Tom & Jerry
I have two kids aged 9(girl) and 5(boy). It's been some time I have noticed them getting bad to each other and sometimes hitting. I am unable to understand this. At many occassions I tried to make them understand, punished but nothing seems to work, the younger one is more naughty. Is this normal, if not then what should I do.
I would recommend getting out your video camera and secretly taping their violent activities. Play it back to them...they will have a good time. I am yet to hear of young siblings who follow Buddhism to the B. Fighting, mischief, rivalry are all part of growing up. Don't worry your head about it. They are doing just fine.
Assert yourself when things get too ugly (i.e. a mini blood-bath), else it is better to give them space to resolve their own issues between themselves. The younger one is naughtier because he is still too young to understand what right and wrong behaviour is all about.
Your 9 yr old most certainly has a higher degree of maturity and understanding. Plus, she's a girl...aren't most girls less violent than their brothers ;) And a 5 yr old boy isn't exactly supposed to be prince charming.
that you love them both thru words and action...sometimes second child are insecure or super confident by nature...just dont physically hurt them it will give them the impression that hurting is acceptable... children are more needs of models than of critics...
have u tried giving Cheese to Jerry ? :)
...has helped me understand my 5 year-old boy. I must stress though that motherhood is an ongoing learning experience; there is no fast rule that applies because all kids are unique. Your best tool will be your unconditional motherly love.
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"And maybe a happy ending doesn't include a guy, maybe... it's you, on your own, picking up the pieces and starting over, freeing yourself up for something better in the future..."
its normal my dear..keep on warning them to respect each other..
cheers..
I used to fight with my brother (4years younger)all the time till I went to hostel for my college studies. And the fights were not just verbal, it included hair pulling and sometimes punching as well. When I remember those days, I feel silly. But now, I can say that I share a very strong bond with my brother.
So just cool down. Its very normal. They will out grow this phase soon. Just make sure that they do not hurt each other.
"It is better to be hated for what you are than being loved for what you are not."