Wives are losing husbands to housemaids

britexpat
By britexpat

 

This is interesting - is it because men are looking for a more caring partner?

Saudi men are increasingly falling in love with their housemaids and are marrying them to the surprise of their non-suspicious wives, local newspapers say.
Several local men have taken their maids, mostly Asian, as second wives in line with Islamic law which permits a Muslim man to take four wives at a time.
“Areej still remembers the day when her maid Rita came to her house for the first time. Areej was very nice to her, treated her respectfully and never gave her more work than what she could handle,” ‘Saudi Gazette’ said.
“Not for one second did Areej think that her maid could steal her husband. After all, her husband never liked the maid, he told his wife, and was always avoiding contact with her.

“However, Areej noticed something fishy about her husband’s relationship with the maid. She could swear that something was going on between them.”

The paper said Areej later got suspicious and decided to send the maid back to her homeland.

Five months later, Rita was back in Saudi Arabia, not as a maid but as the official second wife of Areej’s husband, it said.

“Areej was completely shocked. She cannot stop thinking why her husband, of all women out there, married her maid. Is there something wrong with her that made her husband make this decision or is it him who has the problem?”

Samira Abdulmohsin, a Saudi housewife, had a similar experience. Two months after the arrival of her maid, she discovered the relationship between her husband and the maid, who ended up getting married.

“I guess I never thought that my maid would take my husband away from me. He was cheating on me with her and I found out about it.

“What did he see in her? I cannot figure. She is not beautiful or clean,” Samira said.

Another wife, Badriya Khalid, said most housewives forget that maids are women who have feelings and aspire to get married to a well-to-do man.

“Every time my husband says nice things to me, the maid gets jealous. I can tell from her face. I also discovered she uses my make-up and puts on my dresses when I am out.

“She was trying to attract my husband’s attention,” she said.

“I think wives should be blamed as well when their husbands start looking at the maids. A wife should take good care of her husband and never let the maid does it for her.”

The Arabic language daily ‘Al Riyadh’ quoted Dr. Abu Bakr Baqadir, former sociology professor at King Abdulaziz University, as saying that some husbands have “complicated personalities” and want too much care from their wives.

“By care I mean accepted norms in society such as washing his clothes, cooking his favorite food and maintaining her looks.

“If the wife fails in giving the husband this kind of care, he will definitely start thinking about the maid, especially if the latter tries show off her beauty, and he finds this in the maid,” he said.

“I am not saying that wives should act as maids and do nothing but take care of their husbands.

“What I am saying is that wives should have a strong relationship with their husbands, a relationship that is built on mutual respect and love.”

 

*** Areej's comments are intertesting - What say you ? ***

By armaa59837• 6 Oct 2015 13:33
Rating: 3/5
armaa59837

Wives choose domestic help ...either very old, very religious and married, or do your own work if you wish to remain only wife..... in any case men are polygamy .......it is by nature. some express, some don't

By armaa59837• 6 Oct 2015 13:33
Rating: 4/5
armaa59837

Wives choose domestic help ...either very old, very religious and married, or do your own work if you wish to remain only wife..... in any case men are polygamy .......it is by nature. some express, some don't

By Molten Metal• 6 Oct 2015 12:12
Molten Metal

Doha, You must understand the difference in a lady before & after 2 - 3 kids ..............

By dohaplanner• 5 Oct 2015 17:47
Rating: 3/5
dohaplanner

Husbands loves hardworking wives. Most of these first wives aren't hard working and can't handle the domestic works, that is why they got the maids in the first place. Most of them have 2 or 3 kids and do not have a place of work to go, yet they would request the assistance of maids.

By britexpat• 5 Oct 2015 13:11
britexpat

Wunae: I think you've hit the nail on the head

By Wunae• 5 Oct 2015 13:04
Rating: 4/5
Wunae

Saudi law makes it legal for a man to have more than 1 wife. Why shouldn't he get married to his maid if that's what he wants. He's not breaking the law or doing anything wrong. And who are these first wives to complain about it? Or is the problem that the first wives think that the husband shouldn't lower his status by marrying an... Asian!

By acchabaccha• 5 Oct 2015 12:12
Rating: 4/5
acchabaccha

If a wife allows another female to get foothold on her domain even if it is in the form of maidservant, she should be ready for the consequences. It is as simple as that.

By Molten Metal• 5 Oct 2015 11:04
Rating: 3/5
Molten Metal

A warm smile & that special voice .................

By britexpat• 5 Oct 2015 11:01
britexpat

Niazah: I agree... Perhaps this proves that men want affection and care...

By Molten Metal• 5 Oct 2015 10:48
Molten Metal

Brit, Mens' flaws are acceptable to them ............. ...............

By Naizah• 5 Oct 2015 10:43
Naizah

"What did he see in her? I cannot figure. She is not beautiful or clean,” Samira said.

Look like she really deserve it ....lol

By omarm88• 5 Oct 2015 10:16
omarm88

having one wife is painful but two?. They will regret their choices soon enough

By britexpat• 5 Oct 2015 10:06
britexpat

MM: But men become unshapely over time as well ....

By Molten Metal• 5 Oct 2015 10:03
Rating: 5/5
Molten Metal

Two persons are always different , this difference although natural is the real culprit. I am sure if a wife & a maid are similar in { all aspects } no wise husband will make a mistake in choosing the 2nd one ........... I mean he will keep on loving either his wife or his maid ................. Provided both { wife & maid } continue to remain same ........ don't become unshapely over time ..... The problem will still raising it's head if the difference between the two begins to rise visibly ...... ..............

By Wild Turkey• 5 Oct 2015 09:57
Rating: 4/5
Wild Turkey

Totally uninteresting comments. Men will always be tempted by a female. It's built-in in their genes.

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