Secrets to good relationships
I noticed that recent topics are about relationships like cheating spouse, illicit relationships, etc. Here's a few things to ponder. I agree, communication is the main ingredient to a successful relationship.
RELATIONSHIP SECRETS
ANNIVERSARIES
Always celebrate! Whether it's the 1st or the 50th, each year together is
a triumph.
APPRECIATION
Let each other know how much you appreciate each other.
You may already know but hearing it from each other is always better.
BEST FRIENDS
Be best friends preferably before being boyfriend-girlfriend.
Take time to know each other so the relationship will be a deep one.
Tell each other about your crushes, dreams and problems.
Make sure he/she is your best friend before getting engaged.
The strong bond of friendship will help you both survive tough times.
BOND
Make it a point to spend time together often but leave room for each other.
Also spend time alone w/ each other, so that at the end of the day you could both share your experiences.
This way, you stay interesting with your partner.
CHANGING EACH OTHER
Don't marry an as...le, j.... or a bi.... (an unsuitable person) You'll never change each other.
COMPLIMENTS
Always compliment each other. This will prevent feelings of resentment & thinking that one is being
taken for granted.
DATE
Keep doings things that you both enjoy, do them together. Make time & continue to date to keep the romance - look good, smell good
to maintain physical attraction
DIFFERENCES
Celebrate differences. Never force your ideologies down each other's throat. Give up trying to turn your partner into you. Accept
differences, appreciate them.
FIGHTS
Fight w/ the aim to resolve the issue. Don't outdo each other. The longer you extend the fight. The more chances that you'll say
something hurtful that you don't really mean. As mad as you were w/ your partner, he/she is still the person who laughs at your
jokes & thinks you're hot. Hear each other out, don't dig up old issues. Choose your battles.
Make sure the fight will be worth it & that something will change in the relationship as a result of the fight.
FLAWS
Know that the perfect person does not exist. Know that just as there are things that you love about him/her, there
will be things that will make you go crazy. We are only human with our own flaws.
FUN
Have fun together! This means keeping the fun & spontaneity that was there in the early days.
Allow yourselves to get silly - shower together, pee w/the door open etc.
Being able to make each other laugh & see the lighter, crazier, absurd side
is the best way to get through all the differences in personalities, adjustments in lifestyle & opposing viewpoints.
GOALS
Make sure you have similar goals. It would be difficult to keep your bond intact if your views are
complete opposite.
GRUDGES
Quit tabulating grudges. Let it off. Discuss it, then trash it, don't recycle it.
KEEPING IT HOT
Keep it hot by traveling to diff. places together. A new setting will do wonders.
Always have skin contact - be it holding hands, a massage or just plain leg rubbing.
HONESTY
Don't lie or hide things. The problem will only get bigger.
KNOW EACH OTHER
Learn each other's interest. It really keeps the conversation flowing!
HUG
A hug can be far better more intimate than a kiss.
IDENTITY
Don't lose your personality - that's why he/she fell in love w/you. Have separate interest & activities to keep your individual, & to be
able to contribute more to the relationship.
INDEPENDENCE
Having your own income means you're the boss in your life.
IN-LAWS
Make rooms for the in-laws.
INTENTIONS
Wish each other well. Don't wish each other worst
ISSUES
Speak up about the awkward stuff now, like money & sex. The earlier, the better.
LISTEN
Listen, listen, listen. Hear each other out especially during arguments.
LOOK GOOD
Mind your appearance! Stay fit & healthy for each other.
LOVE
It all boils down to your love, chemistry & respect for each other.
MEMORIES
Remind each other of the old days. Do something that you used to do for each other before.
It may even be corny but it made you two together. Experience new things together- from dining into a new restaurant to
experiencing street food together to exploring to new places. It's the little surprises that make great memories.
MIND READING
No matter how long you've been together, do not think that you can read each other's mind.
NEEDS
Be good to yourself, and then be good to your partner. That's what love is all about. Think about your partner. Will it make
him/her happy? Will she/he enjoy it? Consider each other's feelings. Be very attentive & sensitive to each other's needs, physically &
emotionally, that way your partner learns to do the same for you. Never take your partner for granted.
PRIORITIES
If one says it's important, then it is! Prioritize each other among other things!
SPACE
Give each other space. Have dates with your girlfriends, have your boy's
night out. If you can't trust each other with this, then don't get married.
SORRY
Say sorry when you're wrong.
SURPRISES
No matter how long you've known each other, be open to surprises, both good or bad.
TEAMWORK
Think for two & always work as a team. Consult each other before making a decision because everything will
always affect both of you. Strengthen couple power. In many ways, we have to decide based on what is best for the
relationship in favor of our individual selves.
SUPPORT
Support each other's dream. Be willing to follow your passions, support your partner in his/her decisions & create new ones together.
Two heads are better than one.
TALK
Tell each other's stories. Life goes by so fast & its easy to see how easily couple can grow apart.
Whenever something funny, scary, exciting or juicy happened to you or to
someone you know, tell each other about it & have your partner do the
same. Keep each other in the loop of life, even by email if you have to.
Communication is the main ingredient in successful long relationships.
Share your feelings w/o judgments or criticism, active listening,
then working up to a discussion for problem solving. It takes continuous
effort & learning.
true enough chubby...but i slighly disagree when you said "trying too hard will also work against you". it seems then that these efforts are forced rather than heartily done not to make the relationship better but just to please the partner. I must admit one cannot possibly have all these qualities but if you know your partner well, his/her weaknesses and strengths, then you can both adjust together.
"Communication is the main ingredient in successful long relationships."
relationships are never easy .. does take a lot of work.. well more like time and effort .. which in turn pays off .. if one can learn to be considerate .. learn to compromise at the right times .. be patient .. respect one another .. trust one another .. and have good communication you have the basics down .. oh yea and then all of which Joan had put down :) thats where you try and make it complete .. but i guess at times trying too hard will also work against you :| hmmm .. well .. whats to be done!
life goes on ..
not only going but in good health.
..**.. ""They walk among us. They vote & they even reproduce"" ..**..
For a relationship to work...you trust your partner and you have to be honest with him.
Trust - if you love him/her, you will trust him/her
Honesty - be transparent with your partner, no little secrets whatsoever...
Only...in the REAL WORLD, because of outside factors (people around you, family, career, financial issues etc), it will be a challenge and effort to keep a relationship work and last.
My 2 cents worth of opinion..that's all
It is not enough to do your best; you must know what to do and THEN do your best.-W. Edwards Deming
All it takes is respect for each other.
SDKAK/tcom ... i agree it's a long list...maybe that is why it takes a lot of effort make a relationship last.
Cornellian...i agree with you..
swissgirl..yes that's it :P
thats it.
:-D
*Create your own destiny,fighting against your dark sides,raise your
spirituality.Every day is a new day.A new life.
Keep the faith!*
Like my marriage completed 26 years and still going strong went so fast like we have been married just yesterday
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I would rather have one rose and a kind word from a friend while I'm here
Than a whole truck load when I'm gone
Actually, if a couple have really good chemistry and have been with eachother for a long time then they CAN read eachother's minds, that's the magic of it :D
I'm not always right, but I'm never wrong :P - Garfield
Its long
Thats why its not so easy to have a good relation wont read the full thing or might forget if read
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Than a whole truck load when I'm gone
really long to read everything.
..**.. ""They walk among us. They vote & they even reproduce"" ..**..