dont settle for a second wife.What is the use of having a husband if you cant have him everyday. One day in your house ,the next day to another house.What about on fridays ,whose gonna be with him.And here comes the parents who doesnt want you to be a part of their family. What a miserable life.Thank God I am out that situation anymore and Happily married now.
Samaya I do not regret not one single time my choice. Just having a bad patch at the moment, but nothing to do her being from the different culture. In fact we both come from western Europe but different countries, so the culture is the same I guess...
Anyway Love is blind and makes you do the things you never imagine. It is good to think with the heart but think with the mind also if you ever get a chance..Both have to work together otherwise can cause chaios..
Im glad you followed your heart, now i have to try and educate my Boyfriend to do the same... You only live once, would u prefer to keep your parents happy or yourself, bear in mind that ur parents have already almost lived... My situation is really hard though, its not just about me loving this guy to death, its about the way he is also already married... Has a 1 year old kid, made me do things u cant even begin to imagine... but yet i still want him... strange huh, funny how the heart works... but anyways im glad u followed ur heart and r with the woman thats in your heart :)
Yes been there done it. I was in a similar situation as you Smaya. But being a bloke I think I could decide. After the disaster of the first marriage I dated and ended up marrying a girl from a completly different culture. Yes my Dad was a bit like your Qatari Boy friends dad, but after being screwed by parents in the first time around I did not care and just went with the flow and against the norms, every body was unhappy at first but afterward they came around to accept my choice was about me and not them. So your parents are a good example. I strongly believe that if one can not make the sacrafice then he is or she is not worth it.
The probelem in a inter racial is how strong you are attached to your own culture, If you are open and broad mined you can accept the other fully otherwise it will be a compromise and will not work and you will loose the love and respect for each other. First respect and then love in this kind of situation..
I know i always cook British food for my "bedouin" Qatari boyfriend and he always looks at me like i just put dog food infront of him "Samya wheres the rice" "Wheres the meat" lool but i always make him eat it and he ends up enjoying it.. Just force ur husband to eat it, treat him like a child... You get this or u go 2 bed on a empty stomach :P
I put a fried dried fish on the table, you know what he did? He took a tissue and covered his nose saying "I dont know how you people eat this? like a smell of socks!" hahahahaaa
I'm sorry to my kabayans, no offence in this pls., but that is how other nationality comments to our famous dried fish/squids "TUYO & PUSIT" Mabuhay!:)
But you said the magic words... "You are Young"! You have your whole life ahead of you! It will be hard, but what is life isn't... and you will find another love soon! My very good friend was with a Qatari for 5 years, and eventually he married his cousin and wanted to continue the relationship with her... and now... thank God... she has another great guy and they are happy together.. she thought she would never find that kind of love again, but she did... and now they are on vacation together this year!... LOL
I totally know how u feel, i have a Qatari boyfriend who i love, weve been together 2 years, we travelled everywhere together, we go clubbing together, get drunk together he is really open minded but... he is from a bog family here and cant marry me because of this... We have sat and both cryed about this but he always says its because of his father... He wants 2 marry me and me 2 but it cant happen.. sucks :P but im still young so im sure i will also find my prince charming :) lets go looking together :P
Believe me i know... but unfortunately there are the few still around who will always go back to their traditions no matter what century we live in!!! But, i will wait for my Prince Charming.... to wisk me away... LOL...
I am a Filipina, but I dont have any problem in our cultural differences with my Arabic husband, could be because I am Muslim by birth? And the difference(if there is any) is very slim, which was easy for me to adapt to it. The only problem I faced to MYSELF is deciding WHAT food to prepare and HOW to prepare for it?
I'm not a good cook,:(( so my bad!
But to answer your question. In my opinion,... which good and which is bad has NOTHING to do with Nationality. Otherwise, there will be zero divorce rate in every nation?
I dont think it matters if the family approve or not... Its your life, you have to spend the rest of your life with this person not ur parents or your partners parents... i really get pissed of when i hear people dont marry their love because of their parents... My mums parents didnt talk to her for 2 years because she married a British man, but then they came to realise how happy my mum was and that he was a great man and now my grandparents are more open minded about the situation... We are living in 2008 now, times and traditions have changed.. Follow your heart.
