this topic reminds me of the tv show life with fran. of course it would be naive to say that the age difference is not an issue. however, i think its something that can be overcome by partners.
Interesting topic, prompt me to jot down my bit though I am new for posting in forums.
Age matters: Yes and No. No if you are looking for fun and just dating, i.e. having a good time for now and not looking for long term commitment and settling down.
Yes age matters if you are looking for long term commitment. When you commit to a person, it is not a commitment to him only, you also have to consider his family and his friends. Me and my hubby have 11 years gap. Luckily we have no problem with the family issue, but the friends were another story. I was in my early 20’s and most of my friends were university students, lots of fun and running around etc. My hubby was in his early 30’s with lots of serious stuff. My friends couldn’t stand him, can’t blame them. And he couldn’t stand their immaturity. There was days that I was torn apart where to stand, and whom to have time to spend with. And I didn’t enjoy spending time with his friends either. Luckily it didn’t affect our commitment to each other, but again it was testing. Another issue why I think about age matters is the biological age, of course we women get older faster than men, biologically. Women go through menopause on average b/n age of 45-50. And this age is the middle age when men usually need a lot of attention, thus having to go through the tantrums of menopause, when they are needing you most couldn’t be easy i.e if you are same age. Thus the ideal age is for women to be 5 -10 years younger. But of course there are always the exceptions, the individuals matter, so as the environment you live in, the particular situations you are facing in life etc.
i have not seen this link b4 sir darude.and i was intrested to read all the replys, i am a mature woman, as u all know, but could not see my self, going out with younger guy, maybe 5 yrs no more,unless he was very special hehe
well...it all depends on the couple....im 22 n ma hubb is 31 but we don have n e prob with each other...all u need in a relation to make it strong is love n trust n understanding .....if u love n trust n understand ur partner den ur relation goes on smooth for years n years n u neva have to compromise n ask such Q...
About he minds meeting part, never had a toy boy but had play things when I was younger....;P
"Your born, You Live, You Die, given this premise, one can conclude since we have no control over when we are born and when we die, the only thing that matters to us should be how we live, simple really?" Mis-Cat to her philosophy Lecturer.
PH - Listen to yourself you gave up your lifestyle, some of your freedom, not mixing with others, for the sake of companionship, companionship? It's not a word that I would use if you truly love someone it's a word that you use to describe your friends, it's a friendship word, a word you use when there is nothing other than company kept between to people for the sake of being lonely. The way you describe what you have makes it sound like you got scared, scared that you would be lonely for the rest of your life, so you are willing to give yourself up for the sake of thinking that at least you won't be lonely for the rest of your life,So you do care what others think of you. When you stop, when all the glitz is worn off, what happens then? in years from now what happens? what happens if you find out he is having an affair and the person he is having an affair with was the same as the person you used to be? but you gave that all up for him, because you thought that's what he wanted?
Never give up who you are for anyone, you give up who you are then you will truly end up knowing what it's like to be alone.......
and Brutus - I'm not talking about the little things in life as stated before I am talking about changing who you are because that's what they want, any body that professes to love you to be your true friend would never ask you to do this, it is after all the reason they are attracted to you in the first place.
"Your born, You Live, You Die, given this premise, one can conclude since we have no control over when we are born and when we die, the only thing that matters to us should be how we live, simple really?" Mis-Cat to her philosophy Lecturer.
Have dated older women( i mean one older woman)and found the experience quite intrsting, i shud say. You find (means I found ;) )more things to talk abt, u get more space n generally more secure abt themselves, i think!
End of the day, i believe it all starts and ends with the two individuals in the relationship...nothing else!! I dont really believe in generalisations abt olderguys being this younger women being that n all .
Sometimes women also want to feel especial sa? We know that, but what we don't know is when. Of course we know how to be romantic and make a lady feel very especial.
you make man's life easier.. :):) bath. they take it anyway.. sex - sure, that's what THEY always want at the first place.. praise? ok, if it's the ONLY thing that will make woman happy - no problem, they can sing songs days and nights...
i think woman wants someone to care about.. i think woman wants a peacful home, wants to look after her husband and kids, wants to be always there for her man...and of course to be needed.. but in which way to be needed? As a hearth keeper, as a family base, as a wife, friend, lover...and yes, a woman need a praise...
