which is which?
if you are to choose between your career and lovelife, which one will you choose if this is the situation?
In your career, you have to work double the time if possible to support the needs of your family achieve your goals in life.
While in lovelife, your in a relationship with a man who is willing to give anything you and your family needs and you both love each other and will also marry you soon but one condition is you have to quit your career.
LOL :)
"We cannot control the negative atmosphere of the world, but we can control the atmosphere of our minds"
Well then I've taken whichever one includes husband (cause I don't need one of those to have kids or a family) and smashed it.
"I fight with love and I laugh with rage, you have to live light enough to see the humor and long enough to see some change." Ani Difranco
Gypsy, the word "always" is very strong, I believe in order to lead a good life we have to balance things:
"Imagine life as a game in which you are juggling five balls in the air. You name them - work, family, health, friends, and spirit - and you're keeping all of these in the air. You will soon understand that work is a rubber ball. If you drop it, it will bounce back. But the other four balls - family, health, friends, and spirit are made of glass. If you drop one of these, they will be irrevocably scuffed, marked, nicked, damaged, or even shattered. They will never be the same. You must understand that and strive for balance in your life".
"We cannot control the negative atmosphere of the world, but we can control the atmosphere of our minds"
darling...if u love the person enough, u would be willing to make that sacrifice (well, if he really could provide u with everything u need)...im sure u'll be able to find something to keep urself busy, like kids and taking care of ur hubby...and of course, spending his money ;-P but seriously, its just finding out what ur priorities are...if ur enjoying your career and have lots of goals u want fulfilled, maybe love could wait...but if u think its not worth risking losing a great oppurtunity to live happily ever after with someone...go with ur man then ;-P
"...the sh%t you hear about me might be true. but then again it can be as fake as the biatch who told you..."
Don't particularly care if I do meet him WaRider, and if I do meet some guy, my job will always come first.
"I fight with love and I laugh with rage, you have to live light enough to see the humor and long enough to see some change." Ani Difranco
here you are.. hiding from the love of your life... ME!!! :-P
Gypsy, I'm impressed you have the ability to compare your current work satisfaction with a statisfaction that you can get from a guy that you have not met yet!
"We cannot control the negative atmosphere of the world, but we can control the atmosphere of our minds"
“One thing that I don't understand, why would women insist on working while she can find a man who would be able to give her everything she wants? Some will say ... I want to be independent, the others would say ... I don't want him to pay for everything, the others would be saying most of the women work these days. I don't know honestly what are the other reasons, but will all of my respect ... Work should not be a woman priority in life ...”
How about I enjoy my job and it gives me for more personal satisfaction then catering to a man ever would? Right now I have a job I love, and it is far more satisfying then falling in love with some guy who may or may not stick around.
"I fight with love and I laugh with rage, you have to live light enough to see the humor and long enough to see some change." Ani Difranco
I quote..
“One thing that I don't understand, why would women insist on working while she can find a man who would be able to give her everything she wants? Some will say ... I want to be independent, the others would say ... I don't want him to pay for everything, the others would be saying most of the women work these days. I don't know honestly what are the other reasons, but will all of my respect ... Work should not be a woman priority in life ...” unquote
Why it will be an issue if the woman wants to work?..does it occur to men that she might be doing this only for herself? (and nothing more) …and why deprive her from this, if she can be a mother, wife and a career woman all at the same time, why forbid her from being so?…(I know this out of the topic…) just a thought though…
Choosing career over love, doesn’t necessarily mean that the person will ignore (nor never) find love ever…just a matter of priority at a given period of time…it will be a bonus if you find career and love in harmony (no conflicts, no issues)..
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It's not because we have been falling in love with the "wrong" person, love is fictitious. Love is real and do exist, the thing is it has to be mutual and based on compromise. I have had my share of heartbreak (recently even) but I will never give up trying to find love again and I will not let my previous experience affect my life.
We can choose love and career at the same time.
"We cannot control the negative atmosphere of the world, but we can control the atmosphere of our minds"
of the few times that I see Gypsy posting in one thread again :) Guess this issue is bothering you somehow, It bothered me yesterday and I was having an argument about it with a friend who chooses also career. You are right that it does not work most of the time, but that is not true love.
