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@ americansweetheart1...How can you be with someone you don't trust??..That said I'm a Brit here with my husband we hold hands or walk with our arms round each other in public places..Not everyone covers up..There are a lot of Asian women here so if your hubby has a soft spot I feel for you..There are also pubs,bars and clubs here he could easily meet women socially ..I also see a lot of older men with Asian women here buying clothes or in the bars ect..You definitely know they aren't with the men for looks!..But hey I'm not judging just stating a fact..I think save yourself a lot of worry either trust him and move on or leave..your life your choice!..And agree with above statements married men or women shouldn't cheat if they do they shouldn't be together

So! Is he still having a good time or is he back with the wife now ?

Wow Drover! Your tirade for filipinos are somehow what? CLICHE' . . . You're like a broken recorder. . . Let go of any grudges you're holding for your filipina maid who left you. . . Move on!

Your a disappointment to racists. , LoL

who rattled your cage again at this hour,,,,,

pino maids? Is there such things?

Any dog trainer around to teach a dog how to write proper noun?

What that him at the Qube nightclub? ,, they guy with buying all the drinks for the pino maids,,,, who did he take home last night for the weekend??? or how many??

just a curious thought...

you had been separated a long while...

so if your hubby is screwing up nut holes, are you sure that while he's away... your nut holes are not being screwed as well?

there was a saying....

"sow a thought, reap an action"

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what goes around comes around ;)

are u the reincarnation of legal_pad? lol!

lucky bugger,,,,,,,

woman's instinct, more or less is 95% right..........

tell me something i dont know.....

You should come here for a visit. Why not surpise him this Christmas and bring your kids even for a short holiday? In addition to the positive advices/comments above, be cool, don't nag, give your husband a space and let him feel that you love him so much. Im sure, even he finds the loveliest and most beautiful Filipina in Qatar, he will never replace you and your children with her.

why not come to Qatar and see it with your own eyes. Your husband is working in base and I'm sure his salary is high to buy you a visa. and please stop saying any nationality here specially pinoy, do you think only woman from our country do that, look at you own raise before saying something.

and you find it funny?

But as the girls say,, not all are like that, it they are the ones that are doing it,,, all the pino guys i know have Girlfriends here,, and the girls wil have arab or western boyfriends to make live easyer for them,,, yes i know this first hand as i seen,, so dont come back with not here in Qatar never. and not all are the same,, heheheh you kill me ......where is my gun

Hey American Sweetheart,

Point 1: Chill.

Point 2: Hubby dear did get caught once. Doesn't mean that he has to do it again. Maybe he is genuinely busy. Catching up with friends. Having a drink. Playing pool. Driving around.

Point 3: Don't burn your fuse thinking what he is upto. Instead think of innovative ways to make him burn his fuse. make him wish you were here with him with the kids. That way, tables are turned.

Point 4: Qatar is a nutty place. Everything is available here. Doesn't imply anything.

POINT 5: Don't listen to the advices above. Am sure they will feel the same if their spouses or potential spouses are/were caught cheating on them.

So, in simple words: Chill !!!

drovers it could be the norm where you come from. its not the norm everywhere.

I've never had an affair with a married man.

Yes they married back home and the have partners here to keep them company, the men say they not married and have the young early 20's pino girl.. the women older just want compant and someone to buy things for them,, the men have there fun and walk away,,, so what up.. i have not known a women yet that has not had an affair with a married man at some time in her life,,

Jumping in every hole he can.....

that it's wrong!

Good morning to you!

Flor, as I said in my post, if the couple has an open marriage, then his "cheating" isn't an issue. However it would seem that this marriage is not open, and his cheating is not something is wife is ok with. Therefore it's wrong.

of the freedom you want to promote? Was it?

Well that's a first s-isale! LOL. Should we call the Gulf Times. ;)

agree with Mimi....

I'm shocked at the number of people saying he should be allowed to cheat as well. It's one thing if he and his wife have an open marriage, but obviously they do not therefore she has every right to be angry and upset. Who knows what kind of diseases he might bring home?

I'm sorry but men are not animals, they can control their urges, they don't need a "woman to stay sane" that's just treating them like a child.

I'm sick of the way women just "excuse" men's behaviour in this region.

