IS IT OKAY?

lol karin... this 3 some never crossed my mind

are u suggesting 3some? lol j/k

SG: no, but sometimes being single is a blessing in disguise. and if youre happy about your life then that's it! no headache!

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your friend can talk with his gf n then both of u go n meet your ex to see what exactly is in her mind

I personally consider the situation challenging. Curiousity of what's gonna happen next, or any other motive only brings a good relationship into a risk. If he indeed is inlove (assume: when you're inlove you are happy), then why should there be a need to meet his ex. Past is past, and can only be cherished but not to play and failed again...

.... yeah! you're absolutely correct!

we learn from our own journeys in life. whether those experiences were good or not, still, those were experiences.

if we fall, just STAND UP! AND DELIVER!

.... if NO MEN, will we be here NOW? learning something from others?

so far i am not bored yet after i decided to become a hermit! lol

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.... Without MEN, LIFE is BORING.....lol

Men, men, men!

Life is much easier without them! lol

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... the fact that he confided to me on how to handle the situation, i think, he's not matured enough to handle it.

and, i wasn't mature also to tell to him outright not to entertain such invitingly-devilish ideas.

...thanks a lot. there's no better idea than the person who has sense.

and, you are one of those.

.... thanks. i do really appreciate your advises. my friend will be happy for all the advises....

"""""simplestguy90210

jassKat....

... It's okay.

Sometimes in our lives, we encounter situations that, consciously or unconsciously, we don't want to happen. But, the situation calls for it to happen.

It's just a matter of choosing the lesser evil.

I know that my friend made already a mistake to his present gf by just thinking the possibility to meet his ex. He's no perfect. He's sinful. He's just a human being.

"""""But, we have to give him also the benefit of the doubt.""""""

Just what does this mean?? Cheating is Cheating there is no benefit of the doubt. Cheating is not only the verb of "doing" it's an action that starts with the brain as you mentioned.

"Human Being" well so is his present girlfriend a "Human Being"and she deserves some respect from him and in my opinion someone better than him anyway.

There is no call for anything "we don't want to happen it will happen" - no not in this case, as 'he' is focused on playing with two women and he can control this it is very much under his "making things happen".

The mere call for 'understanding' for this person (not man) is offending - is he thinking of the feelings or the respect of either of these two girls? NO, you bet your bottom dollar he is only thinking about his own SATISFACTION.

... NOT ME. he's just a good friend.

that is true. Tell him to not make a mistake and focus on his current gf. Forget the past.

hmmmmm friend r u sure its your friend n not u

... It's okay.

Sometimes in our lives, we encounter situations that, consciously or unconsciously, we don't want to happen. But, the situation calls for it to happen.

It's just a matter of choosing the lesser evil.

I know that my friend made already a mistake to his present gf by just thinking the possibility to meet his ex. He's no perfect. He's sinful. He's just a human being.

But, we have to give him also the benefit of the doubt.

Sorry I just really have a problem with this guy.

He knows what he is getting into with meeting his ex- and what it could lead to. Why does he need to think about it? He either wants to cheat or he doesn't. If he didn't he wouldn't want to meet with his ex. It is that simple.

.... Please don't JUDGE him.

If he would want to meet his ex without thinking, he could not have confided to me his problem. Right?

Please give him a bit of respect.

If he even has to think about it he already knows what he wants to do. Now he just has to think about how to not get caught.

This guy just sucks.

.... to all who posted. I already told to my friend all your advises.

he's telling me, thanks a lot. at least, he's now thinking and weighing the pros and cons.

We say

"what goes around comes around" very simple.

All in Favor for a Class A Hijack of this thread ?!!

he's probably meeting with his ex because he has a cheater cock...lmao!!!

very simple my friend...everybody here in QL have the same ANSWER .

theres only one way...tell your friend to forget his ex-gf ....

let the sun shine only for your friend and his new -gf.

je t'embrasse !!!

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No matter what U (90210) or any 1 else says or any 1 else recomends here ur "Friend" will still do as he likes... Which is goin n meeting the Ex so he can get some ... When he's so confident tht he will y would'nt he ???!!!

Sometimes these posts r so ridiculous i know literally what each of the regular Ql'ers are gonna post as soon as im done reading the topic... !!!!

I wish I knew who this friend was so I could go kick him in his "head."

Then perhaps it is time for men to think with with their heads!!

That is no valid excuse for cheating and if he is so in live with his new girlfriend why is he still thinking of meeting with the old girlfriend??