It's true, your points of view is what this is all about! Tatess, you are also correct, as you experienced it! Unfortunately i too experienced it, and my husband has another wife and will be divorcing me for her as she has the kids and is turing them against him, and as someone mentioned earlier, family ties in the Arab region can not be competed against. It's hard for a man to marry and be happy with a non arab wife if the family does not approve!! But to all their own... I've seen so many of them survive, suffer, and happily ever after... wish the best to everyone! :)
.yeah ,it doesn't matter as long as there is love between the two.. but not all marriages weather interracial or same nationalitis are made in heaven no matter how much you love each other..
i didn't say all, i SAID "sometimes" And am not generalising it just talking from my own experience and yes ,I am fuly aware of the successful interracial marriages and one of them are your parents ang you were lucky to have this family .Hope we dont argue on that ,ok.
My mum is Moroccan and my Dad is British and they have been happily married for like 25 years.... My parents taughts us the best of both cultures, thats why i am proud of my arab roots, as well as my British roots...
are really indeed very lucky,but sometimes married wont last longer probably beacause of cultural differences especially if the wife is a non muslim.there are a ot of problems and pressures going on.Been there before and I tell you,its like hell.Good thing we end up in Divorce.Now I learned my lesson.
I think most inter-racial marriages would last longer than same race marriage. most of it depends on both partners. Arab men who marries non arab women, most of them are very lucky, as non arab women put more of an effort into the relationship and shower their men with love and attention, compared to arab women who don't care as they have the families here!
I strongly believe this world needs people who can make differences, and if the goal worth it all ...is better to die trying to get there!!! than live dying because you did not try it!!!
about etnic or religion..it was just curiousity because recently i met a really beautifull arabic muslim single woman (non local).... who really amazed me ... but i know is like building a casttle on a cloud ... something that is never going to happen..i am Christian.. she is Muslim.... so is like those things in Matemathics that can not happen ever....
Islam considers the husband head-of-the-family and therefore
requires that a Muslima cannot marry a non-Muslim because she will be under the authority of a non-muslim husband. He may prevent her from carrying out her religious obligations by either pressuring her or physically abusing her. But it is not the sole reason for imposing the restriction. The situation is considered very damaging for the woman to practise Islam afterwards and even worse for the kids in such marriages.
There are NO conditions mentioned under which a Muslim woman IS allowed to get married or remain married to a non-Muslim husband after she has accepted Islam.
Therefore, even if she has freedom to practise Islam after marriage, she is NOT allowed to enter into an inter-faith marriage.
..... And give not (your daughters) in marriage to
Al-Mushrikun** till they believe in Allah alone and verily a believing slave is better than a (free) Mushrik, even though he pleases you....[2:221] ** Al-Mushrikun=>Pagans, idolators, polytheist and disbelievers in the Oneness of Allah and in His messanger Prophet Muhammad SAW) - [[6]]
i mean in the states i know some couples of very different cases as an Arabic muslim man married to a Mexican christian woman, who did not converted ... a christian married to a jewish none of them converted to each other....
Any chances of a marriage within a christian man (from a non arabic country) with a muslim woman from an Arabic country...) ... living in an arabic country??
I've tried both and my current wife is from a different country- that works better for me, but is that because I am wiser or my wife handles me better ??
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dont settle for a second wife.What is the use of having a husband if you cant have him everyday. One day in your house ,the next day to another house.What about on fridays ,whose gonna be with him.And here comes the parents who doesnt want you to be a part of their family. What a miserable life.Thank God I am out that situation anymore and Happily married now.
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I like your way of thinking, i hope your coming tonight so i can sit a complain about my life 2 u loool :P
Samaya I do not regret not one single time my choice. Just having a bad patch at the moment, but nothing to do her being from the different culture. In fact we both come from western Europe but different countries, so the culture is the same I guess...
Anyway Love is blind and makes you do the things you never imagine. It is good to think with the heart but think with the mind also if you ever get a chance..Both have to work together otherwise can cause chaios..
Best of Luck
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HE WHO DARES WINS
Im glad you followed your heart, now i have to try and educate my Boyfriend to do the same... You only live once, would u prefer to keep your parents happy or yourself, bear in mind that ur parents have already almost lived... My situation is really hard though, its not just about me loving this guy to death, its about the way he is also already married... Has a 1 year old kid, made me do things u cant even begin to imagine... but yet i still want him... strange huh, funny how the heart works... but anyways im glad u followed ur heart and r with the woman thats in your heart :)
Yes been there done it. I was in a similar situation as you Smaya. But being a bloke I think I could decide. After the disaster of the first marriage I dated and ended up marrying a girl from a completly different culture. Yes my Dad was a bit like your Qatari Boy friends dad, but after being screwed by parents in the first time around I did not care and just went with the flow and against the norms, every body was unhappy at first but afterward they came around to accept my choice was about me and not them. So your parents are a good example. I strongly believe that if one can not make the sacrafice then he is or she is not worth it.
