Can you Forgive????
Guys,
Did you reach a point in your life when you were not able to forgive someone hurt you alot, what should we do in that case and don't tell me the B*** S**** that we have to forgive, forgiveness is a must.If they are asking for your help, and you know deep inside that they didn't change what is the solution? Let us be honest. Do you feel you want to revenge and how do we cope with such a feeling?
You can't teach experience
friends, you are talking about things that we can ignore or try to forget, but what if that pain is with us, we have to face daily we cannot ignore. someone you have to deal with, even help and you are forced to do it. don't forget we are in arab countries and things are different here
yep... much as i wanted NOT to forgive that person, everyone concerning the issue will be caught in between...that made me live and let live and not dwell on it more.. moving on but i will never forget...
revenge? oh yeah...but the same thing, if only there would no one who will affected in between i would go with my devilish revenge.. lol
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yes jack tell me about it. but till to date i dont spoke with them. and my life is fine without them.
Everybody is right everybody is wrong, it depend where you stand
kenyaqueen, yes killing them with kindness is more powerful then with anger/death.
Everybody is right everybody is wrong, it depend where you stand
aaww...dragonfly......thats a heartbreaker...to loose both your bestfriend & your guy on the same day.....Phew!
He sure must have been a nutcase to risk loosing you ;)
passion thats the way to do it too sometime. normally is like that.
Everybody is right everybody is wrong, it depend where you stand
... but i don't forget....
learn from it....
I can forgive, but cannot forget, I have tried.
"To be a part of my life you shud contribute positively"
If you can't forgive, kill them with kindness...lol
kenyaqueen, i can really related and understand your story. thanks for sharing with us.
Everybody is right everybody is wrong, it depend where you stand
as a young girl I lived with my aunt. I did something "bad" at least in her eyes I did. she beat me for this bad thing. I hated her most of my life for it. When I became an adult she came to visit me. I told her of the pain, showed her the scar she left on my face and how I hated her so much for doing this to me and how it caused other issues in my life. Of course she said she was sorry. I accepted her apologies and forgave her. But because of the scar, I can never forget as it is a reminder. After my aunt apologized I realized that I did not really hate her but I was rather longing to let her know what she had done to me mentally. As an adult I learned that people don't always know the pain they can cause you. It was only after letting her know the pain of that issue that I could release all ill will towards her and even myself. forgiveness is a blessing given to us by the all mighty. We should absorb it when ever it is needed.
Agree with Gypsy!
I dream of a better tomorrow where Chickens can cross the Road without having their motives questioned - Unknown
Morning!!
I been hurt a few times by members of my own family and so called friends, but never again...i was far too trusting n wanted-needed to believe in them, but not more, i never taken revenge like others have said here the only thing that that accomplish is to make one bitter and i don't ever want that 4 myself, my sweet revenge is knowing that my life always much better than theirs ever be, my boys-husband-work-other friends all over the world n all the travelling that i do...+ more, that is my sweet revenge.....but no, i cant forget, the scars run deep...
You don't need to forgive, you just need to walk away and stop dwelling on it. Cut the person out of your life and act like they never existed. That's the best thing to do.
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yes i can.notting will be eaten as hot as it is boiled.time is helping and the pain goes away.i forgive and hope others forgive me because nobody is perfect but some tends to see themselfs as perfect.sad but true.
"who is without trespass throw the first stone"as Jesus said,so who of you here is without any faults?
someonenew and oabazeed, my first step was to forget by time i get stronger then i can forgive them. it was such a relief when i finnaly think over. i dont hv hate in me for them anymore. i feel free. so you might want to think about what i said.
Everybody is right everybody is wrong, it depend where you stand
yes True, let the time heal your wound and forgive and forget is the best medicine for broken soul.
BE STRONG. BE POSITIVE. LIVE FREE and FEARS.
Everybody is right everybody is wrong, it depend where you stand
Forgetting is different than forgiving, if you ignore someone that doesn't mean that you forgive him.
Some times I feel that there is no hope in a person to get fixed, then no way to forgive him, and in the other hand I don't want to keep my mind busy about him, or about revenge which I don't like, so i just ignore him, and foreget about him, but this doesn't mean I forgive him.
:D
Dragon I totally understand how u feel... been there..done that types... I couldnt forget it neither cud i forgive.. but i guess I've moved on...
I dream of a better tomorrow where Chickens can cross the Road without having their motives questioned - Unknown
hmmm....my policy is I will not take any revenge.
But that scrars will remain. And I canot have a healthy relationship with them anymore.
i hv my best friend from long time ago sleep with my boyfriend, it was hurt like hell. i dont know which one is more hurt, am loosing my best friend or my boyfriend. in the end i dont spoke with both of them. i move on and never look back. after she tried few times to re-connect with me but i just igonore her. now... after 10 years later, i have forgive her and i dont mind to meet her again. but she wont be part of my life and considered as my best friend.
so by time you will learn to forgive and forget. so give it a try.... beside, if you can forgive and forget you are the biggest person.
