Wrong Relationship

Ha ha ha ha aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa. Stop to ply the games in QL.

I love it....

"but what if my husband has beed cheating for years now? and his wife is always a nagger and a very negative person..."

I have yet to hear of a man who is having an affair tell his mistress that his wife is a wonderful loving person and he is a wank for cheating.

If your love interests excuse for cheating is that hiswife is a nagging negative person, what is your husbands excuse for cheating on you?

good point, alumnar..

really loving it when everybody's sleeping..

confused girl>> i'd no idea of any relationship coz i'm no good in it but for marriage sake, think think think..

now if that married man loves his wife, would never go with you... aside from if he is unfaithfull... he should not bluff his wife anymore... as concluded!!

One way to evaluate your true feelings is to stop seing your best friend for a while. Lust and love are two feelings which are totally different but very often confusing in ones' mind. If your husband had affairs, why didn't you confront him when you found out? It is easy to find faults in others to justify guilty feelings (like your best friend's wife nagging him). You will never be happy if you build a relationship out of the breakdown of another relationship. Take time off from seing your best friend and if you think it helps, sit down with your husband and tell him how his infidelities have damaged your feelings for him.

As for labeling Philippinas as sluts because they talk about such problem on a public forum, first touch your hearts and tell me if everything is perfect in your lifes. Quick to judge shows total lack of respect and acceptance for a fellow human beings' feelings and worries.

wow! Slaver, such a nice story you got there :)

confused girl, maintain that friendly relationship for now...

She knows it's wrong,she wana do a suryvey...

Yes I hope she doesn't sleep with the fishes, swimming is OK. Hope she becomes a mer-maid or a super maid!

She now swims with the fishes...:O(

I also lost many wives! The last one fell off the aeroplane window while coming to Qatar. I loved her and asked the pilot to dive down to pick her up. But the pilot didn't listn.

Is it wrong to lust after a sheep ?

do ur best

She is playgirl if she is not she have to leave him its good for every1.

I still admire you because you have the courage to open up your feelings but

dont be destructed with these passerby emotions and

feelings and focus on things that will make you

achieve and reach......eternal life

If u felt its wrong relationship then u have to stop. He have family :(

just pray for this confuse lady.

:) so no confusion ..

no chance, Soniya is really a good lady and one of a very respectable member in QL so no chance for fighting. A healthy conversation dosent mean that we fight.

i am confused now whether there is a fight between Slaver n soniya :P

hufff...me sis???

ok mod's sis!!

but, i mean if she understand so may be she can take a decision. Right soniya ji

english in main forum...

yah i wish if she can take ne lesson from ur story..

slaver, we know about this story coz it has been discussed on QL...

i try to tell a story here, ( please pardon me for my grammar mistakes). A couple live happily in this part of the world. Husband one day met a girl, she became his best friend and later both have soft feelings., wife dosent know anything about this. Husband and his Girlfriend meet every day, talking,joking and one day they decide for marriage but GF make a condition that He must give divorce to his wife. Man agree and he come back to home and tell his wife whole story. His wife said that ok, since you take a decision to give me divorce, i never ask you anything. I just need one favor from you. Man said What? his wife said that i want to spend you a 1 whole day with you and we spend this day like we use to spend in our early marriage days. The man agree. Next day, they both wakeup, take a breakfast. husband going to his office. After office he come back and enter the house so he saw that his wife prepare his favorite foods, smells very good. Wife come infront of him, she looks very beautiful. Then she said that now take me in your arms which you use to take me in our early days, Man take his wife in his arms, she hug him very tight, man have some feelings, they had dinner. talking, laughing, going for a long drive, listen some good music. Then suddenly man realize that he actually love his wife but he just miss those small small moments in his life and if he give divorce this lady so he can get other lady but he never enjoy and love the way he love with this lady and the way he enjoy with this lady. he kiss his wife, call his girl friend, SORRY, I CANT GIVE DIVORCE TO MY WIFE AS I LOVE HER. he hug his wife,( this is actually little long but true story but i try to edit). So dear, this is my reply to you, if you understand

its not confusing at all..

