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Ultimately, any decision will have to be yours. Nobody can tell you what to do. What friends will do is support you, regardless of what you decide. Good luck.

Thanks for your comment...Like i said above of my post that i should listen of hes side too or what reasons should that be why he does these to me....!!!Anyway im there so why not face him?and find out the truth!!!and lesten his suide of stories....and if it doesnt work.Atleast i try to save our relationship.and its not my lost its hes....

OK, that b.f of yours pissed me off, really. Why would you take all that to see his useless face?! (no offence, but really!)

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Just because you read my posts, it doesn't mean we're buddies!

we will be meeting you very soon...just hang in there girl...

I like and respect ur reply, but prepare ur self from now, and tolerate for anything bad may happen here (which I wish not), so as not to end ur trip by drama, but instead, u can take it easy as u r well prepared from the begining and know that anything may happen, and enjoy ur stay in Qatar with ur friends and x-lovers :p

Again, take care of urself..

Thank you all for your time and effort........it means a lot to me...

i feeling much better now...Again thank you!!

Thanks for your comments.In fairness to him i still give him a chance to explain why this is happining to us..Also he cant come over to finland as you know he is working in qatar...so i though of visiting him bec.its the easies way for both of us...

Sad to say that thing a bet diff than it was..and i hope we can work this out...if its not then i have to move on........and life must go on...........

Guys, he's only been here a month. How settled were you guys after a month? Let her come here and see what it's like. It's not easy picking up and moving to another place.

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dont waste your time and money with a person seems doesnt appreciate anything. things are not same as before, forget him and let the healing begins.

Computers have lots of memory but no imagination.

may be he is getting used to hs new surroundings .. give him one more month

Cheers

something goes wrong, do you know anybody else here? You can always ocntact some of us from the site for whatever you need. some of us know what's it like being alone in a foreign country...

I go with brother pitogohin here, let old flame rekindle when he sees you...you might just reacting/feeling on nothing..

Penguins too r naughty and not faithful :)

Take it easy and smile ..

The more I know people ..

The more I love my ...

(DOG)

I dont mean anything bad, but the point is the dog is much more faithful than lots of people now adays.

If he really loves u from the beginning, he should be the one to visit u in your country, and not the opposite!!

"A good start is half the battle" , unfortunately, it seems that u didnt have a good start with him, he didnt come to u, and when u accept to travel to him and take all the risk, now he gone!!

See, he is now enjoying his life without u, and dont want u anymore, sure he found someone else, and may be he thought that u will come to visit him once, but he found someone whos always here for him! u know this will sure do him good :)

so batter, u too forget, and if u r still coming for him, i think he dont deserve ur time and money, but if u r coming to enjoy, no place in Qatar to enjoy here, its a desert :) (i am kidding)

Wish u best of luck without (or with) him..

It isn't about the money.... sure

But we say 'put your money where your mouth is' or 'actions speak louder than words'

What has he got to lose with you paying and arranging everything?

Please don't let the other posters give you too much false hope...

If he really had wanted to see you then he would have sorted out the ticket with honour, love and pride.

What you must do for sure is come out. You can pm me too.

Don't sit at home feeling all emotionally incontinent. We all get wobbly moments and don't feel alone during yours. It think maybe you should have spent the ticket money on you: new foxy shoes with matching lingerie etc... you are more worthy of your own money than him.

come here and let him smell and touch you once again. physical interaction counts much and brings back fading connections.hope it will all come back.

Im not worried if ill pay everything,the main is we agree and plan it good,he is the one who decide when i can come and visit him....so really he has nothing to lose...and money is not the issue here....its me bec..im sad and dnt know what to do....

Ill pay everything ,and thats hurts me the most ..

...as far as I can talk about my relationship! Sure we have to redefine our communication, but it is a great opportunity to develop the communication between two partners. That's a chance most couples do not get and they will never develop higher than standard communication!

It was exactly the same with me and my girlfriend in the first weeks, though i answered her phonecalls and we make appointments for private time on the phone everyday. But you have to realize it is not running automatic, it is work. So finlyn talk with him about new impression and exiting experiences. share his daily life and impressions with him and try to understand him. If he realizes that you start understanding what he is talking about, you made it. For me the most horrible thing was that I didn't have a loved person to share all my exiting new experiences with.

Hope this helps!

r7... sure would make nice T-Shirts...

Heehee U r a really silly willy !!! Im sure it would make a real nice T-shirt :)

I should start a group for "bitter chicks " in Qatar. We can call it Chicks United Now Today or C.U.N.T LOL. :D

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Kinda get the feeling that there are a lotta 'bitter chicks' here on QL...

I say if he's ignoring you, you ignore him and don't come. He should appreciate that you're coming all the way just to be with him. Or, you can come anyways and just tour around, lol.

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Just because you read my posts, it doesn't mean we're buddies!

Long distance relationships never work out...leaving him alone will make him look for another girl or go wild. Good thing that you are coming here now so that he will be with you again...Lets just hope he doesnt break your heart when you get here!!

Good luck

Dump his A$$ then come and meet some of us other bitter QL chicks for a drink to take your mind off it. :D

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oh finlyn..

come here and see for yourself.

we'll hang out together with other ladies from QL, and he'll get a dose of his own medicine..

we'll keep you busy and we'll make his jaw drop.

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Once ur down here u'll get a clear picture of whats been going on and if he has'nt been straight with u dump hi a## ... Have a nice visit :P

I know how you feel and really it's confusing. You're at the point where you don't know what's gonna happen next.

Be strong, girl...and in case you need someone to talk to or just be there for you...andito ako. Send me a PM once you're here.

I think it sounds like you've got the jitters. Why don't you come and see how things are between you.

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you'll be coming on the event right?...the group can talk to you and provide personal advises (if that's what you want)...for now, focus on getting here...have a safe trip..

Who is paying for the ticket you or him?

the answer will define where you stand with him.

Did he ask you to come over? or did you just book the ticket?

If he isn't paying any money towards... read the writing on the wall... loud and clear - he just isn't that interested.

Silence means he has other things to do that are more important to him than you.

I think you already have 'a feel' of what things are like.

If he isn't delighted to see you and makes lots of poor excuses then it is time to move on to someone who will treat you right - but don't waste your time, money, emotion and energy on someone who isn't treating you right. You will feel rotten about yourself in the short-run and silly in the long run.

Dont come waste of time and money if he just cant answer ur calls than he really is not fair with u.Send him a msg ask him you need me or not.that will make it clear.

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I used to once believe that absence did make the heart grow fonder... but then i also questioned it... for whom does the absent heart wander?

In your case, maybe your man is getting aquainted with new people here and making friends... thats all a novelty when you're in a new place and yeh that maybe the reason he's kinda ignoring you... but it should be ok once you're here... you guys can hang out together.

If you feel there is some other reason, maybe you should have a talk and and ask him to get his priorities right.

Good Luck... and oh... the heat is on here so... beware!!!

Are you coming for good or just a visit?

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Well, finlyn, you're coming so that's good. You can get a firsthand feel of what things are like between you and he.

There are plenty of internet cafes so if you need to, get online and chat to someone on this site.

You're going into uncharted territory. That's very brave and something I respect.

Best of luck.