..but.. me thinking only bad women all they need is praise and sex.. and yeah.. money of course...
mis cat you know me! I couldn't give a toss what other people think..
Though I have given up alot for the sake of companionship! I.E. my lifestyle, some of my freedom, not mixing with others cuz hubby is a boring sod.
I have done so by weighing the situation up! And to be honest what I get in return is so much more rewarding than all those things and I could not ask for a better man.
But how can you make your marriage interesting enough for both you? I mean there will come a time that one of you will get bored with the other. What do women really wants??
Love should never be about compromising one self, sure compromise on the small things, like what colour to paint the walls, what lounge to buy but never ones self. The minute that you do this unwillingly to please the other you are no longer true to yourself and will no longer be true to your partner....
"Your born, You Live, You Die, given this premise, one can conclude since we have no control over when we are born and when we die, the only thing that matters to us should be how we live, simple really?" Mis-Cat to her philosophy Lecturer.
"Your born, You Live, You Die, given this premise, one can conclude since we have no control over when we are born and when we die, the only thing that matters to us should be how we live, simple really?" Mis-Cat to her philosophy Lecturer.
hubby always knew he wanted a family and was raised in that way as well. When he was 15 he used to go window shopping and pick out everything he would buy his future children lol.
The guy absolutely adores his kids. But is hell to get out of the house as well!
Most of the guys I have ever known have been my age and just after a good time! Rather then wanting to really settle down with one girl. Though loads and loads of fun to party with at the time.
You wanna come to my house sometime, Ksa will be more than willing to tell you what my mothers attitude is towards me, but I look at my 2 Beautiful albeit cheeky little monkey's and it's all worth it.
"Your born, You Live, You Die, given this premise, one can conclude since we have no control over when we are born and when we die, the only thing that matters to us should be how we live, simple really?" Mis-Cat to her philosophy Lecturer.
a friend of mine is 29 y.o.(born in 1970) ..he is obsessed with the 70's music..
.. and my sister always hated any modern pop and rock music, since her 6 years old she was a fan of the classic music.. again.. it has little to do with the age and every case is different..
i new the couple where she was 10 years older, and she is the one who always initiated all outings.. he was so heavy to get out of his home!!
and i know the couple where she is the same age with her partner (around 40), she looks like 15 years younger then him (she looks like 32, he looks like 47), and soooooo bored with him, as 1. he already cannot perform as much as she needs (that's why she always trying to hook some younger guys, by the way); 2. she always want to go out, and he is always tired...
AGAIN, GUYS.. it is soooooooooo much depends on each particular personality!
I've just always found the older guys I've dated to me more immature and commitment phobic then the younger! I've always had a personal mantra that if a guy is over 32 and single, there's a reason.
And it's not that I care what most people think...really just my mother. Cause I live with her and I have to make sure things are worth the grief and aggravation that I'll get.
ROFL with that one, it's a bit the same in our household...
"Your born, You Live, You Die, given this premise, one can conclude since we have no control over when we are born and when we die, the only thing that matters to us should be how we live, simple really?" Mis-Cat to her philosophy Lecturer.
Don't no what to say really...Sorry I've always stood by my personal mantra that I don't care what people think of me I guess that's why it has always been easier for me to date older men as long as I know who I am and they know who I am that's all that matters. None of my relationships with older men have really broken down because of the age issue it was more a case of the minute that I felt I was losing "myself" I needed to end it. I would rather be alone than something I'm not.
"Your born, You Live, You Die, given this premise, one can conclude since we have no control over when we are born and when we die, the only thing that matters to us should be how we live, simple really?" Mis-Cat to her philosophy Lecturer.
Well Gypsy, maybe you should give an older guy a try ;-)
MisCat, lol about the music! My DH is 11 yrs older than me, and sometimes I just roll my eyes at the music. I think my taste in music is more similar to our kids' than to his :-)
Sorry to say but have to agree with them...Given from the little that I know of you through personal contact (and no for those perverts out there not THAT sort)but from the way you write and the contact we have had I would at a guess say you and I are similar creatures and guys in our own age bracket don't get really get us that much.