you married a guy some years back when you were in love with him...the guy who is your husband now.

over the years, probably, the marriage didnt grow and apparantly, because of some suspected transgressions on your husband's part, your love towards towards him wavered and lead you towards someone who showed his affection towards you.

this is absolutely a normal feeling....dont feel guilty about it.

now, the question is, whether you should stay back or annul your marriage??

all these should be based on the answers to these..

do you think you would be fine without your husband?

do you have children? if yes, how old are they?

do you think you would be able to support yourself and your children if separated?

does your married boyfriend also want to separate from his wife? is he also not satisfied with his life?

will you be able to do justice to your kids if you marry each other?

i am not trying to confuse you but just giving a lead to go by reasons so that you dont repent your actions later..

using the name only for the reply purpose. it doesnt mean that i was talking about u in particular .. anwyay ..leave it ..we said what we had to say :) ...

but u usd my name.... now pls dont confuse ths already confused girl wit our thoughts.. watever v had 2 say v did... so v can meet in othr threads!!!

Humans have feelings and desires. If you want your marriage to succeed , then you'll have to control your feelings for this other man. Otherwise.. GO FOR IT if it makes you happy and he's willing to sacrifice his marriage!

:)...

was not talking about you in particular ...was asking you in general to know the difference

deep frndship-true frndship...

normal friendship-may b like casual way (these r only my views),,,

mind you... my husband knows all my frnds... & vice versa.... so if nothin goes bad thn y cant it b acceptd .. provided: nothin is hidden frm ur partner ...

now u can choose frm ur signature:

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Either follow your way or Highway

@ Gudone,

Since you are very open minded, would you allow your hubby to have "Deep friend" from opposite sex?...

From the title itself "Wrong Relationship", you already knew its wrong. What make's you confused now?

Hmmmmmmmmmm.........

i would like to know what is the difference between deep freindship and normal freindship ??

my husband is my best frnd whom i deeply love... ok.. deep frndship & deep love both r different... narrow mindd ppl will never accept it...

why cant you have a friendship with a female?? anything wrong ??

After marriage your "deep friend" is ur husband .. none else ..

and do you think having a "deep friend" outside marriage is good and your hubby would allow you?

i am a woman.. can i hav a deep frndship with a female... or the lovd ones dont allow it..wat do u mean by tht mr....

Gudone n ConfusedGirl,

There is nothing called "Deep Friendship" ...

and none of the husband or wife would allow anyone to have DEEP FRIENDSHIP with opposite sex after marriage..

Better to live with ur family... as of i think its not love ...lust...ur not making urself happy with what u have but asking for more, as u see this guy is nice to you and talking close to you, and ur mistaken it for love... from his side it is not even love, he just says it is love.. better be happy with ur husband and ur kids then to be both ru husband and his wife in a miserable state.. why they have to suffer in their life because of ur lust...

Just forget and move up in life,, if u think u cant do it change ur job.. when u see ur kids u should really think that ur living for them, for their happiness for everything in their life..so stop getting confused and live ur life with ur huband and kids.. so that solves both the family issues...

Short term arrangement is fine for some but high Risk involved :)

Soon u will tell ur BF that Your children and my children quarlling with our children

Well in that case I say have the affair. Not her fault her country has stupid laws.

I already answered that above in the post of 12:32, Olive.

lol nachu...exactly happened to me...lol

Confused girl, we know there is nothing to laugh about it for ur problem..But u know we QLers have witnessed this kind of pblm umpteen number of times..And plz don't mind, they were all related to one particular community..I don't want to get into trouble by naming it but many of us are aware of it..So kindly take our replies sportingly...

