Another stupid statistic or reality ???

THE honeymoon period is officially over two years, six months and 25 days after a couple ties the knot, researchers say. At that point, both partners take each other for granted and get lazy.
Seven out of ten men start leaving socks and pants around the house, and 79 per cent leave the toilet seat up.
Meanwhile two thirds of women no longer dress up for their husbands, and 54 per cent don’t bother with make up.
John Sewell, of onepoll.com who carried out the survey, said: “Couples still love each other, but are a little too comfortable in each other’s company.”
well-said!the churlish clay-brained pumpion! x-(
Keep smiling!
Saggi!
The biggest problem why marrige goes stale is down to ´change´.
The woman always hopes the man will change after marrige and he never does.
The man always hopes the woman will not change after marrige and she always does
just eat another pie
Threads like these make me realize why I'm never getting married. :P
You know not all men complain about this stuff after marriage. The sensible ones are a lot more realistic and prefer their women to be casual. I think thats the best thing about marriage, is that you reach a level where you are comfortable with each other. Personally my hubby hates the make up where he says women natural beauty is much better that a face with paint on.
you addressed her Dear Camilia instead of conniving Camilia
LOL.....perrrrrfect name for the hag!COW!
Keep smiling!
Saggi!
200x panadol everytime i open this thread...hahahah(gottah! overdose)
everyone have a point of view! excellent!bravo!
Be yourself and live free
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HE WHO DARES WINS
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HE WHO DARES WINS
Hey guys more money would help
A maid
A driver
a car
enough for weekly appointments (massage, shampoo and blow dry, pedicure, manicure, facials)
enough for well cut stylish clothes
some jewels ( i love diamonds and emeralds)
Botox, boob lift and tummy tuck after babies
A dietician
And fitness membership
Give me those things and I'll look like a million bucks in high heels and a see through top
I take umbrage at your use of the word "cow" to describe dear Camila.
They say that love is blind....
LOL Eco... but you are right eh
cheers all
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Heard your wife left you,
How upset you must be.
But don't fret about it...
She moved in with me.
she used that word didnt she? oh yeah they think Cow's are egg head
"So you would prefer a pretty well dressed mrs.britexpat to a no dress mrs.britexpat? For what? To keep in your show case? Well all men are not like u britexpat!"
If given a choice between well dressed and no dress, then I'll go for the well dressed..
Like women, we men like to be pampered and doted on..
Charles ditched her for cow
Thanks for the advice.. Its appreciated..
No wonder she is contributing to the stupid statistic.. If we dont change does mean the world wont..lol
Let her pamper herself. There is a plastic surgery place here in Doha.. Once she feels better about herself you reap the rewards...lol
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HE WHO DARES WINS
brit..i'm sure u have... besides i'm nobody to comment on ur life...live n let live...
I dream of a better tomorrow where Chickens can cross the Road without having their motives questioned - Unknown
Really? So you would prefer a pretty well dressed mrs.britexpat to a no dress mrs.britexpat? For what? To keep in your show case? Well all men are not like u britexpat!
I dream of a better tomorrow where Chickens can cross the Road without having their motives questioned - Unknown
I would have you know that I have kept Mts Expat under the pedestal since we've been married.
If she is not happy with herself she will not bother.. So guys give your credit cards to the wives and let her look good for herself.. Once she does that you enjoy the benefits..
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HE WHO DARES WINS
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HE WHO DARES WINS
hmmm...forget it! LOL
Should look neat and fresh... and have a good smile (even if you are pissed off) on your face when your spouse gets back..:)
I think the care you showup for your mate that matters otherwise the bulges gained over time are hard to cover up! give time to yourself to keep fit... that will be a bonus to your partner..
And worst for ladies is.... before they get married, their vital stats was 35-25-37 after 2 years, 6 months and 25 days, 37-36-40... why is that happening?????
No time for GYM... but plenty of time eating... :)
" AN END DOES NOT JUSTIFY THE MEANS"
once again, the ladies , rather than agreeing, try and put the onus on the dear old menfolk.