Love is about sharing everything, it is not about ... the good part for me and the bad for you ... or why there should be problems? One of the reasons would be like you said people being selfish, most of them are just looking for their needs and their rights but they don't look to the other side. When you take, you gotta give. When you ask someone to be nice, then you had to be like that too ... the subject is not that easy to be discussed here ... guess that I will open a thread later about it :)
Good morning to all of you and have a nice start for the week.
Swissgirl I think real love is fictitious. People are far to selfish to ever really love someone. Once again, I will go with career.
"I fight with love and I laugh with rage, you have to live light enough to see the humor and long enough to see some change." Ani Difranco
Good move Jasskat, on the top of that it's not like you can't find a job here in Doha so you can still work on your career wherever you go.
"We cannot control the negative atmosphere of the world, but we can control the atmosphere of our minds"
I just went through this exact situation, and it was not an easy choice to make.
I had to decided on marrying the one I love, moving around the world and leaving everything I knew behind or staying with my career.
In the end I chose love. My husband is very supportive of me, and was willing to do whatever he had to do to make sure I was happy. I gave up my career by choosing to move to Doha, which is a very scary thought. You always have those little doubts in the back of your mind like what if it doesn't work out, what if I get stranded with nothing in a foreign country? I was open and honest and shared all these thought with my husband and it really helped.
I think as long as your love is willing to support you emotionally and is understanding it will be ok. Love doesn't come around very often and when it does, I say go for it.
As to my career I gave up, well I have new opportunities now. I made a couple of sacrifices, but in the end I gained so much more.
What is a life if you have no one to share it with?
tra la la
and each love his/her partner, he/she should be open-minded and try to compromise. Anything can be settled if they will discuss it thoroughly (less the egos and pride) but with the understanding of wanting his/her partner to be happy...
You can always find other chances to change your career... So I'd prefer lovelife instead of my career. You can always find a job and career easily but love, u can't.
...Ersin...
Ok it comes naturally, but if it is real does it die?
Have a nice time all the time !
And after all I m going through in my life I will have to say ..It is not only you ... A pure & real love perhaps may not grow, but could never die
Have a nice time all the time !
Good question.After all im going through in my life i will say the real and pure love will never end.I believe in this,but thats my point of view and of course others will disagree.Smile.
*Create your own destiny,fighting against your dark sides,raise your
spirituality.Every day is a new day.A new life.
Keep the faith!*
i will pack the lovelife and throw it in trash bin and carry on with my career. YES
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Ladies I'm sorry to divert the topic to love, as Gypsy mentioned a very interesting point when she mentioned the "love ended" and here I would like to ask does love really end ? if so what makes it end
Have a nice time all the time !
That's a different situation here, but normally as I mentioned before the decision will depend on how deep is your pocket.
Have a nice time all the time !
Sometimes you arrive on a point where you cant anymore take care of yourself.Then it`s good to have a family which takes care for you and helps you to stand up again.
*Create your own destiny,fighting against your dark sides,raise your
spirituality.Every day is a new day.A new life.
Keep the faith!*
I chose love over a career, and then the love ended and I was left with nothing. From this point onwards I will always choose career because the only person you can trust to do right by you and take care of you is yourself.
"I fight with love and I laugh with rage, you have to live light enough to see the humor and long enough to see some change." Ani Difranco
I think it depends where you are located.Here in Swiss it is not so expensive like Doha or Dubai.So it is easier to start with few.And the working laws here guarantees you fair wages for your work.So im used to have a good life,not luxury but it is enough for me and my love.
*Create your own destiny,fighting against your dark sides,raise your
spirituality.Every day is a new day.A new life.
Keep the faith!*
I think it depends where you are located.Here in Swiss it is not so expensive like Doha or Dubai.So it is easier to start with few.And the working laws here guarantees you fair wages for your work.So im used to have a good life,not luxury but it is enough for me and my love.
*Create your own destiny,fighting against your dark sides,raise your
spirituality.Every day is a new day.A new life.
Keep the faith!*
Swissgirl you r right ...what the value is a great career when you find your self alone.. but how can u have a family without having the proper finance for it, so u need have a career first other wise be prepared for a miserable life
Have a nice time all the time !