There's a big difference in going out and cheating with someone because you were drunk or stupid and planning it. Planning it (in my opinion) shows a lot more disrespect to your current partner. I can forgive human error but not malice aforethought.

"I fight with love and I laugh with rage, you have to live light enough to see the humor and long enough to see some change." Ani Difranco

.... Your advise was way, way above of what I expected. You're such a revelation!

Thanks.

if they eventually end up with bed, then what can I do? I would not ask him "Ok, meet up with you ex and consumate it!"

You see, I am no hypocrite, consumating a relationship physically is a part of how relationship goes nowadays, it shouldn't be the basis of it but that's how it goes.

When you've gone to bed with someone and physically you had it done then there must be a connection (especially if you have a history together), I don't believe that it will be purely for lust.

And you are right, he should know who he really wants without engaging himself to "it" but we are not in a perfect world, my friend!

Is just not me holding someone so tight that he cannot figure out his own individuality and character!

Cheers!

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"I find it wholesome to be alone the greater part of time. To be in company, even with the best, is soon wearisome and dissipating. I love to be alone, I never find a companionable solitude"

At such times men tend to think with their dick head, not their head... lol!!!

you know what comes to my mind when someone is asking because a friend is in this situation?

Are you sure that you yourself ar not asking it? ;o)

Anyway, rough decision, but my personal opinion is: don't do it (whoeever of you!)That is silly! Instead he should talk with his current girlfriend if he has wishes, that's what partners are there for!

Tell your friend to GROW up. He knows exactly what he is doing, and he knows it is wrong. Just because he can, doesn't mean he should.

Sseems to me he doesn't really know where he is standing with the one or the other. The teasing part makes me think that there is still soemtning going on between them and that the relationship is not over. What would the new girfriend think if she finds out?????

simple, simplestguy90210, tell your fried to forget the meet up..else, he will have future problems not only with himself, with this girl but most specially the new girl in her life...better value the relationship that he has now...

if he still carry on with meeting this ex (and knowing for a fact that will lead into something) well he is up for a future headache and karma...:)

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You would let your boyfriend go sleep with his ex just to see if he still wants to be with you?

He should know WHO he wants to be with without having to have sex.

... I think, something more might happen during the meeting....

Simple the guys a dog. If he knows that the meeting is going to lead to sex then he should know better. If I was his current girlfriend I would kick him to the curb.

"I fight with love and I laugh with rage, you have to live light enough to see the humor and long enough to see some change." Ani Difranco

you should give this friend a low low nasty kick.

if my bf really needs to meet up with her ex and eventually end up in bed then I would say go ahead!

He should find out who he really wants to be with, meeting up with his ex would be more of a test to him, to the person he wants to be and to the person he wants to be with him.

To be honest, I will not encourage it but if he really needs to then go and I would ask one thing, when you come back to me, you better have an answer how it goes and how does he feels about it. Then I would have my reason to stay or let him go ;-)

I am not a jealous type of a gf!

Cheers!

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"I find it wholesome to be alone the greater part of time. To be in company, even with the best, is soon wearisome and dissipating. I love to be alone, I never find a companionable solitude"

... He was confiding to me that they'll just meet up. But, at the back of his mind, he knows, that it will lead to something more....

He should not even be thinking about her. If he meets up with her, he is going remember their times together and do something he will regret.

She is his ex for a reason and it should stay that way!

And why was he and his ex teasing eachother with what would happen if they met?? The only animal thing about that is he is a PIG. I bet if his current gf saw this she would dump his sorry butt.

Emotional cheating is still cheating

hmm i think she need ur hand plz procceed :D

simplestguy90210 tell ur friend back off and you sted forward and get her dont give up this is ur last chance man be bold and brave no problem if she slaps u or gives u a low blow nasty kick :D

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If he is in a new steady relation, he should not meet her. Specially if this is gone a lead to bed. Don't be so sure that it will be a one time thing. I have good relations with almost all my ex's but it never turns sexual. Move on man, don't go back!

"I would go anywhere as long as it is forward!" Johnie Walker

May the roof above us never fall in, and may the friends below never fall out!

what is his dilemma? meeting the girl behinds his new GF's back or something more might happen during that meeting?

hehehehe, sorry mind not filed up properly today..

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Wait a sec? Are you saying is it ok for this guy to meet up with and sleep with his ex girlfriend when he has a new girlfriend?

"I fight with love and I laugh with rage, you have to live light enough to see the humor and long enough to see some change." Ani Difranco