Settling

Definitely, I know tell me about it!! What an eclectic collection of topics all of equal interest, I love it, it's good to talk!!

Can you imagine the get togethers we would all have, they would be so much fun!!

its even more interesting here watching the interaction of two distinct cultures (arabic / european), a good newspaper and a nice latte and its perfect!

Facebook is good to keep in touch with everyone back in the UK, I have used QL to find things out but have never really been an active participant until today.

this evenings topics cover everything from love and romance to bbq's.

yes it will be good to galvanise the like minded brits that use this forum!

JJDM couldn't agree with you more mate! I luuuurve sitting in a coffee shop watching the world go by and people watching, it's so interesting (plus it satisies my nosy nature lol)!!

It's great socialising on here it has replaced Facebook but to be honest found that a bit boring, but good to keep in touch with friends. I'm enjoying myself socialising on here with you and everyone, I'm glad you haven't experienced a boring weekend!!

I totally agree on the Brit expat group maybe we could shimmy things along a bit, I'm sure people would be interested :)

one of the good things about being here is that you can socialise when you want but also have lots of "me" time too to read, postulate, surf the net, whatever really.

Even watching the world go by over a cup of coffee in starbucks at City Centre is always interesting as the mix of people walking around is so eclectic.

since I have been here I have never had a totally boring or lonely weekend. At the first hint of boredom im on a plane out of here!

Once we get a more active brit expat group going - i think it will be a good way for people to network, socialise and party!

Ha ha wouldn't dream of it!!! Well sleep tight forgot you're ahead there i'm off at the mo, end of term thank goodness!!! definitely stay in touch, night!! :)

Head of English.. lol.. please don't correct spelling mistakes... it's the holidays!

Oh for the fairytale:) I'm off to bed with my wine...

Stay in touch. Lady!!

Funny you should mention that FranElizabeth, my friends always tell me I'm a nightmare and would never settle so who am I to argue lol Call me mad but I love to go out and have a few quiet drinks i love to go out and party but I like to spend time on my own too, people find that really weird. I often get asked whether I'm scared or lonely on my own and I laugh, it's great spending time with yourself, the sofa a glass of wine and the T.V. It would be nice for us to meet up, I think we would definitely have some good nights I agree! Which school are you teaching at?

Very true Mom_me, what we search for as being the 'right' one changes with age and experience. But still too many people are afraid of their own company or they need someone to fill a gap. A partnership is something that enhances the person you already are. Somtimes we find it sometimes we don't. To settle for someone is doing yourself and them a great injustice. Love and our expectations of it is forever changing......:)

my own mother told me i was'impossible to live with'.. I'm too much for myself sometimes.. so to try to cope with 2 kids AND a man.. along with myself?? Nope..8pm arrives and my living room is all my own.

Hey. Welcome when you come.. you'll meet the nicest people on here.. I hope we meet up when you arrive- I've a vision of some nights out! It's pretty slow when you get here.. yu'll be bust alying down yur roots in your complex.. but as much as it's challenging, people are lovely when they get to know you:)

'Criteria on the checklist' keeps changing according to age, and individual preferences. As for marrying to avoid lonliness, do you really believe in 'until death do us part'..And what if this 'second best' partner either dies or files for divorce.

The whole idea of thinking of other person as 'second best' is strange to me. Are'nt we individuals with different colours.

ha ha absolutely and to have total rights over the remote control, oh bliss. Just think, we have no-one to answer to, we can do what we want when we want with whomever we want. And you are right, whenever i'm involved with anyone (which isn't often!!) it is a conmplete head f**k, so exhausting, plus I happen to be a dick magnet so single is probably safest for me (at least that's what my mum said!!)

It's good to talk to you, like minded people! :)

I'd rather wait than go looking for it. Waiting isn't so tough. It's just when you think you've found it and they turn out to be just another lying Cock.. give me the single life.. at least you can pick your nose when you want and feed your QL addiction..

Joking aside. it'll be good to have you here:)

the key is not to think about it too much what will be will be and if it doesn't come along then so what? There are plenty of other things that we can find happiness and fulfillment in :)

There is no need to settle at any age. Some of us meet the love of our lives some of us don't. The ones that settle for something are kidding themselves. Apart from getting sex they are better off apart as they get nothing else. You're kidding yourself.

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I think you have me confused with someone who gives a sh1t.

Yeah I hear what you're saying FranElizabeth, to be swept away would be lovely but I don't know, I'm beginning to think that is something that is very hard to find, maybe one day it will find us, you never know ;)

I'm still single because I believe that you know when someone loves YOU.. and doesn't just want a relationship with anyone.

So many of my friends are married and happy and I'm jealous of that in a way- I just want it to bowl me over... and keep on doing so.

Mr Boycott.....T&A is important but it's not everything. I've seen great looking women married to ordinary or ugly guys. The guys may have gone for the T&A and got it but what did the women see in these guys? Physical mismatches seem to be everywhere!

singleguy! No-one is perfect...One has to accept some one who is similar to him/her with all his/her qualities and defects.

They call it "trade-off" in economics.

"the criteria on their checklist"?.. well...if you chose your "best half" by marking a checklist, it will be hard for you,even second/third time.. and all you will be able to do is "to settle".. it has nothing to do with love and happiness though..

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“You become responsible forever for what you have tamed”. Antoine de Saint-Exupéry

Its all about T&A my friend!!! Don't look any deeper than that.

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Hmmm interesting question asked many times i think. I know many people who have settled for second best because they are scared of being lonely, I think this is probably quite common. Finding someone who ticks all the boxes surely is impossible and i don't like the idea of of box ticking. I would never and never have settled, I prefer to be single than settle down with someone who i know deep down is not right for me!