Date with a Woman…

living.qatar
By living.qatar

Date with a Woman…

After 21 years of marriage, my wife wanted me to take another woman
out to dinner and a movie.. She said I love you but I know this other
woman loves you and would love to spend some time with you.

The other woman that my wife wanted me to visit was my MOTHER, who has
been a widow for 19 years, but the demands of my work and my three
children had made it possible to visit her only occasionally.

That night I called to invite her to go out for dinner and a movie.

'What's wrong, are you well,' she asked? My mother is the type of
woman who suspects that a late night call or a surprise invitation is
a sign of bad news.

'I thought that it would be pleasant to be with you,' I responded.
'Just the two of us.'

She thought about it for a moment, and then said, 'I would like that
very much...'

That Friday after work, as I drove over to pick her up I was a bit nervous.

When I arrived at her house, I noticed that she, too, seemed to be
nervous about our date. She waited in the door with her coat on.. She
had curled her hair and was wearing the dress that she had worn to
celebrate her last wedding anniversary.

She smiled from a face that was as radiant as an angel's.

'I told my friends that I was going to go out with my son, and they
were impressed, 'she said, as she got into the car. 'They can't wait
to hear about our meeting'. We went to a restaurant that, although not
elegant, was very nice and cozy. My mother took my arm as if she were
the First Lady.

After we sat down, I had to read the menu. Large print. Half way
through the entries, I lifted my eyes and saw Mom sitting there
staring at me. A nostalgic smile was on her lips.

'It was I who used to have to read the menu when you were small,' she
said. 'Then it's time that you relax and let me return the favor,' I
responded.

During the dinner, we had an agreeable conversation - nothing
extraordinary, but catching up on recent events of each other's life..

We talked so much that we missed the movie..

As we arrived at her house later, she said, 'I'll go out with you
again, but only if you let me invite you.' I agreed.

'How was your dinner date?' asked my wife when I got home. 'Very nice.

Much more so than I could have imagined,' I answered.

A few days later, my mother died of a massive heart attack. It
happened so suddenly that I didn't have time to do anything for her.
Some time later, I received an envelope with a copy of a restaurant
receipt from the same place mother and I had dined.

An attached note said: 'I paid this bill in advance. I wasn't sure
that I could be there; but nevertheless, I paid for two plates - one
for you and the other for your wife. You will never know what that
night meant for me.

I love you, son.'

At that moment, I understood the importance of saying in time: 'I LOVE
YOU!' and to give our loved ones the time that they deserve. Nothing
in life is more important than God and your family. Give them the time
they deserve, because these things cannot be put off till 'some other
time.'

By twenty• 1 Oct 2009 16:28
twenty

good one

By Victory_278692• 1 Oct 2009 15:59
Victory_278692

with Parents, children prefer to live happily without interventions and nags. Again it is more to do with social culture and tradition, where the concept of joint families are almost disappeared and nuclear family is become more popular.

By phoenix2009• 1 Oct 2009 15:18
Rating: 3/5
phoenix2009

Hey living.Q, naza3ta;) you blew it;)

Living with parents after marriage is as good as AL Qaeeda possession of nukes:) it's horrible.

Yalla!

By anonymous• 1 Oct 2009 15:18
anonymous

wew! so true!

By mzain• 1 Oct 2009 15:13
mzain

.......well am reading it for the first time.......and must say its really touching.....thnx for sharing......

.........n Victory bro!!.......sorry to hear abt ur mom.......May Allah give her a high place in Jannah!!........Ameen!!.......

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..... why worry and have wrinkles...when u can smile and have dimples :o) ......

By leilany2• 1 Oct 2009 14:50
leilany2

For so many, it's very difficult to live with Mother in-laws,sister/brother in-laws in one roof most of the time there's a friction among them.

By living.qatar• 1 Oct 2009 14:43
living.qatar

i wonder why people dont live with their parents after marriage?

in my country, people still live with their parents after being married.

By phoenix2009• 1 Oct 2009 14:08
phoenix2009

I admit that this is almost the longest topic i had patience to read on QL, I read it many times before, yet still good to have it again, thanks LQ.

Yalla!

By living.qatar• 1 Oct 2009 13:55
living.qatar

we pray that your dad wud recover very soon, inshallah.

By leilany2• 1 Oct 2009 13:50
leilany2

I agree with you.

By wacky_baby• 1 Oct 2009 13:27
wacky_baby

i have read this before but still...it never failed to touch my heart. especially since the past grueling 2 weeks that my Dad had been in the hospital for heart ailment. It broke my heart that i wasn't there and scared me out of my wits but Thanks God he's doing fine now :)

By yv2r• 1 Oct 2009 13:16
yv2r

Very good help for the parents bcoz u dont know when their last day on earth.