"Your born, You Live, You Die, given this premise, one can conclude since we have no control over when we are born and when we die, the only thing that matters to us should be how we live, simple really?" Mis-Cat to her philosophy Lecturer.
Hmmm, well there you go, I've never really dated a guy more then a few years older then me, and my longest relationships have always been the same age.
Everyone here keeps telling me I need to date older though.
I remember when he first told me his age I shrugged my shoulders and told him so what and telling my parents was no big deal either I had always dated men older than me in fact I've only ever really dated about 3 guys in my age bracket from the time I hit 13 so it was no biggy for them either and the only time it really comes up is when people relise it and point it out other than that I'm blissfully unaware....
"Your born, You Live, You Die, given this premise, one can conclude since we have no control over when we are born and when we die, the only thing that matters to us should be how we live, simple really?" Mis-Cat to her philosophy Lecturer.
Well yes, but you've been together for a long time MisCat, was it the same when you first started dating, or when you first introduced him to your parents?
But it is actually only thing s like this thread that remind me of the age difference between hubby and me.......Oh and his music.....
"Your born, You Live, You Die, given this premise, one can conclude since we have no control over when we are born and when we die, the only thing that matters to us should be how we live, simple really?" Mis-Cat to her philosophy Lecturer.
Ya see, if I dated a guy who was say 41, then he would be 13 years older then me and 13 years younger then my Dad (11 years younger then my Mom). I'm sure they'd get used to it and so would I, but like I said, he'd have to be a pretty special guy.
Know that one well dated a guy who was 20 years older than me but only15 years younger than my parents, needless to say didn't last long....
"Your born, You Live, You Die, given this premise, one can conclude since we have no control over when we are born and when we die, the only thing that matters to us should be how we live, simple really?" Mis-Cat to her philosophy Lecturer.
well, PH.. i totaly disagree with "ladies we do tend to age faster then men". Maybe it was 50-100 years ago.. not anymore...Nowadays a woman looks much much younger than a man of the same age, if she takes care of herself!
as for "majority of men get bored with their wives", i completely agree.. the only thing: they get bored with their wives regardless of the wife's age! she might be 15 years younger than him, and he will still try to hook someone else.. this is a MAN, and it has nothing to do with his or her age! I know so many cases when the man, having a younger wife having an affair with the older woman.. here is a Prince Charles as an example..
that's why i say: there are NO rules in this matter!everything goes, as long as you are happy with that and as long as it doesn't affect and doesn't hurt anyone around..
I think for me, living with my parents plays a big part in the age thing. I just can't imagine bringing home someone, who's say 40 or older, because the age difference between him and my father would be the same as between him and me. I just think it would be uncomfortable.
I can honestly say for me a big NO.....but to each their own.....
"Your born, You Live, You Die, given this premise, one can conclude since we have no control over when we are born and when we die, the only thing that matters to us should be how we live, simple really?" Mis-Cat to her philosophy Lecturer.
I agree with both Qatarisun and kareena. I think it applies to anyone who is happy with their situation.
however, I also think the majority of men get bored with their wives who are of equal age fast and like to have a young beautiful wife. After all ladies we do tend to age faster then men. (I think men are pretty shallow too for it) I mean beauty never lasts forever! Its whats inside that counts.
It really depends on the people. For me to date someone more then 10 years older then me he'd have to be pretty special, like Johnny Depp. And I wouldn't go more then 2 years younger then me either.
If it is a woman dating an older man.. No issues as long as he does not exceed ten years.. I mean he should not be more than ten years older than the woman..
In the case of a man dating an older woman, not a very good idea.. Maybe a couple of years would not matter but definitely not more than that. I personally would not like to date a younger man
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this topic reminds me of the tv show life with fran. of course it would be naive to say that the age difference is not an issue. however, i think its something that can be overcome by partners.
cheers,
paul
it depends actually, coz it matter how you both interact and deal with both individual differences irregardless of age gap...
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Of course age matters.
its about the head, the mentality of the person!
AGE DOESNT MATTER
if you are only 15 yrs old and you are dating with 70 yrs old...of course it matters and will bring you in jail!!!