Now coming to ur question,i just can't understand one thing how its possible to fell in love with two people at the same time??? I m married as well but never ever though of neone else except my husband..This is just beyond my understanding..If u were knowing that u were doing something wrong, u could have stopped ur heart or ur feelings to fall for others..And dear, tellin u-ITS POSSIBLE..ok...A man/woman seeks an affair outside marriage either when neone of them aren't satisfied with their partner or not loving each other...same thing must have happened to u...If u don't have kid and has only a few yrs of marriage, its better to confront ur husband and tell him everything...this all i can say...

I think the question confused girl is do you love your husband? If the answer is No, then what's keeping you in the marriage?

Dear all, guys we should be careful to say about nationality but even you say it i respect you guys as a person, Maybe most of Filipino's always expressing there feelings than others, so you always read some topics like this...

Confused girl- you knew what the answers of your question its a matter of CHOICE... and you know already right or wrong, old enough for that and dont be confused...

you're right, maybe this is just deep friendships...and i am confusing it with love...

thank you...

as ur title says: WRONG Relationship!!!

so u know it is wrong.... jus think 4 a while it may b just a crush or most probably deep frndship(thts not wrong relationshp).... just think of ur life wit ur hubby... evrythin will b alrite but watever choose wisely... ths is Life,,,, u r maturd enough... hope u will find a gud solution

samir i'll show u attitude :/ anyway scroll up a few comments and u will find my answer regarding that issue. same as u did with my joke, when we r being fun and playful u twist things around and i dont appreciate that!

CG....

The real full bloodied Filipinas always believe in the sanctity of marriage...we always consider our children's welfare not our own life or happiness...

Pray to God...to lead u away from temptation....

how come u know his wife is nagging and has negative thoughts...because he told u or u really met her anytime

atlast grace said some FACT

refer an old thred ...

http://www.qatarliving.com/node/802582

I think it's not love at all. I think it is just LUST!

i understood that u are a filipino right after reading ur question .. didnt need to check ur profile ;)...

Filipion love stories are really funny n interesting ....haha.. all of them are having 2 or 3 ..and husband or GF back home ...and every 2 minutes they come up with different stories .. :D (no offence, this is what i normally hear from my philipino collegues too )

Do you really have to post something so personal in a forum like this? It's such a shameless act. I wouldn't really mind if you haven't specified your nationality in your profile but look! That's why Filipinas are always seen as sluts! Gosh.. How immature.. How indecent.. It also affects others, not just you, since people like to GENERALIZE..

Now what the hell is that answer suppose to tell us, girl u are something, and I like the attitude

/smackhead

If your husband really is cheating on you and you can't divorce him because of the stupid laws in the Philippines then I say go for it. Just remember that if you do his wife will feel like you do.

why are you so upset deepb?

Please hit search before posting such nonsense which has been discussed multiple times in QL.

there is no affair!!!

Cross connections...

multiple partners

a novel idea

to make this clear to everyone, this is not a girl friend / boy friend thing...it just so happen that one day you realize that you have a "more that friend" feelings to each other...

but that doesnt mean that we are now in a relationship!!!

and that doesnt mean we give in to that!!!

i just like to share if this was just normal...

now you're making me more confused!!!

ataulah LOL! like i said in another thread "sharing is caring" and every1 is happy haha

I didn't say it 'happens' only to filipinas.. i said, they like to expose their affairs, which makes them looking lustful

Why are you a descent girl? From where to where did you descend? or did you de-scent yourself? does that reduce the in-heat problems?

drmana, I can predict the reply for your suggestion- But we can't get divorce in Philippines because we are catholic. Just seen way too many of these posts in QL.

Why don't mods, just delete this thread and tell her that it has been discussed too many times, use search button, when they could do that about FU's Homosexuality thread?

Aarrrrrgggghhhhh......when will this stop?

Confused girl, divorce your husband and tell your guy friend to do the same and two of you try to live happily ever after. At least that will end misery of both of your current partners and they can find someone for themselves as well.

i know it's not an excuse if my husband has been cheating me that's why this happens...

i already know what i need to do...for some of you, dont judge me just because i ask a "stupid" question...

i just like to share, or maybe someone might also learn from it...

i am a descent girl...if not, i will not be confused with what i feel and just do whatever i want and feel to do...

confused... your just making yours and your family's life miserable. think of your family first before making such mistakes... or maybe you made already.

