How do you deal with insensitive and grossly flatmate?

ya dont need him so kick him out!hallas problem solved- some ppl just gotta learn the hard way

life's too short so make the most of it, you only live but once.......

Just get a cleaner....

"Man never made any material as resilient as the human spirit."

Put a clear boundary.

Live and let live.

Never go younger by a month, a hard bod is no substitute for wisdom.

..... would be a swift backhander - show him/her the hairy side of your hand. A smack in the kisser. A bunch of 5's in the fizzog.

It's simple, yet effective.

"You can't tell which way the train went by looking at the tracks"

Teach the flatmate like Pavlov's dogs - get one of those air-horns that people take to football matches and stuff (I bought some to wake up my workers after lunch every day!).

Then, every time he/she does something gross, give them a blast of the horn - especially if they're not expecting it. They'll either learn not to, or spend all their time cleaning their underpants.

You people dont know what type of ordeal I have to undergo...every single day..........Sighhhhhh....Its a dogs world!

Luckily I live by myself, no such problems! hehe

we are three friends, living in a three bedroom flat, we have just one parking, but who cares who ever find it vacant parks his car, but if some times we all three are coming together with our cars, every one waits for other to park.... there is no responsibility divided to anyone, we are living like a family nobody knows who filled the refrigerator with juices and chocolates (even nobody bother to ask it) no one knows who cleaned the kitchen...

But I know u hardly find such company, so better find one or live alone...

“Our scientific power has outrun our spiritual power. We have guided missiles and misguided men.”

Martin Luther King.

Post-it notes...heard of them right? Stick one with a whole list of things that you dont like...and stick it on his forehead...one should send the message usually!

to avoid all these things.. i stay alone.. and realised its a bit tough to stay alone.. but its alrite.. better than the mess u r talkin about now..

i suggest you tell him on his face.. or rather tell him in front of his frenz or gal which will embarass him and atleast will come to his senses..

Don't you have house rules? Lay them out if not and as suggested no compliance....theres the door buddy.

Just move out... at least this decision is solely within your control.

on his bed. He cannot sleep until he takes care of them. I threaten my children with that all the time.

YOU DONT KNOW ME, DONT EVEN TRY !!!

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as if these people were dare enough to create trouble and never listen then what to do?

Do not dwell in the past, do not dream of the future, concentrate the mind on the present moment. (Gautama Buddha)

Oh, I had this problem a while ago.

I work on a 'three strikes and you're out' policy.

First time: I'll ask something very politely, explaining the inconvenience and how it affects me.

Second time: I'll say more assertively, I've mentioned this to you before, I really meant what I said, I am not your mother, I am not your wife and I'm certainly not your maid, so this is unacceptable and you must change your ways, or else...

Third time: Good bye.

But then this is my apartment, and I don't need anyone living with me to pay for it, I just occasionally take in room mates who are friends of friends who need a place to stay.

I have, before now, literally dumped someone's possessions on the landing outside my front door. Some people are dumb. If they tend not to show enough respect to other people by being considerate and cleaning up after themselves, they tend not to be able to respect other people's wishes and to vacate the premises either. If asking them to clear up after themselves doesn't sink in, asking them to leave probably won't either. People like that are in a little bubble where they don't listen or absorb information.

Sometimes you have to resort to taking action, because they genuinely can't understand what the problem is, they're blinkered.

Create your own world inside your flat... see, speak, hear nothing. fix your own space and khalas...

**PEACE AND BE COOL**

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Invite another equally insensitive & gross friend to share the flat. They will sort each other out ...if nothing you will get a little rent.

i always think u have to choose a flatmate with the care u do wen u choose a partner for life.. i didn't mean he/she has to eb sexy.. i eman u shud study her wel... i never did the mistake of offering someone whom i don't know to share the flat. first u know them well up and down, see the place wer they live now and interact with them for a few weeks. it's always a hell wen u end up with someone who messes up everything. some people don't know how to adjust with other or respect others choice. wen we live together, we might have to sacrifice our 'mess it up' nature and learn to be responsible for our things and try not to irritate our flat mates.. i get irritated wen it comes to even leaving clothes on the coat or sofa..

why don't u let ur flatmate know that u r fed up with him ? atleast let any of ur common friends pass on a message to him that u r really annoyed.. coz this ain't childhod man. grown ups shud behave like that

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thanks owen...

i did the two options and that makes me one last option left.hmmm wahhhh i need a new flat.:(

Of course, you wouldn't know his personality, you don't have any idea at all. You cannot afford to have a flat for yourself so you have to live with it.

If you can't take it anymore, tell him upfront, and find another flatmate. But make sure you have money to pay for the rent if you do that. Can you afford it?

Don't worry, he is leaving soon. harharhar! You want me to help you to kick him out?

Its hard to do it but you almost can never break a persons habits once the have them established. All you will do is start a big argument when nobody will be happy. If you can try somewhere else and hope for better flatmates!

Good luck....

got three options for you..live with it, confront him/say what is needed to say/or move out (this one is tough, but you still have 2 options left)..

now that's gross...

carmina..

i did'nt ask for it, in the first place i did'nt know the person's character at first.

never clean the stove and dishes, never clean the sala's, wholeday washing their clothes(messy) in the comfort room and the worst is almost always forget to flush the toilet after using it.

Hmmm... in the first place, if you cannot afford to have a flat by yourself, stop your rant. You asked for it you got it.

Why don't you tell us all the kind of stuff that's going on - it should be entertaining :p

I know what you're going through. I had a bad flatmate once and it drove me nuts. In the end I just cancelled the lease, and found a new place, which is what the flat mate had to do too. Expensive, but worth it for my sanity!!

So now I love on my own, and while it's a little lonely at times at least you don't have to put up with someone else's crap!

why did you say he/she is insensitive and gross?

I think I have an idea but for the sake of evevyone here reading your post...kinldy elaborate, please?

Thanks!

Why can't you throw him and his belongings out in the street?