" AN END DOES NOT JUSTIFY THE MEANS"
MATURITY matters a lot more than age...
Interesting topic, prompt me to jot down my bit though I am new for posting in forums.
Age matters: Yes and No. No if you are looking for fun and just dating, i.e. having a good time for now and not looking for long term commitment and settling down.
Yes age matters if you are looking for long term commitment. When you commit to a person, it is not a commitment to him only, you also have to consider his family and his friends. Me and my hubby have 11 years gap. Luckily we have no problem with the family issue, but the friends were another story. I was in my early 20’s and most of my friends were university students, lots of fun and running around etc. My hubby was in his early 30’s with lots of serious stuff. My friends couldn’t stand him, can’t blame them. And he couldn’t stand their immaturity. There was days that I was torn apart where to stand, and whom to have time to spend with. And I didn’t enjoy spending time with his friends either. Luckily it didn’t affect our commitment to each other, but again it was testing. Another issue why I think about age matters is the biological age, of course we women get older faster than men, biologically. Women go through menopause on average b/n age of 45-50. And this age is the middle age when men usually need a lot of attention, thus having to go through the tantrums of menopause, when they are needing you most couldn’t be easy i.e if you are same age. Thus the ideal age is for women to be 5 -10 years younger. But of course there are always the exceptions, the individuals matter, so as the environment you live in, the particular situations you are facing in life etc.
age doesn't matter.. size does..
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“You become responsible forever for what you have tamed”. Antoine de Saint-Exupéry
age doesn't matter!it's just a number!
as long as u get along well with ur partner thats all what u should care of!!!
hv fun on the date rather than thinkin of the age nd breaking ur head....
Ahhh Brite dat u wont understand n any which ways:)
yeah... here you go.. Vegas... does he LOOK at his age? does he FEEL his age??
hey, he is much more attractive and sexy and fun, than someone with huge belly and lazy and boring in his 20-s..
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“You become responsible forever for what you have tamed”. Antoine de Saint-Exupéry
Mr Paul right said ..if it an older man and is single .. Either he is gay or he is a palyer..
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HE WHO DARES WINS
i have not seen this link b4 sir darude.and i was intrested to read all the replys, i am a mature woman, as u all know, but could not see my self, going out with younger guy, maybe 5 yrs no more,unless he was very special hehe
i can be your toy boy
very true
You can't teach experience...
A very personal choice;
you will not get a definite answer. It has +ve as well as -ve response depending on the sex and maturity levels.
If given more detail then I could suggest more.
Some people say younger is less mature than older but I have to say that this is not always the case...
I have a crazy cougar pushing me everywhere she see me cause I date her and she cant understand that it didnt work!
LOL SKANKY DATING COUGARS... OMG!!!
The Venezuelan Sensation!!!
You just highlighted the problem. If I was dating you (I am much older), I wouldn't be able to understand a word you said..
As long as the person that you are with truly loves you and will continue to do so
thanks yah all for reading and answering my post!
well...it all depends on the couple....im 22 n ma hubb is 31 but we don have n e prob with each other...all u need in a relation to make it strong is love n trust n understanding .....if u love n trust n understand ur partner den ur relation goes on smooth for years n years n u neva have to compromise n ask such Q...
Qatari sun of course I agree with you! I was just joking around with Brutus.. your right those things are not the most important.
(long post however I feel obligated to give justice to what mis-cat has written)
Actually I'll email it to you mis-cat because people have reading issues on this on a read only forum!
I've always liked older men...
I dream of a better tomorrow where Chickens can cross the Road without having their motives questioned - Unknown
Lol
The Venezuelan Sensation!!!
Reminds me of a book titled "Men Who Hate Women and The Women Who Love Them"....abt relationships that go bad, abusive with a repetitive pattern...
I don't like JERK but I always end up with one...except for MP, of course....lol
About he minds meeting part, never had a toy boy but had play things when I was younger....;P
"Your born, You Live, You Die, given this premise, one can conclude since we have no control over when we are born and when we die, the only thing that matters to us should be how we live, simple really?" Mis-Cat to her philosophy Lecturer.
