Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior

And she followed the Chinese way

What I find kinda funny is that both the mother and children in this story are Americans. Read carefully, born here, lived here all their lives.

Mandi

it's good to see one's kids excel but this just seems so sad. this may be the right thing to do academically but recently the trend (at least from where i come from) has been for children to be raised as well-rounded individuals. i've seen fresh graduates like these in my old job back home. they are highly skilled and intelligent but they do know how to have fun and have fond memories of their childhood. it's possible to be artists, musicians or athletes and graduate with honors as well.

not all learning can be had within the four walls of the classroom. yes, you suffer for the first 25 years of your life and then enjoy the next 25 but by then you'd have spent the best years of your life (i.e. youth) just working.

but what do i know, i don't have kids :D wasn't there a forum topic before about a chinese mother who 'accidentally' killed her daughter because she kept hitting her when the kid couldn't memorize some poem?

Regarding Parenting, When we were kids, if we fell down while running or got hurt, the first thing our parent will do is give us some strong words as how come we are so careless, we should never fall down again/hurt ourselves.

Only after receiving this lecture we were getting midical treatment/mother care.

Obviously this is debatable whether it was right or wrong, but one positive thing that came of out of this was we became cautious.

That is not always the case, I thoroughly enjoyed the first 25 years of my life and then moved to Qatar. Now if you're calling that "doomed", then idk what you would call if I had stayed back in Bombay :-P

Thanks for sharing.

All mothers irrespective of country is best.

Our life has two division. First 25 years and then next 25 years.

You can enjoy any one of this.

If you enjoy first 25 years, your career is doomed and you will suffer for the next 25 years.

This aptly summarizes the article

Western parents try to respect their children's individuality, encouraging them to pursue their true passions, supporting their choices, and providing positive reinforcement and a nurturing environment. By contrast, the Chinese believe that the best way to protect their children is by preparing them for the future, letting them see what they're capable of, and arming them with skills, work habits and inner confidence that no one can ever take away.

Each group have their own perspective in raising their kids.

Not only Chinese Mothers Are Superior

Every society has their own style of upbringing children

It’s good to put pressure on children to study but don’t force your wishes on them to select subjects or extra extracurricular activities.

Sports are good for good health and healthy mind. I always recall the movie “TARE ZAMEEN PAY” that every child has own abilities in him or her.

Please let your children to live their life and childhood.

I garee. We Indian parents also believe in giving the best education and values for the children...even I am considering sending my boy to a better school in India..as we dont get the best education here in Indian schools.

Its true that if parents push their kids in studies they will excel...but doesn’t mean that they should not have any fun in life...they can do certain things only in this age...if they miss doing it now..when are they going to experience it..

I have two cousins who are doctors...when we used to play in our childhood..they were not allowed to play not even allowed to talk to us.. if we go to their house..they will studying..wont even come out...she was a state level Rank Holder...even with all fun we also managed to get distinction (90%) in our school finals but they missed their childhood...

You're right on that one. Most first generation immigrants need to prove a point, so they push their kids extra hard and go the extra mile to ensure they come out in flying colours, even if that means loosing out on the little joys in life.

I have seen a similar trend amongst Indian parents. For immigrants, Education of their offspring is paramount, because it is a way of giving them a push on to better things.

I have a very good Indian friend who gave up a lucrative job in Saudi in order to enrol his children in a "better" school in London and work with them. Both the children are now Doctors.

you are right...i agree

Thank God I am not a Chinese... they are worse than Hitler...

We don’t do such things to our kids..still they get A+ and good in other activities as well..these Chinese women are over protective and not letting the child to have an identity of his own...

I don’t find their parenting very impressive!! I rather felt they are exploiting/torturing the child..

not have a life means - not be a part of school skits, not be allowed to choose your extra-curricular activities, not play video games/ watch tv, etc.

They are kids for crying out loud, if they don't do all this in school, when they are young, when will they do it?

wow TT.boy what a nonsense also!

irregardless of the nationality FS, mothers have their ways to raise their children, may it be brutal to some or not.

were never allowed to do

• be in a school play

??????????????????????

• complain about not being in a school play

Strange!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

• watch TV or play computer games

Means Chinese children never watch TV or play any Computer games?

I wonder why and how they so good in make such things

• choose their own extracurricular activities

Then who select their activities ( parents ) then why don’t they take part in those on their behalf. They don’t have freedom to LIVE

• get any grade less than an A

They monitor their children by Grades not as a child

• not be the No. 1 student in every subject except gym and drama

Means they need some professionals not children why don’t they go to orphaned house and buy top graders.

In my observation Chinese can do ANY THNING for money. when I was in Dubai I pick up 1 Chinese Girls ( pro*****) she told me she was school teacher in China but now she is a call girl in Dubai as she can earn more in this profession God bless her Mom what she taught her.

Every time I meet girls in Bahrain and Dubai they are mostly from China and ready to do anything for money even if they work in office they do that for some EXTRA MONEY.

GOD BLESS THEM

if only you live in China expatgeezer

Amazing generalizations.

Yes, the current generation may push their children, but this happens to most first generation immigrants.

Ofcourse Chines Mothers are Superioir as they only have to raise one child.

it's just a mother's own way of parenting Colt :)

- not allowed to have a LIFE :-(

It depends on what you mean by not allowed to have a life...

thanks for sharing, very informative :)