Separate accomodation

I have explained the details clearly now its better that you pls dont twist the words & distract attention from the topic

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the culture she is from & the culture she is married to is similar to Qatari

What do you mean its Qatari? You want to say in shariah court they practise Qatari culture?

You should have said ISLAMIC CULTURE, so learn to use correct words

Eco-savvy before commenting on something that you dont understand you should think 100 times. Calling someone stupid un-necessarily & finger pointing is very easy but to correct the situation or trying to make it better with some facts is something ppl avoid.

Read the statement properly:

"To add more, the culture she is from & the culture she is married to is similar to Qatari where the groom pays for her expenses, gold & pays her meher (security money) too. But the girl refused for all these & simply asked for a separate home. Looks like she has committed sin & now she is in trouble just because of this"

Here i didnt mention that 'mehr' is Qatari tradition but I said / meant 'payment of mehr' which are two different things. You would be surprised to know, if you are not Pakistani, that if the marriage contract takes place in Pakistan in tribal areas two of the things are removed by default:

1. Woman's right to divorce (Khula).

2. Woman's right to her security money.

Men try their best to keep the security money as low as Rs 500/- & give the lame excuse of the Prophet's era when this security money used to be minimum. But based on those times & 2008, the inflation rate, expenses of a decent livelihood, one cannot keep the meher as low as what it used to be in the initial days of Islam as at that time commodities were too economic / cheap to buy but these days situation is totally different. Islam protects the rights of women but these tribal traditions play dirty games in the name of religion.

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conscious effort thinks giving mehr is Qatari way. How i wish these so called stupid muslims study thier religion

I can't see any problem here and I believe that any man who can live in s separate accommodation rather than the family house should do. Less problems, less conflicts and the two of them can work in their issues when it arise without getting the others involved and indeed .. they won't be most of the time of a help. She can specify that in the marriage contract, nothing wrong with that.

Do not dwell in the past, do not dream of the future, concentrate the mind on the present moment. (Gautama Buddha)

this is weird .. i mean she can write any condition in the marriage contract (if its named so), to guarantee her rights .. thats very normal in Islam .. even the man who writes this contract normally asks the woman if she has any conditions that she prefer them to be written .. so exercising her rights is what annoys the family & hubby .. she better reach an understanding at least with her hubby about this .. she can explain to him why is she having that written i really can't think of a better solutions

women are protected

she had made it very clear b4 marriage. Now the family has gone against her contract. I have put that clause in my sis marriage contract.

What are the reason we are living ?

Is it for God ?

Is it for our family ?

Is it for our society ?

Who is like God ?

Life is beautiful and gracious.

if you have an ideas kindly contact me on : [email protected]

Actually in some tribal areas joint family system prevails & any woman if asks for an independent accomodation she is considered as home breaker. This friend of mine is from different part of Pakistan & the hubby is from real conservative part but she always wanted to live independentaly coz this guyz female family members never went to school based on tribal traditions where female members education is never considered important enough as they are supposed to stay in the four walls of home all the time. My friend saw their family atmosphere & understood if she stays in this home she'll go insane & she'll always be the point of criticism for whatever she does. Based on these things she didnt ask for any of her rights except independent home. Initially all agreed as they were under impression that maybe as honeymoon period my friend would live independently for 2/3 months but when she put this as legal clause in the marriage contract all of a sudden all became her enemies.

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hmmmm.. is she not entitled to this, i mean the couple..to live separately? why it became a big deal, coz she put it in their marriage contract? and how come the husband is not supporting this?....

is it really this hard? can this be a ground for divorce, i mean refusal to follow her demands as per marriage contract?.. apologies for my series of quest, coz just maybe somewhere along my questioning, your friend might realize something.. :)

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couldn't she and the husband just live independently?

Asking for a separate accomodation to maintain her privacy as this family lives in a joint system where not only immediate family members but relatives too live with them

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im a bit confuse.. what sin did she commit again?..

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