'What happens in Qatar, stays in Qatar'
Qatar is a transit place where people simply come and go for job opportunities...everything that happens outside work is a mere entertainment!
before i used to ask why people go for extra-marital affair and why there are so many play boys and play girls esp in the mid east. i used to judge them until i came here and saw the real thing.
sometimes, u cannot understand something unless u get to be in that situation. when i came here, i saw how people fight homesickness and how they strive hard to earn.
it is in human nature that we always look for things that would satisfy us and we all have different ways to be satisfied.
what i notice is that majority of relationship that builds here has the intention of 'using' one another in some way. for instance, a guy who longs for his wife back home would seek a companion here and a woman who doesn't make good money would find a sponsor to buy what she cannot afford for herself then they'll find comfort with each other coz they can both satisfy each other's needs or i can also set a simple example...pleasure! im sure i don't need to further explain it;)
relationship in this kind of place is temporary. no one would ever dream living here all his life so we are all here for one reason - to work! thus, relationship here usually lasts when the work contract ends and that's i think is emotionally training us not be emotional.
expats in mid east are usually have strong emotions and i believe that it is because of their experiences. they are very firm and they don't get easily attached coz they know that soon another opportunity will knock their door, they will have to step in a new world again so they will soon leave everything they have here.
for many, it all happens here and ends here as well...
Most of ya'll people are not as well traveled and experienced in working in other countries. So your input is not really valid. You know who you are. But anaa is 98% right.
Their is a small percentage that have better lives here and create Qatar as a home. Which is great for whomever. But mainly Qatar is a working country for a time being.
I'm speaking for expatriates. Not locals. Mostly locals are closed minded. Sorry people. Not meaning to speak hated but only speaking what is true by observation and conversation.
yeah gamitan talaga.. very true...
sana wala akung magamit at di aku magpapagamit..
Don't agree completely escpecially paragraph talking about relationships, accomodations, sponsorship, etc.
Why one wanted to live in such a hell? Cheap stuff
What a perfect truth! i second your thought on this..
World is a transit place for everyone.
Brite i second ur thought.............
"Qatar is a transit place where people simply come and go for job opportunities." This may be true for many, but not for all! I came here to LIVE. And I might stay here or anywhere else in the world. Because "the world is a transit place where people simply come and go"! As you can see with Ghaddafi and Mubarak!
not possible. When some things happen here, you have to get out of the country to save yourself :)
Yah what happen here can stay here too...
what percentage ends here?
i just borrowed ur slogan mr. vegas;)
:)
its better to know someone with an empty mind than with someone with a brain that full of s--- stuff... :(
(bato bato sa langit ang tamaan wag sanang magalit)
Dont steal our slogan
again I ask, how many "saints" are really sinners. And there to join this discussion as knowing nothing? It is really hard to accept reality if you are in denial!
Will postpone it for now but already got the answers that I needed.
It's funny how judgement (for some) would always be driven by nationality or gender.
Chill Tinks. let's just get wasted here... http://www.qatarliving.com/node/2205863#comment-1991377
isnt that the norm here TB?
Why worry so much about what would happen in future? Just indulge in here and now. Oh tell me lovers in Doha. You won't live here for eternity. Would you be concerned of a departing loved one. Departure could be in soul and physics. Tell me how many married couples who are living under one roof for years and they live worlds apart.
In relatioship, “Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.” Long live my beloved Ibn Al Rumi.
For one passing moment, whether you are an expat or not, connection to another human being is to be connected to who you are. For that matter,Carpe diem
For those who are not familiar with the term Carpe Dieam, here a nice explanation:
'the phrase is part of the longer Carpe diem, quam minimum credula postero – "Seize the Day, putting as little trust as possible in the future"'
maybe they use google translate and something came up not so good in their senses. j/k. :P
anaana Mods cant read between the lines they have automated robots if they see key words they will either block you or your thread..:) lol
me? thinking of looking for commitment? LMAO!!!
that's why i told u maybe they didn't read the content or they read it but they didn't understand! LOL.
anaana No its not that.. Its because it does'nt happen here or should not happen here. maybe they are thinking that you are looking for a commitment? lol
yeah, what's wrong with that? it says 'how about visiting matching site?' lol.
my question was 'why men are afraid of commitment?' what does a matching site has to do with it? lol
i guess the mods misunderstood it coz of the term 'commitment' so maybe they immediately removed it without even reading the content.
