Marriage before love?

I beg to differ slightly with nice too nice.

The point of arranged is to bring two parties together for marriage arrangement. However, the guy and girl get to choose and decide if they want to go ahead with it or not unlike the traditional style of being imposed on them.

As Brit expat pointed out dating and time spent together is very limited.

I live in Delhi, in fact 90% of the friends that I know end up such that the girl or the guy already loved someone and then their parents meet each other parents to arrange for the wedding based on rituals and cultural proceedings

Times are changing in the new generation in India by a lot.

I do agree with nice too nice on one thing that divorce rate for arranged marriages is far less than love marriages because in India marriages are often considered bond between families and not just two individuals, so there is lot at stake.

I beg to differ slightly with nice too nice.

The point of arranged is to bring two parties together for marriage arrangement. However, the guy and girl get to choose and decide if they want to go ahead with it or not unlike the traditional style of being imposed on them.

As Brit expat pointed out dating and time spent together is very limited.

I live in Delhi, in fact 90% of the friends that I know end up such that the girl or the guy already loved someone and then their parents meet each other parents to arrange for the wedding based on rituals and cultural proceedings

Times are changing in the new generation in India by a lot.

I do agree with nice too nice on one thing that divorce rate for arranged marriages is far less than love marriages because in India marriages are often conisdered bond between families and not just two individuals, so there is lot at stake.

this movie is made by indian Director, Gurrinder Chadda...

n2n I agree with you on the divorce issue. I think generally ppl confuse the initial physical attraction with the opposite sex as love. In so called love marriages many of the other key ingredients that make a successful marriage are overlooked which then cause problems once the physical attraction has come down a few levels. Modern celebraties are a good example of this; they are always falling in and out of love.

Love takes time to develop and requires compromises to be made. So if you are still holding hands at 60+ then you are probably in love. :-)

lol, it sounded a bit like a porno to me......

No! TRhat was the English one.. They "copied" the title with a play on words..

isn't it Pride and Predjudice??

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I did not like that film at all - but I admire how the taboo on arranged marriage is used with good sense of humor on the commercials in India .Look at this clip:

Thankyou..So, it seems that it is a cultural norm..

Thexonic: Probably the same if he was loaded..

Most of the marriages in India happened to be arranged one where there is no dating prior to marriage and still there is no problem. The families are strong and the bond between male and female after the arranged marriages are more stronger and longer than the one it happened a lot of dating. Divorce is more in love marriages.....

Now I wonder what would have happened if Martin lawrance was in that movie hmmm...

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not just India, same with the majority here in Qatar.

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Well, if they were educated you'd probably had an aperitive with them. Maybe you met too many in a row

Well, if they were educated you'd probably had an aperitive with them. Maybe you met too many in a row. (Joking)

Having been to India on a few occasions (3) and met "educated" people, I found all to have had arranged marriages.. That's why I asked Bondowen the question..

Either my perception is wrong or his...

Where, brit, do you expect more educated people? In the rural areas or in the big cities?

Are you saying that the majority of girls and boys have a choice about who they marry ?? Do they date different people and decide on the basis of love !

Maybe or maybe not, brit. I just remembered an article in the Gulf Times stating that "illiterate men tend to be more stable" when it comes to uphold an arranged wedding. And it says:" More and more educated Qatari women choose divorce." So, at least for Qatar I would win.

But who cares. You are right.

Unfortunately, India being still conservative society to large extent, the practice still continues in rural parts of India. However, in cities the guys and girls know each other well before marrying.

In acute cases, the parties are arranged after which the guy and girl get to spend some time before marrying and make a decision.

I hope it answers this your question.

Its not neccssarily to do with education, but culture.. If you did the survey in China or India with two billion people where majority have "arranged" marriages , then you would lose..

If you would conduct a serious survey you would also find a strong "negative" correlation between this practice and the level of education.

Its a custom in many parts of Asia and also other regions.

The premise is that you get to know each other and love "blossoms"..

I am sure that it is true in many cases, however, i also think that its a hard thing to achieve, because you are not given choice..

All I know is that it's not like this in Europe.