Always love.What is a great career when you wake up one day and you have no family around you?No kids,nothing?And how can you be sure to be loved not for your position or money,but only for yourself,the person you are?You never can be sur of that i think.But if you meet the love bevore career and she or he goes the same way with you,supports you and is helping you,well then you can be happy and proud of all you reached.
*Create your own destiny,fighting against your dark sides,raise your
spirituality.Every day is a new day.A new life.
Keep the faith!*
not as simple as it looks so many factors r involved its not as simple as black n white.
There are three sides to every argument: your side, my side and the right side
Yes Azliana ..you are right..I see it too is as gumble
Have a nice time all the time !
Ok ..Got it ...basically it not your situation...and we all know that .. but I m sticking to my point :)
Have a nice time all the time !
Basically, it will depend on the person who will make the decision...
Sad to say, in my case...I always placed my career over love...why?
For me, giving up a career for the belief in someone's love with the "PROMISES" TO TAKE CARE & SUPPORT, would be a BIG GAMBLE. It would mean giving up my independence, the other half of who I am.
In the past, I almost made a decision...but thank goodness I didn't...
....i dont need a fight on my posted topic..
willy: same as what i said to maximmo...this isnt my situation...its just simply a topic to discuss.
....i dont need a fight on my posted topic..
willy: same as what i said to maximmo...this isnt my situation...its just simply a topic to discuss.
So if some one is starting his career it will be difficult for him to leave it for his love life , and I think the answer can also depend on the gender type in some cultures
Have a nice time all the time !
Darling I think It all depend on how deep is your pocket. the deeper it is, the more likely you will are able to make risky decisions about career. Be it career vs. love life or anything
Have a nice time all the time !
....no prob buddy... i didnt say to delete anything i just edited the topic i posted,,,and asked apology for those who wrote their comments before i edited it..
what's up? All I did was delete my post cos you told us you'd changed the subject matter ! Sorry if there's a misunderstanding :o(
I couldn't just delete it without typing something and I don't think I said anything to make you think I was being 'off' or anything, did I?
lol
I'm off to eat - have fun :D
actually.. it's not me on this tough decision making....its just a topic max...
My dear Darling, I’m doing fine. Thanks for asking. I just wish that you wouldn’t have to go through a tough decision choosing between love and career :D
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......please read again,,,,,im fine buddy and you??
I guess that you can find other chances to change your career later, but when you don't find someone to truly love you everyday. I will pursue my career with the one that I love and I'm sure that she will understand and support me. I can do that alone, but it would be hard for me alone. Honestly love means a lot to my life and I can build a lot on that, but building a career or life without love ... I'm really sorry to me this is impossible.
I don't want to waste my life chasing my career because it won't make any sense later when I find that I was succeeded in getting the career that I want and stay there alone having no life ... no family ... nothing at all ... It would be really too late to fix those kind of life big mistakes later ...
One thing that I don't understand, why would women insist on working while she can find a man who would be able to give her everything she wants? Some will say ... I want to be independent, the others would say ... I don't want him to pay for everything, the others would be saying most of the women work these days. I don't know honestly what are the other reasons, but will all of my respect ... Work should not be a woman priority in life ...
Just a question, if you quit work; can he provide for all your needs and your family?
If he really loves you, He will respect your decision and love the things that are important to you. Cheers! :D
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thats why i specially mentioned you on my apology..well..if an apology isnot accepted..what to do...
...Failure in life is not a hindrance to success.
no worries darling, still i would choose career..i find my happiness now with work..:)
doesn't really matter if i will not have a lovelife, as long as i am happy with what i'm doing...i've tried to be a homebody (not working before) but guess it doesn't work for me...not my thing, so i gave up..
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topic changed after my post, so have deleted the post as it wasn't relevant after the amendement lol
i edited the topic
...Failure in life is not a hindrance to success.
i edited the topic...
...Failure in life is not a hindrance to success.
i think at this age career.. i am trying hard to not get hurt from relations but i do. someday i will just let it go..
sorry to say this, but i have to choose my career (in fact, i already have)..:D
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