The probelem in a inter racial is how strong you are attached to your own culture, If you are open and broad mined you can accept the other fully otherwise it will be a compromise and will not work and you will loose the love and respect for each other. First respect and then love in this kind of situation..
Good Luck for the future...
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HE WHO DARES WINS
I think he prefer to fast for 1 whole month than to eat dried fish? lol!
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I know i always cook British food for my "bedouin" Qatari boyfriend and he always looks at me like i just put dog food infront of him "Samya wheres the rice" "Wheres the meat" lool but i always make him eat it and he ends up enjoying it.. Just force ur husband to eat it, treat him like a child... You get this or u go 2 bed on a empty stomach :P
It doesn't work with me:((((
I put a fried dried fish on the table, you know what he did? He took a tissue and covered his nose saying "I dont know how you people eat this? like a smell of socks!" hahahahaaa
I'm sorry to my kabayans, no offence in this pls., but that is how other nationality comments to our famous dried fish/squids "TUYO & PUSIT" Mabuhay!:)
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"A LADY IS A WOMAN WHO MAKES A MAN BEHAVE LIKE A GENTLEMAN" Russell Lynes
You are amazing... just keep the bottle near you!! LOL
Never say Never for fear of Forever!!
Sure thing!
But you said the magic words... "You are Young"! You have your whole life ahead of you! It will be hard, but what is life isn't... and you will find another love soon! My very good friend was with a Qatari for 5 years, and eventually he married his cousin and wanted to continue the relationship with her... and now... thank God... she has another great guy and they are happy together.. she thought she would never find that kind of love again, but she did... and now they are on vacation together this year!... LOL
Never say Never for fear of Forever!!
I live in West Bay, I am gorgeous, talented, slim and 78 years old. Interested!? Hic!
I totally know how u feel, i have a Qatari boyfriend who i love, weve been together 2 years, we travelled everywhere together, we go clubbing together, get drunk together he is really open minded but... he is from a bog family here and cant marry me because of this... We have sat and both cryed about this but he always says its because of his father... He wants 2 marry me and me 2 but it cant happen.. sucks :P but im still young so im sure i will also find my prince charming :) lets go looking together :P
Believe me i know... but unfortunately there are the few still around who will always go back to their traditions no matter what century we live in!!! But, i will wait for my Prince Charming.... to wisk me away... LOL...
Never say Never for fear of Forever!!
Men will eat anything u put infront of them... :)
I am a Filipina, but I dont have any problem in our cultural differences with my Arabic husband, could be because I am Muslim by birth? And the difference(if there is any) is very slim, which was easy for me to adapt to it. The only problem I faced to MYSELF is deciding WHAT food to prepare and HOW to prepare for it?
I'm not a good cook,:(( so my bad!
But to answer your question. In my opinion,... which good and which is bad has NOTHING to do with Nationality. Otherwise, there will be zero divorce rate in every nation?
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"A LADY IS A WOMAN WHO MAKES A MAN BEHAVE LIKE A GENTLEMAN" Russell Lynes
as long as you love the person.. dont care bout nationalities
I dont think it matters if the family approve or not... Its your life, you have to spend the rest of your life with this person not ur parents or your partners parents... i really get pissed of when i hear people dont marry their love because of their parents... My mums parents didnt talk to her for 2 years because she married a British man, but then they came to realise how happy my mum was and that he was a great man and now my grandparents are more open minded about the situation... We are living in 2008 now, times and traditions have changed.. Follow your heart.
It's true, your points of view is what this is all about! Tatess, you are also correct, as you experienced it! Unfortunately i too experienced it, and my husband has another wife and will be divorcing me for her as she has the kids and is turing them against him, and as someone mentioned earlier, family ties in the Arab region can not be competed against. It's hard for a man to marry and be happy with a non arab wife if the family does not approve!! But to all their own... I've seen so many of them survive, suffer, and happily ever after... wish the best to everyone! :)
Never say Never for fear of Forever!!
.yeah ,it doesn't matter as long as there is love between the two.. but not all marriages weather interracial or same nationalitis are made in heaven no matter how much you love each other..
I was just putting my point across, that i dont think it matters at all who u marry, as long as its for love, like my parents...
i didn't say all, i SAID "sometimes" And am not generalising it just talking from my own experience and yes ,I am fuly aware of the successful interracial marriages and one of them are your parents ang you were lucky to have this family .Hope we dont argue on that ,ok.