Younger or older, as lomg as the minds meet. I've had a toy boy and my hubby is 6 yrs older than me.
I may be blonde but I am wise
smile lots laugh more
Yup, there you go. Same age as me then, cept I turn 28 in November.
sorry.. i mean 1980 of course.. :)
wallah, don't feel well lately..
agree with gypsy again.. the only thing, i would higher the age a little bit.. i would say: "if the guy never been married by 38-39...."
If he's 29 years old he was born in 1978 or 1979 not 1970, that would make him 38.
I've always found elder ones attractive and interesting!
Sometimes i feel i am not comfortable with the girls of my age or younger to me (though there are exceptions)..and ofcourse, experience matters! lol
:(
M.P., i thought you are not so good in math, eh? now you surprise me..
..ok.. born in 1970 it makes him 28 (not 27 anyway!!), and since he was born 01/01/1970, it makes him close to 29..
feels better now?? LOL
You're divorced Mr. Paul. Divorced doesn't count, that's just natural circumstance, I'm talking never been married or in a committed relationship.
lol... RIGHT Gypsy...
so either you have to tolerate their "jerkness" (??).. or.. just give up, forget about them... :)
"a friend of mine is 29 y.o.(born in 1970) "
Does that mean im only 27 ?
To Gypsy....
"I've always had a personal mantra that if a guy is over 32 and single, there's a reason."
Oh, thanks a bunch.....:(
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NIL ILLEGITIMI CARBORUNDUM
PH - Listen to yourself you gave up your lifestyle, some of your freedom, not mixing with others, for the sake of companionship, companionship? It's not a word that I would use if you truly love someone it's a word that you use to describe your friends, it's a friendship word, a word you use when there is nothing other than company kept between to people for the sake of being lonely. The way you describe what you have makes it sound like you got scared, scared that you would be lonely for the rest of your life, so you are willing to give yourself up for the sake of thinking that at least you won't be lonely for the rest of your life,So you do care what others think of you. When you stop, when all the glitz is worn off, what happens then? in years from now what happens? what happens if you find out he is having an affair and the person he is having an affair with was the same as the person you used to be? but you gave that all up for him, because you thought that's what he wanted?
Never give up who you are for anyone, you give up who you are then you will truly end up knowing what it's like to be alone.......
and Brutus - I'm not talking about the little things in life as stated before I am talking about changing who you are because that's what they want, any body that professes to love you to be your true friend would never ask you to do this, it is after all the reason they are attracted to you in the first place.
"Your born, You Live, You Die, given this premise, one can conclude since we have no control over when we are born and when we die, the only thing that matters to us should be how we live, simple really?" Mis-Cat to her philosophy Lecturer.
Huh Azi?? you lost me..
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Heard your wife left you,
How upset you must be.
But don't fret about it...
She moved in with me.
This woman wants to stop being jerked around. Not looking for much else at this point. And I find older or younger, they all jerk you around.
but pretend they don't know.
I'm very confuse about this mood swing of women..what give's. They are telling you one thing but expect you to do the opposite.. Hmmm.....sigh....
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Heard your wife left you,
How upset you must be.
But don't fret about it...
She moved in with me.
Have dated older women( i mean one older woman)and found the experience quite intrsting, i shud say. You find (means I found ;) )more things to talk abt, u get more space n generally more secure abt themselves, i think!
End of the day, i believe it all starts and ends with the two individuals in the relationship...nothing else!! I dont really believe in generalisations abt olderguys being this younger women being that n all .
Either in things you want to do, or places where to go.
Maybe you wanna do something that the other have did it many times or vice versa.
At this moment maybe 10 or 15 years is nothing but wait 20 years and you will see the difference.
But I believe if there is mutual attraction it can work it doesnt matter the age..
The Venezuelan Sensation!!!
Either in things you want to do, or places where to go.
Maybe you wanna do something that the other have did it many times or vice versa.
At this moment maybe 10 or 15 years is nothing but wait 20 years and you will see te difference.
But I believe if there is mutual attraction it can work it doesnt matter the age..
The Venezuelan Sensation!!!
Sometimes women also want to feel especial sa? We know that, but what we don't know is when. Of course we know how to be romantic and make a lady feel very especial.