Someonenew..... WE DO!
Why dress up? I dont think guys care abt the dress anyway:)
I dream of a better tomorrow where Chickens can cross the Road without having their motives questioned - Unknown
the sectarey or other female workers..lol
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HE WHO DARES WINS
A woman will dress up to go shopping, water the plants, empty the garbage, answer the phone, read a book, and get the mail.
A man will dress up for weddings and funerals
That's quite a hefty task. Considering you don't get help at home (for the housewives), these should be on your list as a daily routine:
1. Wake up, wake kids up
2. Make breakfast
3. Take kids to school
4. Do errands - groceries, etc
5. Chores to do at home
6. Pick the kids up
7. Snack time for the kids
8. Prepare dinner for hubby and kids
9. Get the kids ready for bed
...
I'm not sure about the rest but it seems to me that with all those things to do, juggling it together with keeping yourself 'pretty' for your husband would be quite a task and a half to do.
I'm not saying it's impossible but we should give them housewives credit.
The internet is our revenge machine
the guy shud feel like coming back to his wife,right?not steer clear of the person who smells of the kitchen all the time!coz afterall,men will be men.and whether my dear feminist friends accept it or not,a huge role goes to women in keeping the relationship alive.if we play our part well,the man will play along ;-)
Keep smiling!
Saggi!
why 'get ready for the husband'?why can't attempts be made to remain fresh at all times?
Keep smiling!
Saggi!
Talking of the majority of wives sitting at home..
Story of a typical Expat non working mom (actually does more than if she was working)..
Gets up early in the morning freshin ups.. Wakes the Kids and gets them ready make their lunch and breakfast.. Then drives them to school.. Comes home joins the ladies for coffee morning or goes to do the shopping nearly time to pick up the kids again..Picks the Kids up and then start preparing the Tea..
O yes forget to mention the Husband in all of this...He gets up gets ready and goes to work in an office and returns home in the afternoon..
Now consider who has been more busy .. So no wonder she has no time to get ready for the Husband.. Plus we people in west see our husband wives as friends and just another person we live with.. But some cultures as mentioned above by Brit see their Husband as God..So no wonder they get ready..
So the concluding remark is that unless you a Qatari lady with 3 maids at your disposal you have not time to get ready for your Husband..
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HE WHO DARES WINS
Remove the toilet seat all together..
oh,well!maybe.....but that lady was naturally so pretty.wonder why her husband expected her to do something like that.....if he did,it's wrong from his part.coz she is genuinely a very pretty woman and certainly doesn't look her age.
and anyway,the husband knows what the wife looks even without make-up.....i just feel looking fresh,a neat dress and (as you said)a good shower can do magic! ;-)
Keep smiling!
Saggi!
you can say that again saggi....
Ahh some ladies...........
They put so much make espcially the Foundation thing, they look like a bloody GHOST or a MAKE Up shop ...
Which i would prefer thy look better with it ...:(
See, now you're applying your own values. We all have different ways / means of ensuring the success of our marriage.. For her, this may work..
I was close friends with an Indian Doctor in Riyadh, Saudi Arabia. His wife ensured that when he arrived home from work, she would be showered , made up and nicely dressed to greet him. We may not agree with it, but it worked for them and they were both very happy.
i know how uncomfortable it can get with so much makeup on your face that it can be possibly caked out!i've seen some of my cousins sweating profusely for weddings with all their heavy bridal make-up on.many of the parlors forget to apply water-proof make-up and the whole thing starts dripping onto the bridal trousseau once the flash lights are switched on right onto their faces,making the bride look like she could do with a breath of fresh air!LOL.....
Keep smiling!
Saggi!
exactly saggi... i mean, what for? dont get me wrong, i do use make-up but just enough to make me look nice and presentable...no use putting on heavy make-up, sometimes they just tend to cover the real beauty... and besides, too much make-up makes my face itch...
i once had this neighbor who used to spend half an hour in front of the mirror before her husband returned from work dolling herself up!she had three full grown kids and she literally used to look a trifle silly with all that burgundy lipstick and blush-on!whoa!