My mum is Moroccan and my Dad is British and they have been happily married for like 25 years.... My parents taughts us the best of both cultures, thats why i am proud of my arab roots, as well as my British roots...
are really indeed very lucky,but sometimes married wont last longer probably beacause of cultural differences especially if the wife is a non muslim.there are a ot of problems and pressures going on.Been there before and I tell you,its like hell.Good thing we end up in Divorce.Now I learned my lesson.
I think it's exciting!! You get to learn each other's cultures and without even knowing it, you're slowly adapting to it!
I say lekke lekkeeeeeeee!!!1
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I think most inter-racial marriages would last longer than same race marriage. most of it depends on both partners. Arab men who marries non arab women, most of them are very lucky, as non arab women put more of an effort into the relationship and shower their men with love and attention, compared to arab women who don't care as they have the families here!
Never say Never for fear of Forever!!
Really depends on the indiviaul and how you understand and deal with the inter racial marriage, I was more comfortable with interracial marriage...
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She is a gift, and one that needs nurturing, Love wills many things, but this is one that is pleasant beyond knowing.
She is the best, which is the best she can be, so that is amazing, and wonderful, and among other things, a blessing.
I Love you Goatty!
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I strongly believe this world needs people who can make differences, and if the goal worth it all ...is better to die trying to get there!!! than live dying because you did not try it!!!
Who knows...LOVE is a God gift!s.....
wolfman
be carefull
i've got a "truce-pact" with my GF:
" - Honney, please dont eat me!"
she is from a cannibal tribe somewhere in Africa!
Take care!
wolfman
Try both then decide
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about etnic or religion..it was just curiousity because recently i met a really beautifull arabic muslim single woman (non local).... who really amazed me ... but i know is like building a casttle on a cloud ... something that is never going to happen..i am Christian.. she is Muslim.... so is like those things in Matemathics that can not happen ever....
wolfman
What the heck it's wrong with...romanian girls?
Take one and get married, bro!
That was funny ...
wolfman
i am a damned vampire...not a muslim ..:)
No more questions... even though i think different...
Tks
wolfman
Islam considers the husband head-of-the-family and therefore
requires that a Muslima cannot marry a non-Muslim because she will be under the authority of a non-muslim husband. He may prevent her from carrying out her religious obligations by either pressuring her or physically abusing her. But it is not the sole reason for imposing the restriction. The situation is considered very damaging for the woman to practise Islam afterwards and even worse for the kids in such marriages.
There are NO conditions mentioned under which a Muslim woman IS allowed to get married or remain married to a non-Muslim husband after she has accepted Islam.
Therefore, even if she has freedom to practise Islam after marriage, she is NOT allowed to enter into an inter-faith marriage.
..... And give not (your daughters) in marriage to
Al-Mushrikun** till they believe in Allah alone and verily a believing slave is better than a (free) Mushrik, even though he pleases you....[2:221] ** Al-Mushrikun=>Pagans, idolators, polytheist and disbelievers in the Oneness of Allah and in His messanger Prophet Muhammad SAW) - [[6]]
Why?? is it forbidden ??
i mean in the states i know some couples of very different cases as an Arabic muslim man married to a Mexican christian woman, who did not converted ... a christian married to a jewish none of them converted to each other....
why is not possible??
wolfman
storming:
NO!
But is curiousity...
Any chances of a marriage within a christian man (from a non arabic country) with a muslim woman from an Arabic country...) ... living in an arabic country??
wolfman
hahahah ok fine flan
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eventually that said rockin ass will droop :)
if she's got a rockin arse who cares about nationality.
Its better to marry someone that you love and want to spend the rest of your life with regardless of the nationality....
it would take 100% commitment and love too :)
But I would keep my nose so to hold my sunglasses up...
I can't believe anyone take me seriously one here..
I thought people know me by now...
Oh well...
You can't teach experience
I'm filipino in my heart 100 percent...
So I get credit for 50 percent...
Plus the black hair...
:)
You can't teach experience
Veggy, and may i ask, which exactly half of yours is filipino??
family / cultural / religious ties are!
You can't teach experience
First Let Me Try than I will post comment here in QL.
First Let Me Try than I will post comment here in QL.
Understaning*
i believe,, it depends on their love, understand, compromising, sacrificing etc etc...
I've tried both and my current wife is from a different country- that works better for me, but is that because I am wiser or my wife handles me better ??