I am really amazed at the number of responses which say that he is a man away from his woman and he has NEEDS....well anyone bother about the NEEDS OF THIS WOMAN ...WHO IS HIS WIFE....WHAT ABOUT HER NEEDS....WOULD YOUR RESPONSES BE IN THE SAME VEIN ...IF SHE WERE TO STRAY.............REST MY CASE

Yep,,, Ramada is the place to be.

However, I am surprised that your are suggesting that it is allright to cheat on a partner..

Poor woman

You can't do anything if he cheats that's the way things are... All you can do to ease your mind would be by having a good communication with him as often as possible even though he's getting bored with it. Try not to over obsess, do something that can take off your mind about this kind of things but I just want to remind you about the saying "Fool me once shame on you fool me twice shame on me but fool me three times it's stupidity",(the last part is just a modified version)...

and hey, what is this matter with showing affection in public? Ok, they don't have to show it in public.. they successfully show it to each other in private..

And yes, some women- mostly local ones- are covered. At the same time there are thousands and thousands of filipinas here, and onle few are covered..

and "if you are a american male", is it NOT hard to talk to women.. WHY it would be? Any shopping centre, any bar or pub is loaded with all types of women.. just go to Ramada parking, or to Qube, there are lots of filipinas there - ask Brit, he is specialist in this matter.. correct, Brit?

Just leave your guy alone.. let him stay alive.. one has to have a woman to stay sane here.. you don't want to receive back a mad husband, do you?? So just leave him alone, he will come back to you anyway..

so what if he is cheating? big deal! what do you expect from the guy who is living alone for over a year? Even I myself would be cheating by then..

Relax, and wait till he comes back home. Or just come over here to visit him.. SURPRIZE!!!

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He is probably having the time of his life here!

every engine needs to be primed and tuned very often and that goes with regular oil change and lube-up....

1. Live with him here;

2. Let him stay there in the states.

BUT unfortunately, BOTH options have no guarantee (that he will not cheat on you). MAybe lessen the risk and your worrying!

being human, has individual differences there are weaknesses...

evaluate situations:

1. why a partner is having an affair?

2, what was ur attitude dealing ur partner even at home and being away?..

Don't let ur worries be ur shadow..be positive

if things go wrong after any mistakes..happens again again again, and u do have doubts ur not trusting..why stay?

LIFE HAS CHOICES- choose what a life u want!!

There is nothing you can do right now but put your blind trust on your husband. Your worries will only fuel bigger issues in the future. He is doing his best to keep you on the loop by talking to you often"we talk maybe 45 minutes a day after he returns home from work and before he heads to word and sometimes on his days off yet I feel he has more free time"I understand that his past history has made you insecure thats why you felt that the time he is giving isn't enough and everything else is still questionable. This is not very healthy if you wish to keep your marriage.  I have been in a long distance marriage with my husband before I moved here in Qatar and yes there are some things that I question too, but I try not to bother myself about it. I've come to accept that he is far and yes there are alot of possibilities that can happen however, our relationship is more important to me than these petty issues I've created in my head. As long as he is doing his part as a husband, as long as the communication is still there, as long as you can still feel his efforts, it is worth remembering that he chose to be far to give you and your family a better life..but if you really are bothered about your worries, your gut feeling is giving you sleepless nights by all means give him a surprise visit in Qatar.

ima be in the US for the holiday season... how about PAYBACK time??? :-P

he would be stopping at the gate on the way out the base, there is a stand where all the pino and russian girl stand to be take home for ethe night and he can get them cheap not like back home high prices,, he would have a differnt girl each week if not each time.. god bless him we say and why not..

americansweetheart1 - Well be thankful that someone is keeping him happy and in good spirits while you are away. After working his brains off all day he certainly needs some company to unwind. Atleast he makes sure to send you the dollars for family maintanance at the end of the month.

i love to mingle with girls

Without having any knowledge of the issues he may have with the OP eg. deep seated insecurity,

- hubby has/had a history of cheating, even though with one person whom you found out about - he should try to make her more comfortable to redeem the trust that was severely damaged;

- "bad feelings especially since we don't web cam anymore" - that a huge red flag. Since he's away from her and the kids, he would be inclined to ensure some sense of normalcy and contact;

- good advice from qatar_engineer and some other posters;

- situations like these are why some of women uproot themselves from their comforts of home to be with their hubby, so that he would not be too tempted to stray. Good intentions may be there but the temptations are great over there.