Did anyone sent you a private message already? your penny bag will be emptied soon! ROFL. :))
lol BM. the power of penny! Its only because of my penny or because or some one trying to pick up my penny?
UK, it's because of your penny. :P
Anaana P your other thread has been ooops..:(
i used to think it as a bad thing but now that i've seen it myself, i can say it could be both good and bad...still depends on many factors!:)
So Anaana what is your conclusion? Is it a good a thing or a bad thing?
definitely no. im referring to no particular nationality as it goes to everyone.
i don't think that what i wrote above is about being pessimist coz i simply justified the things i used to judge before.
and nah...it's not justifying my own action;) i still easily get attached by the way.
is it specific to a particular group of nationality/ies?
pretty good analysis but yet so pessimistic and desperate, especially from a (filipina)!! haven't u noticed some who met and married here in qatar, I'm not talking about races but happens that i knew cople of philippinos who met, married and lived happily here, despite injustice in some regulations of the country that can b real obstacles or "excuse" for having short tirm fling or whatever, but they made it work..
and no u didn't describe the middle east, u've only described a normal "unfaithful" expat attitude, and qatar never represents the middle east in general
PLEASE BE POSITIVE :)
lol flor
not-so-good people?
Or shall we ask, how many of the saints are really sinners?
Its all too easy to make excuses for doing the wrong things..
Expert in what UK..?
Well, whatever happens in qatar doesn't always stay here..its either delivered or aborted back home :-/
DK seems like you an expert ?
In a meeting with the management, a colleague of mine asked for additional perks. The boss said " Now that we are giving you a family visa and a 2 BHK acco, do you want us to give a family too. Just find your own family and do whatever you want if you don't wanna bring your wife here.."
yep, it shocked me at first to learn that the stuff movies are made of are actually happening here. even more shocking when i learned that some of my friends are doing it too. i mean, they're all good people and all. i didn't expect that they would get involved in situations like this. like everything here, you just learn to accept and live with it. i do understand and feel the extreme loneliness they go through that makes them do such morally unacceptable behavior.
i don't want to be like them though. i hope i never end up like them. my mother doesn't deserve a daughter like that. i don't want to be a snatcher in this big quiapo ;P
sure sure >_< cookie ?
yeah, it happens not only in qatar but in all parts of the world. however, majority of expats in mid east do not go to the country to live for good so i stressed the mid east in particular.
i'd rather attach the string around my neck than to go for no string attached with u! hehe...peace;)
first of all this is a world wide thing not in qatar only second of all stress and work is not an excuse for us to act like animals its the oppisite when u have a good relationship with someone u love u work ur ass of to keep it good!!! :)
Wow anaana you have learnt a lot in a short space of time :)
Lol HGL
sure sure if you say so little lady >_<
Though this does apply to any other country out there .
We live in a messed up world .
I am not sure ...but if you are indirectly telling me to date you with no strings attached then let me tell you, I dont mind...:)
I smell a shameful action Justification her.
100% True.............
Indeed, two people satisfying their respective needs. Personally speaking, I sometimes worry though that what starts as a simple functional arrangement might in the end be more to one or the other person - and the process of resolving this when there really is no long term basis can be painful. Is it justifiable hurting another person for personal satisfaction or materialistic gain? Maybe is if you are blatant enough about it and it makes you happy at least for a while. Thanks for your upbeat message - helps me to stop being so fussy and worried.
Maranatha
sure thing ann curtis.. piz.
What happens here happens here but surely will make me giggle even after 2022 Football Worldcup. :D
the thing u wrote above is not only for qatar. U wrote the world we are living nowdays.
i agree with u anaana.... :)
nice to read
really good analysis.
true...spot on!