why the dowry system still exist in india
Dear Human rights team,
I dont wanna bring this to your picture but india is still suffering from the culture the ancestors has made , If a girl in india mosltly southern part has to get marry she has to pay a dowry of 20,000 US dollars minimum as a dowry to his groom even she is educated n good looking, I really got hurt when one of my driver who is earning 3-400 dollars per month as a taxi driver & he is worried about his sister because he has to pay that dowry ,can u just imagine how many years he has to work to earn this money & how many yaers his sister has to wait & work , I request to the human rights watch dog to consider this & force indain government to make this as a big crime for those who are paying dowry & who they are taking dowry.If u cant help us plz provide us the contact details to whom i can contact
I followed my duty as an indain by sending this information to the international human rights society , now its your time , we have to bring a revolution
As we know very well that india is the only countly providing maximum IT resources & BPO in the world eg 30-40% of indain are working in INTEL.MICROSOFT,HP & etc but why we are still following the old culture, TAke some time to think.
Please pardon me if i hurt someone feelings
JAI HIND.
thanks & regards,
the well wisher for humans Rights
If dowry is stopped who will marry a girl who is not beautiful and not educated???
If the girl have good education or beauty,then nobody goes to look for her wealth
even now.But the girls themselves want maximun gold at the time of marrige..
The only way is that girls need to get good education and try to stand in their foot by getting a job.
Marrige doesnt mean that men have to look after the woman the whole life.They need to earn together.
Nomansland, I dont think it's going to disappear, it can never. reason is that people who have wealth they share it with their daughters and wht's wrong in this???? Wrong is the demand and thats slightly changing for good, I think. bytheway it's always not true, THERE are plenty of people I know, who have not taken a single penny while their inlaws insisted to 'gift' things.
..and India is really big to find, always, different cultures, opposite to one another, at the same time. Do you know there are places where groom side has to bear the cost of marrige not the bride side. Depends on how you pick your take, and my dear friend you haven't pick a pleasant stuff, atleast in this forum. are you NGO kindaa Human right activist finding fault with everything which mainstream society does??
The indian government of the day should do something if its bad collectively. By vote and having the voice of majority, it can be done
now, marie...pls dont go by what your indian colleagues say about india....i know this still exists..but has reduced quite a lot as wk has said.
Ah Ok...I can see the revolution happening.
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Marie it has reduced but not eradicated.
"Live with passion, Die with style"
wk and rishimba, that was before...and times has changed. I hope some changes have been made with their way of thinking
...listen to the sound of silence....
That's kind of sad actually...
I come from a culture where we don't sell our agricultural land at any cost and people are selling land to come to Qatar??? Guess the agents must be living in great luxury back there..
"Live with passion, Die with style"
It is part of their culture...and it may take time for them to be get itn out of their system
i wanna be ....
whyteknight...Rubber grows on hilly area...away from city...but still 5 acre is lot of place....
But what is sad is the guy who marries this girl, instead of working on the property and doing something with it, will sell part of the land to pay some bloody agent to come to Gulf to work......then get stuck here for the rest of his life.....
The agent usually promises some nice fancy job...luxury apartments like pearl etc...then when the guy lands here he will be taken straight to some shared-with-8-person porta cabin in Industrial Area and no salary for 3 mths....crazy ...real crazy....
It would have been funny if it was not true.
First innovative step is to suggest at least our friends & relatives to avoid the dowry
5 Acres of Rubber plantation.. Hmmm maybe I should marry a mallu girl ;-)
"Live with passion, Die with style"
Its about Rs 900,000...not much...
All mallus have that much in Gold right now in their cupboards....
Most of the Indians you know...on QL off QL... here have Villas of Rs 3,000,000...some even laborers.
In Malabar area of Kerala they give 5acres of rubber plantation per girl.
In the North of India its a Alto+TV+Ref+gold Jewelery+Cash...
Dowry is distribution of the family wealth to the girl...ie her share....but most of the time the inlaws take it under their command.
But now a days the educated girls take all the money as Fixed deposits in their name etc.
but generally Dowry does put a lot of pressure on the girl's father.
But seriously there is an easy way to stop it. Just don't pay. The educated good looking ones will still get marriage proposals but it may be harder for the ugly smelly south Indian ones. Maybe this payment system works in their favor....
Do I get a discount if I buy more than one girl? If they are sisters is it buy one get one free?
greedy people always find ways to earn money one way or the other..legal or illegal...moral or immoral..twisting and distorting the systems..and taking undue advantage of it.
It's not just at the time of marriage but in some cases, throughout the married life boy's family keeps demanding from the girl's family. Greedy bastards...
"Live with passion, Die with style"
the dowry system dates back to the days when the girls were not sent to the school as the parents thought they would be just looking after the household.
the boy's father, on the other hand would spend a fortune to get him educated or setting up a business for him.
as dowry, he would expect a part of the expenses to be paid off by the girl's father as after marriage, the girl would be staying in a joint family with them.
considering the earlier set up, it was ok to some extent in arranged marriages...but look very ridiculous now as most of the girls are very well educated and in urban areas most marriages are not initiated by parents but by the pair itself.
It also exists in Qatar. If you want to marry a Qatari girl you have to 'buy' her from her parents. The price goes by beauty and education.
im back..........just ask a discount
i need $20K and a wife, where do i sign up?
@ nomansland,first of all,you've posted this in a completely irrelevant forum,but since you have posted it & have displayed your ignorance in the process by stating something as stupid as "If a girl in india mosltly southern part",it's essential that you get your facts right before posting,if you actually knew what you were talking about,dowry system is prevalant ALL over India...don't malign a certain section of the community by posting wrong, untrue information...please & thank you...
Yup your right black buller No need to Post this thing part of their culture
does it make sense to post it on QL ...after all this is qatar...why are you talking about india?
dear friend,dowry system not only south india.it is also in india,srilanka,nepal.ect...