For the SINGLE guys/gals - How will you know when you're ready for a real, long-term relationship?

you said..."but now a days, girls are just as bad as guys... they all end up cheating"...would you be doing the same if your partner is away?

Maybe...just maybe, your best friend did not assure his girl enough? What I am trying to say is, how often did your friend call her, send her e-mails, send her SMS? These things might seem petty for some men but for their partner/girlfriend/fiance/wife (whatever), it meant a lot...

I've been in an LDR for more than 6 months and a simple text message from my man is enough reassurance...

Just my opinion...

My best friend went away for 6 months for work in Russia, when he came back, the fiancé was expecting a baby... they never had intercourse... go figure, she said she got lonely, meanwhile, he was spending no money, working crazy hours and staying home after work.... I feel bad for him, but now a days, girls are just as bad as guys... they all end up cheating

"Long term relationship can be part of the commitment, but never be a commitment. Two persons can be there in a long relation because both of them are enjoying the company, but when it comes to commitment stage because we need to know what would be the end of this ... someone will turn his/her back then for sure ...."

When I was about 19 I guess I met my first 'love'. We went out together for over a year and holidayed with his parents etc. One evening at a party someone asked me "are you going to marry Andrew". I hardly drew a breath as I blurted out "marry him? don't be so ridiculous!".

Unfortunately he was just outside the door of the room and heard me. I felt dreadful but, as much as I was sincerely fond of him, the last thing I wanted to do at that age was to get married and commit myself for life.

I understand what you mean, archer78. As I said before, I am generalizing with the teenage/young adult population. But if it really happens...your guess is good as mine.

Like you and everyone else, love is forever...but with love, comes trust that go along with honesty...and leave the rest to God? Ahmmm, God helps those who help themselves...but let's not go into religion...kinda delicate subject...

Cheers!!!

that's why i am saying: only TIME can show whether it is long or short term relationship...

It is not something imperical. U get drawn into it unknowingly. The problem today is that with so many dating and similar things going on u tend to get confused about ur feelings.

you will never know you or your partner are ready for the long-term relationship until YOU ARE IN the long-term relationship... only time shows how long your relationship lasts...

sometimes you think : Oh, this is for my life, forever.. and it ends in 2 months..

sometimes you think: it's good for 2-3 times, and you stay with the person for years...

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Hi Azilana,

I think U have raised one of the most important Topic. I feel what ever these things which is happening like one nightstands , bisexual , Group sexs its a evil part .

Love is forever which comes over all these ..The best way to judge a partner is to go around for couple of months then if U Really think he/she is good enough .Trust them leave rest to god .

I think when your partner gives u complete attention and care for you and make you feel the most special person on earth..i think thats the time your partner indicates that he/she is willing for long term relationship...but now days its too hard to find a sincere girl or a guy ....

...exclusivity.

But what would the commitment be? Are we talking monogamy, living together, engaged? What precisely is a commitment?

"I fight with love and I laugh with rage, you have to live light enough to see the humor and long enough to see some change." Ani Difranco

I always look at it that way...to keep a real, long-term relationship, there has to be a commitment somehow...to make it work.

Exactly, in fact I think that's the best part of a relationship, when you're together cause you want to be, not because you've made someone a commitment, and you're both happy with the way things are. This stage can last hours, days, weeks, months or years.

"I fight with love and I laugh with rage, you have to live light enough to see the humor and long enough to see some change." Ani Difranco

Long term relationship can be part of the commitment, but never be a commitment. Two persons can be there in a long relation because both of them are enjoying the company, but when it comes to commitment stage because we need to know what would be the end of this ... someone will turn his/her back then for sure ....

I don't agree, I think you can be in a relationship with someone for a long time and never make them a commitment.

"I fight with love and I laugh with rage, you have to live light enough to see the humor and long enough to see some change." Ani Difranco

being in a long term relationship IS A COMMITMENT.

DO u mean LOVE AT FIRST SIGHT !

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thats a nice way of defining commitment...i know someone around here who can relate to that ;-P

"...the sh%t you hear about me might be true. but then again it can be as fake as the biatch who told you..."

Commitment means...let temptation pass you by without giving in...

Then banging your head on the wall when the moment passes!!!

i kept staring on this topic...trying to look for an answer within me..but but but..nah i think i will pass on this one..;D

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deceive...........

Have you done your Search in QL for those topics? \

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None but ourselves can free our minds..

Here's a question though, does just being in a long term relationship imply a commitment? What is a commitment?

"I fight with love and I laugh with rage, you have to live light enough to see the humor and long enough to see some change." Ani Difranco

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Have a nice day.

Emancipate yourselves from mental slavery

None but ourselves can free our minds..

As sick as I am of being in "relationships" that are here one week, gone the next, I know I'm not ready for a real commitment or quite possibly even a pseudo commitment. Personally I think people think to much about this stuff (me included) and just need to learn to relax and enjoy life and love as it comes.

"I fight with love and I laugh with rage, you have to live light enough to see the humor and long enough to see some change." Ani Difranco

and azzy...its really very difficult to tell if the person is ready or not..he might be saying he is but is not yet emotionally stable or mature enough to handle a real long term relationship...and maybe he's saying he isnt ready even if he is just to put u off and get rid of you ;-P

if the person says they're not ready, then they're not...dont force anyone into anything...just enjoy whatever u can still get out of it while looking for the right one...no need to make urself all miserable and maybe its because ur not yet ready too...when u are, it'll happen ;-P

"...the sh%t you hear about me might be true. but then again it can be as fake as the biatch who told you..."

You can buy good quality "no drip" candles at Home Centre. It's working quite well for me... :) Not a drop on my Mom's irish linen yet !

I feel I am always ready, but overaged and married lol

May the roof above us never fall in, and may the friends below never fall out!

There is no specif time it all depends on if you find "the one"

To know if the other is ready for the long-term relationship by communicating with them...don't assume a damn thing. If they are not ready they are not "the one" and move on to the next one. On the other hand, you can always keep having fun with them until you find "the one" :)

"We cannot control the negative atmosphere of the world, but we can control the atmosphere of our minds"

I'll skip this one.

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H. Bennis

Honestly tell us how many Qr.500 you wasted and on how many of them you wasted. :D

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I'm generalizing here, I didn't say /never said its happening here in Qatar...duhhh ;-(

And to answer your question: subject population would be twenty-something to early thirties...SINGLE/UNATTACHED only....

Like what you dont want to be?Explain it please.

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spirituality.Every day is a new day.A new life.

Keep the faith!*

When the cost of dinners at the rate of 500 QR for 2, starts to hurt. Then cooking and eating at home with the same partner becomes the way to go.

azi, whats the subject population for that?

You can understand it at the first meeting; if he/she spends more affort than normal, trying to make jokes every second, different looks... etc. You know what i mean. But it is very difficult someone like that. Both girl and boys are one-night-stand minded nowadays. I've been in Doha for 6 days and have seen all clubs but I didn't like the mentality. I will be here for the following three years and I don't wanna be someone like that...

...Ersin...

There's nothing wrong with experimentation as a young adult (as long as you are healthy and safe), but most people will reach a point where they long for something more substantial and lasting.

From what I see from couples and single friends that I've met all these years, I came to see that at a certain level of emotional intelligence and maturity, they tend to meet those who have the same mindset and maturity.

In other words, you get what you give, and if you are an emotional mess, chances are you're going to attract someone in the same place. The more secure you are with yourself, the better your chances of finding a future companion in the same vein.

My opinion only...take it or leave it.

How will we know when someone else is ready for a real, long-term relationship???

It is so difficult to know what someone else.. can u do that?

Have a nice time all the time !

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