OP, is there any way you can join him in Qatar? (Please don't rush in and fall for co-called agents who claim they can get you in to Qatar for a fee. Please go by way of the official channels to ensure that you are not duped.)

All the best to you. Take care.

Vegas, he has a history of cheating, he's changed his behavior and he's outright lying to her about his work hours and the culture here. I's call's it's like's I's see's it's. :P

They sale Viagra prescription free here...

If you know in your heart something is a miss then it probably is... get his land line ,give him random calls, start the webcaming again , visit him and again a lot of westerner s live here with families... who's fort are you trying to hold down in the US?...rethink on your choices dear...

Ya think???

Trust your instincts americansweetheart, it's quite obvious that he's lying to you and most probably cheating on you.

Where is the OP now? Im sure, most of the comments made her paranoid more.

To the OP, I advise you to trust your husband and accept the fact that there will be times that he is in dire need of "something that you cannot give" as you are far away from him. He deserves to be happy as well after all the hard works he is doing here for you and your children. Don't be that crooked minded!

didnt you bring up the similar topic a few months back?

Drover- you just need some spooning. . . .

Pork is very easy to get nowadays. .

OP- could be that you are just paranoid since your husband has a history of cheating.

But i 'll tell you, if he cheated you once, chances are he might do that again, it's either go here to see for yourself or stay there and kill yourself with paranoia.

They would love him and give him good care because he would be getting them the pork they want for xmas, pino girl just love some pork on their fork,, give them a little porking as we say back home...

On base

Off base

Home base

Home run

Is it easy to get to third base, if you work on the base ?

base. He probably works with filipinas. I do work 7 days a week 12 hours a day though but the dynacorp guys don't. There a lots of American women workng on base too.

trust your instincts. he has a history, and it seems that the signs say he is cheating (but it is possible that you're just boring him with your paranoia). you should either be with him so he doesn't get an opportunity again, or you could leave him.

topics like these worsen the stereotype on my people in this part of the world, and it makes us more vulnerable to harassment here. it's not our fault that we're hot ;P

Better ask your husband to get you here...at least you come and visit yourself and clear your head.

If he cheated you once, then he "might" cheat you again. Could be to a Filipina or Chinese or Indians or Westerners. :(

To answer your questions-

it's not that hard for men to speak with women(except for those who cannot speak english that much) especially if your husband is a little bit "friendly".

PDA is not that acceptable here- (I rarely see Filipinas who shows PDA - dont know in the clubs as I dont go there).

If there are some changes on your routines (as hubby and wife) then its time for you to be vigilant of your hubby's actions.

Cheers!

its amazing what you can get for a Qr50 phone top up card.....

If he has to contend to being married toa woman like you with what he is working with here in Qatar he deserves it, i pitty him for being married to a person like you, no trust at all and he is suffering working here while you have it good back home,, i home he finds a little fat pino girl just to pee a sad woman liek you off, good one him,, he wouldbe in high demand here being a western man fron teh stated no matter what age he is, the little fat pinos would love him for his green card,, your lost him now,,, to a little telly tubbie girl.. yipee for bubba

Britexpat - Can you point me in their direction please? The prostitutes here are costing me a small fortune.

question answered madam??

i think so..

ohh for just for ice breakiing..

its rarely seing white women with asian men..

Not just that. There are plenty of women here looking for a good time at others' expense.

There's plenty of prostitutes here I'm afraid.

Yes, it is illegal to show affection in public, but that is rarely enforced. Arab women/muslim women are covered for the most part and are unapproachable. There are filipinas everywhere, the are on the lower end of the employment scale. Cashiers, maids, cleaners, etc. I am American and I do not cover up, I wear shorts in the summer, short sleeve shirts, bathing suits at the pool, so does everyone else who is not Arab/muslim. It's not as conservative as you think. If you are worried, then you need to cut ties and move on. Sounds like he is not interested in being a father and husband anymore. This should be easy seeing as how he is never around.

your statement alone answers your quest madam..

"he cheated on you with filipina in Thailand"..

im not saying hes cheating you ryt now.. but if your statement got to do with filipinas??

then i tell you madam, theres lots of hot and pretty filipinas with tighter p--s--s here in doha..

my question to you madam..

is your husband capable of not doing it again??

simple math, its for you to conclude..

