Palancole• 20 Sep 2013 03:24
Palancole

I agree with FathimaH as well.

By Palancole• 20 Sep 2013 03:23
Rating: 4/5
Palancole

RIP I wouldn't say ALL Arabs are like that. May be Gulf Arabs are more prone to be like that and kind of conservative too. However, I do agree about this early conditioning you mentioned. As a parent I always encourage my kids to make friends and interact with the opposite sex. I believe this is a cultural thing amongst them Arabs. May be she did not realise what impact this can have on the young minds. At least you did.

I am not Arab, but I interact a lot of them from different arab countries. The only arab I have not met here are Comorians. Otherwise I have met them all (not to be taken literally).

By Rip Cord• 20 Sep 2013 00:55
Rip Cord

Good point. Should be boys only school for her little one.

By FathimaH• 20 Sep 2013 00:38
FathimaH

You would be surprised at how childish some grown ups can be.. Trust me I have met far too many! And yes they pose as a real source of confusion to children. Cos had she really been of a culture against boys and girls getting physical in their play, then would she not have chosen to send her golden boy to a boys only school and not chosen co-Ed.

By Rip Cord• 20 Sep 2013 00:11
Rip Cord

I guess you all assume too much!

What can you have against a five year old?!?!

At that age all kids are innocent. Her behaviour confused both kids.

By FathimaH• 19 Sep 2013 23:45
FathimaH

assumed RC was single too..We are quite a presumptive bunch!

By FathimaH• 19 Sep 2013 23:42
Rating: 4/5
FathimaH

I wouldn't go so far as to assume it's the case with ALL Arabs. Maybe in certain societies and that too among certain families perhaps.I do know Arab kids who's parents have no such qualms. After all kids will be kids, innocent and playful, and there is a designated time and age for all lessons in life.

That said maybe the mother just didn't like this particular girl hugging her son for personal reasons and made culture as an excuse!

By Rip Cord• 19 Sep 2013 23:39
Rip Cord

Oh I see. I can't say I agree with it but at least I understand it is part of their conditioning now from a young age

By mohdata• 19 Sep 2013 23:37
mohdata

you have kids????..this changes everything..and yet it doesn't:-)..my comment doesn't mean a thing btw:-)

By Aalaa• 19 Sep 2013 23:02
Aalaa

Yes they are discouraged from a young age so they know it's wrong.

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