Keep smiling!
Saggi!
true, saggi....i prefer smelling good and looking fresh rather than getting all dolled-up make-up and all, and ending up looking like some kind of Barbie or Bratz doll... natural beauty works best for me...
being all dolled-up is different from just smelling good and looking fresh.....i'm sure women can afford that.i know that filipinas are that way.i've interacted with a lot of filipinas and i can testify that no matter how hard a day they've had at work,not a single one of them smell bad.they always smell of fresh cologne.and that is to be definitely appreciated.
Keep smiling!
Saggi!
lol rizks,..
IZ Janey A Pheamale ....then i can be HER PREND ...:)
Well Geisha's dont chop garlic & onions do they?
Agree with notfromhere completely.
I dream of a better tomorrow where Chickens can cross the Road without having their motives questioned - Unknown
Labda, that's Brit for ya...always stirring up trouble on QL...
Omar.. hats off to your never say die attitude...
lol Rizks.... janey's looking for prends.....
Gypsy's right, you can't be dressed up and made up all the time. And it's nice to have a husband who still loves you, even though he knows what you look like without makeup!
I remember early in our marriage (long before I "let myself go", lol) my husband commenting--rather wistfully it seemed-- how back in the good old days, his aunt was always in full makeup etc etc when her husband came home from work, blah blah blah
Ok. She didn't work. In fact, she had servants. She wasn't minding the kids, she sure as heck wasn't driving them to school or running out to look for supplies for their school project due tomorrow. She wasn't cooking. She wasn't cleaning.......What else did she have to do all day besides fuss with her hair and makeup?
Poor DH...it didn't take long for reality to set in :-D
Gypsy, Omar seems so smooth, dont be shy now, go on gurl!
notfromhere, Iv just taken a look at my nails, absolutely disgraceful! This is all Britexpats fault...Im fretting about everything now. lol
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No Female Sheeps here to be my PREND ???....:(
pathetic....
What happened Omar left Novi? Now Gypsy is it?
I dream of a better tomorrow where Chickens can cross the Road without having their motives questioned - Unknown
lol,.if you're looking for frendhsheep, try your luck with liveliher---something, her username goes like that, she was looking for prends few days ago, she'll even give you her number.... ;)
Nice Try Omar ..........:)
i think he's planning to stalk you gypsy...
how are you? well if its ok with you can you tell me in which company here you are doing job here in qatar?? :)
There you have hit the nail on the head..
What is wrong with cooking dinner in stilletos and lace apron.. It can only liven up the "partnership"..
You can't dress up all the time, or leave your make-up on all the time. Lord knows when I get home from the office it's off with the stillettos, skirts and mascara, hello track pants. I'm not about to cook dinner dressed in what I wear out.
Don't dream...some of this Q ladies are cheating their husbands even if they have cover on the face!!! The world is not what looks like!!!
oops, better go put on some lipstick....
i wouldn't exactly testify that they have very satisfying marriages just coz they "smell awesome"......taking into consideration the alarming number of extra-marital affairs and divorces prevalent here....
Keep smiling!
Saggi!
I suggest that QL ladies attend classes to learn from the Qatari ladies in order to please your menfolk and enhance the marriage..
I suggest that QL ladies attend classes to learn from the Qatari ladies in order to please your menfolk and enhance the marriage..
and the Qatari women too.....not a hair out of place!and all of them smell soooooo good!
Keep smiling!
Saggi!
UkEngQatar, it's true man the locals can really dress up, its admirable.
mjamille ;)
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lol you said it right labda!! btw, good morning to you too...
I think , jeans, T-Shirt and track suit bottoms have a lot to answer for..
I must say, i too am impressed with how smartly most locals dress.
Svelte_saggi... It works both ways.. Many ladies also "let themselves go" after marriage, especially after children come into the equation..
blame it on peer pressure,i say.newly married men hear tales of woe from their peers and subconsciously start feeling that perhaps their new brides will also tread the same path later on.so try as we might,if we falter even a little bit,their thoughts will go haywire and they too will join the bandwagon of sob-story tellers.then it's a vicious circle.....they start telling lies to go out with friends,we lose our trust in them,and so on and so forth....