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Heard your wife left you,
How upset you must be.
But don't fret about it...
She moved in with me.
you make man's life easier.. :):) bath. they take it anyway.. sex - sure, that's what THEY always want at the first place.. praise? ok, if it's the ONLY thing that will make woman happy - no problem, they can sing songs days and nights...
i think woman wants someone to care about.. i think woman wants a peacful home, wants to look after her husband and kids, wants to be always there for her man...and of course to be needed.. but in which way to be needed? As a hearth keeper, as a family base, as a wife, friend, lover...and yes, a woman need a praise...
..but.. me thinking only bad women all they need is praise and sex.. and yeah.. money of course...
PH lol... ok.. that should be given.. (hhhmmm... taking bath regularly.... check) Sex.. (hhhmmm... NO Problemo...)
Praises??? How can we do this?? In what way?? What is the right way and timing for this??
Needed... (hhhmmm... cooking, cleaning the house.. especially the bathroom.... check)
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Heard your wife left you,
How upset you must be.
But don't fret about it...
She moved in with me.
age matter? nay.
chaud
irregardless of age gap.
Coz I would consider what he'll say to me...not that i'll accept his views automatically. But a discussion would be nice with no arguments...
brutus.. women want praise, sex and to be needed. And lots of all of those things please!
oh yeah and a man who takes a bath regularly.
Maryum : Umm Hasan bint Abdullah Alshabrawishi
Ms Cat. what if you just want to please you partner and you don't want to get in an argument.
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Heard your wife left you,
How upset you must be.
But don't fret about it...
She moved in with me.
mis cat you know me! I couldn't give a toss what other people think..
Though I have given up alot for the sake of companionship! I.E. my lifestyle, some of my freedom, not mixing with others cuz hubby is a boring sod.
I have done so by weighing the situation up! And to be honest what I get in return is so much more rewarding than all those things and I could not ask for a better man.
Maryum : Umm Hasan bint Abdullah Alshabrawishi
HHmmm.... still got a full hair..
But how can you make your marriage interesting enough for both you? I mean there will come a time that one of you will get bored with the other. What do women really wants??
Cheers,
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Heard your wife left you,
How upset you must be.
But don't fret about it...
She moved in with me.
Love should never be about compromising one self, sure compromise on the small things, like what colour to paint the walls, what lounge to buy but never ones self. The minute that you do this unwillingly to please the other you are no longer true to yourself and will no longer be true to your partner....
"Your born, You Live, You Die, given this premise, one can conclude since we have no control over when we are born and when we die, the only thing that matters to us should be how we live, simple really?" Mis-Cat to her philosophy Lecturer.
I think 34 is the perfect age brutus! Not to old to forget how to have fun.. and not to young to only want fun all the time.
As long as he is not going bald or getting grey hair yet ;).
Maryum : Umm Hasan bint Abdullah Alshabrawishi
oh i am scared of you now .|.
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You'll be more than welcome..:)
"Your born, You Live, You Die, given this premise, one can conclude since we have no control over when we are born and when we die, the only thing that matters to us should be how we live, simple really?" Mis-Cat to her philosophy Lecturer.
So true Qatarisun..
hubby always knew he wanted a family and was raised in that way as well. When he was 15 he used to go window shopping and pick out everything he would buy his future children lol.
The guy absolutely adores his kids. But is hell to get out of the house as well!
Most of the guys I have ever known have been my age and just after a good time! Rather then wanting to really settle down with one girl. Though loads and loads of fun to party with at the time.
Maybe love is all about making compromises?
Maryum : Umm Hasan bint Abdullah Alshabrawishi
I'll have to MisCat. :)
PH.. would 34 years old good enough?? Stable or secure for the ladies to settle down with?
Cheers
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Heard your wife left you,
How upset you must be.
But don't fret about it...
She moved in with me.
You wanna come to my house sometime, Ksa will be more than willing to tell you what my mothers attitude is towards me, but I look at my 2 Beautiful albeit cheeky little monkey's and it's all worth it.
