Is marriage really all that sacred?

Marriage has always been sacred. The sanctity (no such thing as sacredness) of marriage has never been dependent on rites (civil or religious) but on vows that each party makes during solemnization.

Sanctity of marriage has nothing to do with society's acceptance of divorce, because the latter is private while the former is universal. Each couple may have valid reasons to separate, reasons for which only the couple, in their private capacities, may validly raise in accordance with civil law or cannon law. The sad reality, however, is that children are collateral victims of the couple's decision to separate, and this effect permeates into the children's moral and psychological well being.

I congratulate the people who actually truly know themselves enough to be able to find that person, that soul mate, and hold on him/her forever...

I congratulate the people who actually truly know themselves enough to be able to find that person, that soul mate, and hold on him/her forever...

think of the hostility his/her parents can put to each other, when they lack love for each other. The kids will grow up in a tense environment. As a daughter of divorced parents, I'm telling you, I think of the arguments my parents had, and the tension, and all of that garbage... I'm just glad they put an end to it, and eventually, their relationship became a better thing for all of us, as they remained good friends with each other.

And I'm an extremely happy person, so happy that you (who thinks that children with divorced parents are unhappy) wouldn't believe it....

Because this life is a journey, Zhyiellha, and the purpose of this journey is to find ourselves and what truly makes us happy. Meaning that most of our lives we're trying to define ourselves, our lives and personalities. We find someone, we fall for that person, the way that person is, at that stage of his/her life. But we all change with time, our priorities change, our tastes change too. What I like today I may not like tomorrow. But that's how we are, we humans are constantly changing.

So, you might find that this wonderful person you once married, has now turned into someone who does not quite fit whit the "ME" you are right now. Or vice-versa. It doesn't have anything to do with religion, or with values. It's human nature, some can overcome it, some just can't.

I do believe that marriage is sacred, at it's moment, while love can last (1 year-forever).

It should be. You make a commitment to each other , but its easier said than done.

Been fortunate myself.. Her indoors has put up with me for 25 years now :)

As for me marriage is totally sacred. The art is to find the right partner of course. But staying in a marriage that doesn't work? No way. Somehow I think ppl get married to easily as divorce is made to easy.

the 10 commandments and quran were written up when the average life expectancy was much lower so both books need a slight update.

therefore 2 maybe 3 marriages should be permissible these days.

Well, now a days people are focusing only on self. Although there shud be bond between man and woman but that's not the only world. Think about the child who suffered from the separation of his/her parents just by silly reasons. Think! and you will know what i mean to say. Of course this is just an example

ur absolutly rite its true n fact

First was totally horrible, a rude and aggressive man. This time it is for keeps.

This one is for keeps as we LIKE each other, let alone the love.

then why you marry that person at the first place? as what they've said, if you love someone, then you are willing to sacrifice... right shoeaddict?

Stonecold -- if i marry someone,then i will try my best to make the relationship last....

" Successful people are not Gifted, they just worked hard and Succeed on Purpose...."

is divorce an answer to a loveless marriage?

another question-do you think youll stay in a marriage if it is ridden with heartbreak and tears?

Zhyi, if you knew the answer, then I pressume that you are planning a divorce yourself? smile

Yeah I know the answer.... I'm posting this to hear the side of other people.. . . .I believe in sacredness of marriage, thats for sure!!! IF they agree on my opinion that I have posted to you, then its good. Thats only on my side Amoud..

I want to hear your side and other peoples comment, that's my point.. It's not the ending word that I answer it...

" Successful people are not Gifted, they just worked hard and Succeed on Purpose...."

Well, when we say sacredness, we assume it's related to religion. A marriage is sacred when done and followed according to their own religion. Hence, even though there is no love/whole-heartedness in marriage it could be classified as sacred. This sacredness will eventually lead into creation of long lasting families which are building blocks of society.

A sacred marriage will look beyond satisfying only a pair. It will take care of parents, children, neighbourhood, and overall society.

Nope. In some sect of christianity, it is ..till death do us part. No matter unto what you wanted to divorse, it is never honoured.

zhyiellha, perhaps you should have worded your question a little differently. You specifically asked "Question ask-- In a society where Divorce has become the Norm, Is marriage really all that sacred?" putting the importance on divorce and sacredness.

I also find it funny that you answered your own question with only one post on the topic :)

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The sacredness of marriage has nothing whatsoever to do with the divorce rate or having already a preconception that you end up with a Divorce: you make YOUR marriage sacred by wholeheartedly giving yourself to your partner, taking responsibility for the relationship, and creating all the love you can.

What other people do is irrelevant to the sacredness of the marriage itself. This is as it always has been: marriage has never been more sacred than the parties involved make it.

I just ask this question coz I know, in the Society nowadays, people are all DOING the same thing... If they no longer happy with there partner, they end up having divorce...

" Successful people are not Gifted, they just worked hard and Succeed on Purpose...."

I guess if you go into marriage with the preconception that it will end in divorce or that divorce is the norm and probably inevitable then I assume that marriage wouldnt be sacred would it?_____________________________________________________

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