Keep smiling!
Saggi!
I can confirm that from the British point of view.. can anyone from Qatar (Qatrai prospect say that).. You can smell a Qatri guy or Lady from at least 10 to 20 meters away.. May be we should investigate and could learn from our host here what makes them dress up??
I might be wrong about the dressing up as you cannot see behind the curtain..but definately half a bottle of purfume is definately spent on every outing...
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HE WHO DARES WINS
Lol someonenew, to be honest I think its the men folk who begin to let relations falter. Keep it up girlies! ;)
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Mornin labda! Wassup? Oh MJ n I were havin some fun bashin the men folk:)
I dream of a better tomorrow where Chickens can cross the Road without having their motives questioned - Unknown
brit....thanks!glad you agree with me :-)
labda....that was exactly my point too.no matter what happens,keep the 'flame' burning....
andrews...i do take light things lightly and serious topics seriously.it's just that not that i'm like a few people out here who take just about everything as a joke and try to find humour even at the news of a murder or something of that sort.
Keep smiling!
Saggi!
svelte and brit you're right! Too many couples let the fire die out. What's the point of being in a relationship if you can't make the other person feel loved like he/she has never been loved before? Set your bar high. Spoil them, why not?
Good morning someonenew and mjamille ;)
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Sagi..hmmmmmm.....some topics need a lighter approach ..I thought so...& Its ur prerogative
Well said.. Agree with you 100%.
The main issue is "taking each other for granted"..Also, after marriage, sometimes, both men and women let themselves go, because they feel that it is not neccessary to make the effort any more.. This needs to be understood and addressed..
it should not be taken as an statistics for others. Different cultures have different habits. I don't know what particular group of people do these things, just wondering, do you think this statistics is prevalent in the west or western men? just asking?
"dgoodrebel will always be the rebellious good one"
i don't like walking about with my funny bone clenched between my teeth at all times,like many people here.QL is (according to me) a place where people can exchange their ideas.and that's how i'll take it too...i hope i answered ur question.
and btw,i understand hindi quite well.a translation was not necessary.thank you.
Keep smiling!
Saggi!
lol rizks, as of now, i got the monopoly on panadols....
Saggi.. thum har bath ithana serious kyom lethi ho???
(Y u r so serious)
thanks!i am somebody who takes relationships very seriously and (though i may sound like a bore) i hate poking fun at one's partner.as for me,he's a part of me and i'd do anything to keep our love alive for the rest of our lives :-)
i have always said that ur partner must be given as much importance after marriage as he/she was given before it.many people fail to do this....leading to bored marriages,wherein couples just stay together under one roof for the sake of it.i know i'd give my partner gifts and surprises even after 50 years just the way i do now...of course,giving gifts is not a measure of love.it's just to keep the relationship as fresh as it is now.i've seen my parents do the same way and (touchwood) they both are still soooooo in love with each other. :-)
Keep smiling!
Saggi!
lol Jamille ..........
Now dear, no one can compete u, unless otherwise they get PeanaDols from China ...:)
Mj..for the timebeing one truck load will do...
Where all d guys hav gone...Men bashing is going on for quite sometime..
andrews, i think im the panadol supplier here.... unless of course i got competition now.....how many truckloads you want?
yeah someonenew, tell me about it...maybe sometime, they might want to swap jobs with the wives just to get the feel of it...
shhhhhhh...Headache...Where is our Panadol supplier........????
How did they manage before, marriages held a lifetime, now now there are less troubles and less harwork, now wahsing sheets etc. by hand and on the scrubbing board, did they wear make up then HUH. The man was the bread winner and he took care of his family and went for a beer once a week.
As if we don't have enough to do they expect us to clean up after them.
Wow Saggi, you are a true philosopher.
However, did you all know that 78.261% of statistics are just made up on the spot....?
Comeone now wats the fuss abt ??