"Your born, You Live, You Die, given this premise, one can conclude since we have no control over when we are born and when we die, the only thing that matters to us should be how we live, simple really?" Mis-Cat to her philosophy Lecturer.
Gypsy my guy was still single because he was waiting to meet me :-)
mind your own business how can u proof that my topic is already repeated send to me the link wtf.. shut ur mouth ok.. respect?
a friend of mine is 29 y.o.(born in 1970) ..he is obsessed with the 70's music..
.. and my sister always hated any modern pop and rock music, since her 6 years old she was a fan of the classic music.. again.. it has little to do with the age and every case is different..
i new the couple where she was 10 years older, and she is the one who always initiated all outings.. he was so heavy to get out of his home!!
and i know the couple where she is the same age with her partner (around 40), she looks like 15 years younger then him (she looks like 32, he looks like 47), and soooooo bored with him, as 1. he already cannot perform as much as she needs (that's why she always trying to hook some younger guys, by the way); 2. she always want to go out, and he is always tired...
AGAIN, GUYS.. it is soooooooooo much depends on each particular personality!
..some people feel old in their 20s..
...some people stay childish forever..
I've just always found the older guys I've dated to me more immature and commitment phobic then the younger! I've always had a personal mantra that if a guy is over 32 and single, there's a reason.
And it's not that I care what most people think...really just my mother. Cause I live with her and I have to make sure things are worth the grief and aggravation that I'll get.
ROFL with that one, it's a bit the same in our household...
"Your born, You Live, You Die, given this premise, one can conclude since we have no control over when we are born and when we die, the only thing that matters to us should be how we live, simple really?" Mis-Cat to her philosophy Lecturer.
Don't no what to say really...Sorry I've always stood by my personal mantra that I don't care what people think of me I guess that's why it has always been easier for me to date older men as long as I know who I am and they know who I am that's all that matters. None of my relationships with older men have really broken down because of the age issue it was more a case of the minute that I felt I was losing "myself" I needed to end it. I would rather be alone than something I'm not.
"Your born, You Live, You Die, given this premise, one can conclude since we have no control over when we are born and when we die, the only thing that matters to us should be how we live, simple really?" Mis-Cat to her philosophy Lecturer.
Well Gypsy, maybe you should give an older guy a try ;-)
MisCat, lol about the music! My DH is 11 yrs older than me, and sometimes I just roll my eyes at the music. I think my taste in music is more similar to our kids' than to his :-)
But fffff oofffff no need to get serious for a jerk's idiotic question which was repeated on QL before
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PH, if anyone can figure out what that age is I'll start dating guys that age!
MisCat, I guess I just need to get over my age issues. :(
Sorry to say but have to agree with them...Given from the little that I know of you through personal contact (and no for those perverts out there not THAT sort)but from the way you write and the contact we have had I would at a guess say you and I are similar creatures and guys in our own age bracket don't get really get us that much.
"Your born, You Live, You Die, given this premise, one can conclude since we have no control over when we are born and when we die, the only thing that matters to us should be how we live, simple really?" Mis-Cat to her philosophy Lecturer.
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fyi, younger are alwayz frezhhh, lol...
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Yeah thats what I have found clearblue. However there are a few men out there who make the grade!
I've always wondered when is the age most men would like to settle down and start a family?
Maryum : Umm Hasan bint Abdullah Alshabrawishi
Not true clearbluesky, I've dated guys my age and younger that I found to be very mature and had a good time with. it depends on the guy.
Hmmm, well there you go, I've never really dated a guy more then a few years older then me, and my longest relationships have always been the same age.
Everyone here keeps telling me I need to date older though.
Never really given much thought too it.
I remember when he first told me his age I shrugged my shoulders and told him so what and telling my parents was no big deal either I had always dated men older than me in fact I've only ever really dated about 3 guys in my age bracket from the time I hit 13 so it was no biggy for them either and the only time it really comes up is when people relise it and point it out other than that I'm blissfully unaware....
"Your born, You Live, You Die, given this premise, one can conclude since we have no control over when we are born and when we die, the only thing that matters to us should be how we live, simple really?" Mis-Cat to her philosophy Lecturer.
Me and hubby are 6 years difference and I can't stand his 80's music! He stopped listening to music at the end of the 80's.