Everybody is right everybody is wrong, it depend where you stand
thx guys, for all this support, it really important that we speak and let it go, maybe that bird will fly and never comes back to us
Brandylady,Bakamuna, Someonenew.. Im not the mean kind but I just couldnt help myself :P
P.S Brandylady Happy Belated Birthday!
Dragonfly, that really sucks what they did, a plague of fleas on them (uhem, I mean its good you were able to move on, I cant imagine going through that)
"Change will not come if we wait for some other person or some other time. We are the ones we've been waiting for. We are the change that we seek." Barack Obama
depends on how severe that person has done to you! Forgiveness takes time but when out of the blue just the mere thought of that person suddenly appears, its all coming back again - grrr....
Sweet lady.. i am sure with all of us next to you .. to cheer you and to lift you... dont worry... just forget but never forgive... as said earlier.. "scars remain"
If you keep thinking over it all the time.. you wont ever get out of it... so just be happy.. mourn for a while then MOVE ON!!
Never Ask for a SMILE..just GIVE it..
excellent statement and very well put :)
True ...when you take revenge...you are unconciously becoming the person you hate.
Over a period of time you become exactly like the person you hated (took your revence on) 20yrs ago...
This is because you are changing your emotion from passive reaction to an active reaction that bears no fruit for you.
How you channel your emotions is very important, you cannot deny the feeling of hatred....but how you channel your resulting emotion sculpts the person you become!
Nice Labda! Way to go! LOL!
I dream of a better tomorrow where Chickens can cross the Road without having their motives questioned - Unknown
I agree with labda in the point that "The best kind of revenge is for you to be genuinely happy, live your life". Showing that u dont care abt the whole thing is the coolest thing to do. BUTTTT Do not forget it. So that next time u dont make the same mistake again. I'd say forgive but DONT FORGET!
I dream of a better tomorrow where Chickens can cross the Road without having their motives questioned - Unknown
good work labda :) i would just wait for the right moment to take revenge and untill then just try to be nice :)
but the sentiment is true, keeping things inside, wanting revenge etc doesn't make us feel any better,
move on
I always forgive but i never forget everything because the scars remain!
Just go on with the flow as long as you are enjoying the moments with someone who hurts you!
ksa....ROFL....
R7 Da nude...ROFL
The best kind of revenge is for you to be genuinely happy, live your life. People come, people go. If you fixate on the past, you'll always be knee stuck in it. A little bit of revenge is ok, like when my cousin asked me to help pick a gift for his witch of a girlfriend and I so happily picked the most foul smelling perfume for her. I had my chuckle but after that I just erased her from my life.
"Change will not come if we wait for some other person or some other time. We are the ones we've been waiting for. We are the change that we seek." Barack Obama
From forgiveness to Da-NUDE how did tht Happen ?!!
neither forgive nor take revenge...thats a closed chapter for me..
I can't forgive.
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we cannot forget, from time to time we have to remember
guys i need to revenge but i don't know how:((((
Why would you imagine out of all Darude without the Boxster...hey man the next time we meet you are maintaining atleast a 10 ft restraining order from me...LOL!
Revange taste better when it is served COLD :)
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Indeed my friend most of the times Revenge is utmost required...to teach the opposite person a lesson and people who deserve a place in humanity do learn from revenge...
and wtf was that with thong...now come on dont give the ladies the wrong impression as to you saw what I might be wearing dirty boy...and lets not talk about what R-7 wears...shall we...I know you two are pretty close to each other...LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOL!!!!
I am imagining Darude without...the boxer ....lol
so peautipul sho aweshome :D
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just try to forget and move on with your life, bitterness festers and will only make you feel worse.
You can't teach experience
i dont wear THONG LIKE YOU :?
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You actually fell for Darude's post...yuck!!!LOL!
Well to answer your question, its quite rightly put by anahmed...to hell with what the world thinks, you need to do what YOu think is right, if you feel like this person has hurt you...then so be it...and as people say, The Success of Revenge is the Sweetest...so you might as well screw the person who messed around with you, there is nothing wrong, and dont fall for that crap, forgiveness is the way forward...nonsense...LOL!
so there is a sweet person inside you after all
no i forgave him.
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revenge is the sweetest passion... and its one of the few things thats better served cold... ;-)
You seem hurt at the moment... just give yourself couple of days and think how you can get back to the person who has hurt you... Or else.. you can
"Just forget and NOT forgive"
Never Ask for a SMILE..just GIVE it..
you felt sorry for him right?
when the laundry man lost my expensive black boxter. and its no more available in landmark :?
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