QS, sad to say but it always happened but not only to 'filipinas'.

Talk to your husband and your BF about it. Maybe there is room for everyone.

thanks for all the comments...

i just want to express what i feel...i know for a fact that it's wrong...

but what if my husband has beed cheating for years now? and his wife is always a nagger and a very negative person...

but i know this will not last for long...

i just like to share and hoping somebody out there understands... :(

I no likey, I deletey.

choozy_84 just asked im just curious about ?????

where is my signature pic.. mod'z no no no nohhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

and why u ask asif?

deepb.. sory lool...

flor.. i wish mod'z not delete my signature lool

Always remember that it is always easy to fall in love with someone we are always with, because we are getting to know them more deeply and if we have special moments or if we let simple moments to be special, unconsciously you feel they become part of your life already.

You must not continue to get close to him if you are getting in loved to him in which you know will not end to any better and will just make your life complicated and ruined.

If in case you are not feeling the same way with your husband at the moment, or if it did not happen to you before your marriage, it is not an excuse. You are already in a marriage life and it is your commitment to be with your husband and no one other than him should be the closest to your heart and surely you will not give your colleague special space in your heart and mind.

it's Ara's! Right?

signature or your account totally! Lol! Ice Cream!

choozy what gif image is that????

choozy, your signature pic is too distracting.....

how can u be married to a man and inlove with another? i mean even thinking of some1 else is considered cheating and a sin i mean im married and if id want some other guy i wouldnt stay with my husband and make him live a lie or pretend to be happy marriage.but if u have kids and the other man has got kids of himself also then u both should think of the little ones before wanting to satisfy whatever uve got for each other! its not their fault neither ur partners' fault

hmm confused .. ur matured now,.. do what u think the best for u and the best for ur family....

you ask him if your husband can see his wife

sorry for saying it.. but...again, next filipina and adultery thread..

why they love to expose their lustful nature so much??

break! To cool your mind!

tells you to do. Follow your heart ;)

I am in love with a married woman, who have three grown-up children. And she is the best friend of my best friend! See the similarities!

deepb u can introduce them to me then....:)

Yes, they do. I know a couple of hot grass-munchers who I would never introduce to Darude.

deepb but humans dont eat Grass...right ? :(

I would like to leave two quotes -

1. Grass is always greener on the other side.

2. You do not appreciate what you have till you lose it.

If your sure these don't apply to you, go ahead and do what you feel like.

is it right love at the wrong time? take it if you are 75 yrs old now....enjoy and live to the fullest...good luck

FS can you make your husband fall in love with my wife :(

why are you confusing? and for what reason you are confusing? you know from yourself that you're a married woman and the guy also...and you know that having more than a friend relationship between the guy and you is a sin...so why are you confusing and where you are confusing?

muskullah... you went here in qatar to work to support the love ones that you left on your country not to fall in love and find another headache...

Oooohhhh, wife swap!

Soonam i agree with you.... May be divorce is the best option.. Talk to your husband.

Your Relation Status : Its Complicated

Make his wife fall in love with your husband...simple:) lol

rizks are u sure that ur talking about love or is it lust (hawas)???

Sneesy Love doenst have or See any boudaries....:)

confused girl..ur husband is here?

Well it's your call, you want to be morally right?

You got issues you have to stick to one only don't get into the unfaithful relationship at all, remember what goes around comes around. Just ask your husband for divorce and believe me this more respectful than anything else

I predict a little four-some action in confused girl's near future...

Rizks, you have so many relationships, is there enough of you to go round?

confused girl.. ur husband is here?

why u have to disclose our relationship here ? :(

nope...my guy Best Friend

Another one bites the dust.

Is he your husband?