Maryum : Umm Hasan bint Abdullah Alshabrawishi
Well yes, but you've been together for a long time MisCat, was it the same when you first started dating, or when you first introduced him to your parents?
Mo you are right Qatari sun.. a man who gets bored will get bored anyway!
though I don't believe in the taking care of oneself thingy cuz some women just don't have good genetics.
I'm pretty sure that no matter how much plastic surgery I had I would still wrinkle faster then a prune.
Having said that a young girl can blow up like a balloon within a couple years of marriage and there goes the advantage of her youth.
Maryum : Umm Hasan bint Abdullah Alshabrawishi
But it is actually only thing s like this thread that remind me of the age difference between hubby and me.......Oh and his music.....
"Your born, You Live, You Die, given this premise, one can conclude since we have no control over when we are born and when we die, the only thing that matters to us should be how we live, simple really?" Mis-Cat to her philosophy Lecturer.
as long as you're compatible and a relationship exists. not just a "buddy"...
and maybe you're uncomfortable as how other people think about your relationship...
I think I've discovered the secret of life - you just hang around until you get used to it. ~Charles Schulz
Ya see, if I dated a guy who was say 41, then he would be 13 years older then me and 13 years younger then my Dad (11 years younger then my Mom). I'm sure they'd get used to it and so would I, but like I said, he'd have to be a pretty special guy.
Know that one well dated a guy who was 20 years older than me but only15 years younger than my parents, needless to say didn't last long....
"Your born, You Live, You Die, given this premise, one can conclude since we have no control over when we are born and when we die, the only thing that matters to us should be how we live, simple really?" Mis-Cat to her philosophy Lecturer.
well, PH.. i totaly disagree with "ladies we do tend to age faster then men". Maybe it was 50-100 years ago.. not anymore...Nowadays a woman looks much much younger than a man of the same age, if she takes care of herself!
as for "majority of men get bored with their wives", i completely agree.. the only thing: they get bored with their wives regardless of the wife's age! she might be 15 years younger than him, and he will still try to hook someone else.. this is a MAN, and it has nothing to do with his or her age! I know so many cases when the man, having a younger wife having an affair with the older woman.. here is a Prince Charles as an example..
that's why i say: there are NO rules in this matter!everything goes, as long as you are happy with that and as long as it doesn't affect and doesn't hurt anyone around..
I think for me, living with my parents plays a big part in the age thing. I just can't imagine bringing home someone, who's say 40 or older, because the age difference between him and my father would be the same as between him and me. I just think it would be uncomfortable.
I can honestly say for me a big NO.....but to each their own.....
"Your born, You Live, You Die, given this premise, one can conclude since we have no control over when we are born and when we die, the only thing that matters to us should be how we live, simple really?" Mis-Cat to her philosophy Lecturer.
I agree with both Qatarisun and kareena. I think it applies to anyone who is happy with their situation.
however, I also think the majority of men get bored with their wives who are of equal age fast and like to have a young beautiful wife. After all ladies we do tend to age faster then men. (I think men are pretty shallow too for it) I mean beauty never lasts forever! Its whats inside that counts.
Maryum : Umm Hasan bint Abdullah Alshabrawishi
and why exactly it's "not a very good idea"?
and why "No issues as long as he does not exceed ten years".. and if DOES exceed, what is an issue?
and my Mom is younger then my Dad for 12 years, and i think they are the happiest couple in the world
I understand gypsy's answer though, which starts from "It really depends on the people", and "FOR ME..."..
we all tend to stick some lables on people and the matters..but a real life is much much more various and complicated..
I would say, NOTHING wrong with ANYTHING as long as you are happy with that and as long as it doesn't affect and doesn't hurt anyone around !
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It really depends on the people. For me to date someone more then 10 years older then me he'd have to be pretty special, like Johnny Depp. And I wouldn't go more then 2 years younger then me either.
If it is a woman dating an older man.. No issues as long as he does not exceed ten years.. I mean he should not be more than ten years older than the woman..
In the case of a man dating an older woman, not a very good idea.. Maybe a couple of years would not matter but definitely not more than that. I personally would not like to date a younger man