But I would like to remind u another thing ,do we know when will be our last day on the earth,what condition we may die,which place we may die.

so i sugest not only for the parents,let us also get ready to receive the last day with love,lets us prepare ourselves.

By ajinpt• 1 Oct 2009 13:06
ajinpt

I've read it a thousand times,, but never get bored of it .. Infact, its soo touching and soo goood,, u knw wat i mean,,,

---If you can't CONVINCE them, CONFUSE them!!!

By leilany2• 1 Oct 2009 12:54
leilany2

That's why I'm doing the best that I can give to my parents and to my family as well....coz you'll never know when will be their last day on earth...

By tinay2285• 1 Oct 2009 12:34
tinay2285

its a good repost though as lots of comments here telling that they have read at the first time. such a good story. :)

By living.qatar• 1 Oct 2009 12:16
living.qatar

May Allah give her a high place in Jannah, Ameen!

By Victory_278692• 1 Oct 2009 12:13
Victory_278692

brought tears into my eyes....

I had lost my mother over 15 years back, shocking departure, no sickness, first heart stroke....

Parental Love is the ONLY selfless love on earth.

May Allah give her a high place in Jannah, Ameen!

By living.qatar• 1 Oct 2009 12:10
living.qatar

i also agree with you. its good to have repeating good things rather than usual bullshits posted by some Qlers... the story really touched my heart and thought of sharing with others... its good to see that still there are people who love their mother even in this generation...

By veena hareesh• 1 Oct 2009 12:03
veena hareesh

it was really touching.

By 91rockjah• 1 Oct 2009 11:19
91rockjah

this just made me miss my mom badly again. my mom passed away 3 years back after battling with cancer. i wish i had the chance to take her out like the guy did in the story. never take for granted the times spent with those you love, especially (ESPECIALLY) those of your own family. like they say, you never really know what you got till it(or he or she) is gone.

Live. Learn. Love.

By one_shot• 1 Oct 2009 10:38
one_shot

thanks for sharing

very touching

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"It could be a picture

It could be a medicine

it could be a bullet

depends on how you see it"

By anonymous• 1 Oct 2009 10:23
Rating: 4/5
anonymous

It is not the amount of stuff you do but the quality of what you do. It is easier for a camel to go through the eye of a needle than a rich man to enter the gates of heaven. Good on you! My Mum is 3500 miles away and we both love the few days we get to spend together.

By anonymous• 1 Oct 2009 10:20
anonymous

right brit...whenever it's one of our QL member's mother's bday, they re-post it.

By yv2r• 1 Oct 2009 10:12
Rating: 4/5
yv2r

its beter than all bulshit threads discussed. Value of mother is great,we get every thing on face of earth but not the mother

By yv2r• 1 Oct 2009 10:07
yv2r

very true, last week my mom celebrated her87th birthday, couldnt join all my family back home,watched online live the celebrations.

By britexpat• 1 Oct 2009 10:06
britexpat

I wonder how many times this has been posted in the last six months ?

By anonymous• 1 Oct 2009 10:05
Rating: 4/5
anonymous

Sorry to say ---- but I feel u are unlucky person because you are going out with mother only for date --- no dear we all have to care to mother and father -- how they care when we was at 1 to 10 years

Dear

Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 17 Surah Bani Israel verses 23-24:

Your Lord has enjoined the following: You should not worship anyone but Him Alone! Treat your parents with great kindness; if either or both of them attain old age, do not even say ‘uff’ to them; nor rebuke them; but speak to them kind words. Treat them with humility and tenderness and pray, “O our Lord, be merciful to them, just as they brought me up with kindness and affection in my childhood.”

Sahih Muslim Hadith 6189 Narrated by Abu Hurayrah

Allah`s Messenger (saws) said: ‘Let him be humbled into dust! Let him be humbled into dust!’ It was said: ‘O Allah`s Messenger (saws), who is he?’ He (saws) said: ‘He who sees either of his parents during their old age or he sees both of them, but he does not enter Paradise (through his deeds of service towards them)!’

Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 4.248 Narrated byAbdullah bin Amr

A man came to the Prophet (saws) asking his permission to take part in Jihad. The Prophet (saws) asked him, "Are your parents alive?" He replied in the affirmative. The Prophet (saws) said to him, "Then exert yourself in their service."

With reference to above check where u are and what u did for your mother -------Or Only date???????

Sorry Agian

By janeyjaney• 1 Oct 2009 09:55
janeyjaney

Wow. That's a good read. Almost ended up quite teary-eyed there.

The internet is our revenge machine

By drsam• 1 Oct 2009 09:47
drsam

lucky u have ur parents near u.

god bless u all.

Oh, people can come up with statistics to prove anything, Kent. 14% of people know that.

By GodFather.• 1 Oct 2009 09:41
GodFather.

Very touching and so true.. Wish we all could have this luxury of spending time with our love ones far away from us..

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HE WHO DARES WINS

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