Well if a person want, he can get the flesh any where, and life here is boring, if one don't have friends.. So there is a possibility that he may fall in such activities, But its a 50/50 chance. May be he is in such activities or may be not, and he is no more doing thing. and now a good husband

lol...are you only worried about showing affection on the streets ....and it isnt very smart to say someone living here is misinformed about the things you asked unless he is blind and deaf, which he is Not!!!

What you don't know won't hurt you....so don't try to open a Pandora's box. Better yet, learn to trust your husband again:)

Are you serious? I was told it was illegal to show affection on the streets....and that woman are mostly covered up. Maybe you are missinformed?

Thanks for the responses. Even if some didn't answer any questions I have...

I'm an American ex-pat working on both bases here. I don't know the schedules of the DynaCorp guys, but I highly doubt he's working every single day. It's possible that it's 6 days per week, but not 7. Look at a paystub......if it shows 40 hours, it's definitely NOT 7 days per week. if it's 50-60, then it's possible. Work hours over here can be very strange, but I've never heard of anyone working 7 days per week.

The Arab women cover most of their bodies, but not all. The ex-pats dress very conservatively, but not 100% covered by any means. It's not illegal to show affection in public. Well, it actually might technically illegal, but you see it sometimes....not very often at all. I kiss my wife a quick peck here and there. They just don't want to see 2 people slobbering all over each other.

Women.......

The local women (Arabs) are 100% unapproachable and there's no way he's "hooking up" with them. The Asian women are sometimes another story. Most of them are here ONLY for the money (maids, hotel workers or some other remedial job). However, some girls will also troll the night clubs as prostitutes for a couple nights per week. If a guy wants to pay for some action, he can go to the club and walk away with a girl. It's not like the western countries where there are crazy, loose women just hanging around looking to get smashed, hook-up and have some fun (for free). In other words, it's possible he could be paying for prostitutes, but there's very little chance that he's picking up random Asian girls at the clubs for nothing.

I really wouldn't worry about it too much though. This definitely isn't Thailand. What I WOULD Be worried about is the fact that he's had less and less contact with you, not more and more. If I were separated from my kids for months, I'd want to see them every single chance I got. Confront him on this issue and express your displeasure very sternly. Good luck!

Is it legal to take pictures of the nationals and the country there in Qatar??

"I know that Qatar has a lot of western people so I am sure there a lot of Philipino women there and my husband has a weakness for them"

Do you mean that Philipino women come to Qatar because there are a lot of western people?

Anyway, the reality is, if your husband has a proven weakness for them then you've reasons to be concerned.

Its a great life especially if you work on the base. The chances to cheat are everywhere. Good luck!

Just please answer me honestly....

Do most the women there wear the clothes that cover all the body but the face?

Is is illegal to show affection in public?

He told me these things and I have my doubts about them after reading online about qatar.

I try to just put my trust in him but its just hard. Since I am here and do not know nothing about Qatar sometimes I get bad feelings especially since we don't web cam anymore....We used to web cam almost every other day. For the first year then it went to just phone calls and I don't want to feel like a dumb ash if he ends up cheating or worse lies to the one he might have over there. So I want to know more about Qatar and how easy it is for a man american/asian to find a woman there.

be very worried, he's only telling you what you want to hear.

and all the praying in the world ain't going to help dear, especially if he's cheated before.

Just trust your husband and leave all your worries..That is the best thing to do..

I do pray that he is not cheating and I do know that I have not cheated.I am a good wife and praying I have been.

He comes home once a year and only 28-30 days. He is only human and I am trying to trust him. He has cheated 3 years before he left there with a phillipino woman in Thailand on a job. So that is why I want to know more about over there. I have never been there as I am a mother and have to hold down the fort here in the USA.I was told that woman can not sell themselves there is that true? What kinda laws are there about that? I just want some honest information thats all.....maybe its much to ask from strangers but if I can set my mind at ease here through people why not try?

For Goodness sake, think positive, and one thing is for sure, if you are cheating on him, he will cheat on you..

So don't cheat on him, and pray to your God,

Girls are available on every corner of intersections, Super markets, Shopping centers,

10 Riyal per night....

are you interested in women?