Decide fast whos gonna clean my dirty socks, pants and etc. etc ...?? :)
Oh MJ dont botherr they just dont get it... and then they'll complain that we nag!
I dream of a better tomorrow where Chickens can cross the Road without having their motives questioned - Unknown
and btw, picking up dirty socks and pants all around the house,..not my idea of romance, that's what laundry baskets are for.. come on guys, surely you can do better than that huh?...
the basic problem lies in taking each other for granted...and then self-neglect.i've heard many of my friends telling me,"oh!now what's the need to buy pretty dresses or new lipsticks?i'm married now".....that is oh so wrong!i just cite one example to them....
why does a cow/bull go in search of fresh pasture?coz it is not getting the grass it needs from it's own farm/meadow.if you give it only hay,it will yearn for fresh grass and try to move away from where it is.on the contrary,if you take extra efforts to grow fresh grass in your little backyard with a little love and care and fertilizers,the cow/bull won't go anywhere.it'll stay back comfortably....coz it knows it's owner and has a comfortability level with him/her.
i guess it's easy enuf to correlate the situation of marriage with this example.
Keep smiling!
Saggi!
tara u stole THE WORD out of my mouth.
I dream of a better tomorrow where Chickens can cross the Road without having their motives questioned - Unknown
lol, brit,.. i think there are other better ways to keep us busy, dont you?
Laziness
Don't tell the missus, but the reason we do these things is to initiate a communications exchange and also keep the ladies busy..
lol someonenew, dont forget about the toilet seat,.. coz it's always been a puzzle why "most" men find it hard to put the toilet seat back down after peeing.... :P
keep balance in life, give some privacy to partner, let her/him alone for a while.. hopefully this will enhance the chances to meet again with a a new enthusiasm..
lol,.. i dress up for my man all the time...
Yeah u sidetracker-dont-want-to-aim n-fire-brit... what abt the bit abt men leavin their socks and pants all around the house?
I dream of a better tomorrow where Chickens can cross the Road without having their motives questioned - Unknown
The post got side tracked.. I think we were talking about ladies dressing up for their men and keeping the marriage alive..
Now wats all this toilet seat, pee bla bla Early in the Morning ??
Didnt u guyz had ur Breakfast YET ?? :(
Thats the spirit. Actually I never really asked my wife to do anything. She takes care of herself "look wise" and I do the same, although I seem to be falling terribly behind in that department.
As for everything else in our 5 years of marriage, I can sum it up to one word "Compromise", thats how we get by the little stuff and focus on actually living with each other and not assigning roles :-)
War...War never changes...
eewww.....
forget aobut leaving the toilet seat , some man dont even flash after pee..lol
I dont live with example..Reather I prefer to be an example!
dress up or not ,make up or not,my husband says I am beutiful any way.
lol,.. i think men has been leaving the toilet seat up since way before they were married....
Another answer is perhaps to sit down and pee....
Also I think the default position of the toilet seat is down, men have been blessed with equipment to aim and fire, they should use it once in a while.
I dream of a better tomorrow where Chickens can cross the Road without having their motives questioned - Unknown
Amen.
cheers,
paul
Shucks britexpat I truly feel sorry for your wife.
I dream of a better tomorrow where Chickens can cross the Road without having their motives questioned - Unknown
Good information.. So we can plan for the divorce after two years, six months and 25 days! then have another two years, six months and 25 days with fun.. lol :)
-- F L A M M A B L E --
I think the troubling statistic is women not "dressing up" for men..Mrs Expat refuses to wear the latest PVC gear I bought her..
well I can understand. Life is so hectic after marriage and well my husband doesn't give me enough money to take care of myself.
Of course he'd say I am an overdemanding housewife
You going to the Camp tomorrow???
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Lol Baldrick... I totally agree with you.. (hhmm.... now just waiting for some ladies here to answer bald Q's)
Cheers all
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Heard your wife left you,
How upset you must be.
But don't fret about it...
She moved in with me.
Then why can't women learn to leave the seat up for men?
Surely Marriage is a partnership, not slavery ;o)
Did you Google it first?